Boondock said:You can't read a book to become confident. It's about doing stuff.
Hope4hairRedux said:I have argued this before - confidence is not purely an internal issue. Confidence in most people's cases is related to their enviroment. if they are good looking, rich, famous or something desirable, then people are likely to elevate them and obvoiusly treat them better than usual. So this creates confidence - its the cycle between external and internal.
treeshrew said:Hope4hairRedux said:I have argued this before - confidence is not purely an internal issue. Confidence in most people's cases is related to their enviroment. if they are good looking, rich, famous or something desirable, then people are likely to elevate them and obvoiusly treat them better than usual. So this creates confidence - its the cycle between external and internal.
Very true. I have one extremely attractive friend who is always hooking up with new girls every weekend, just a constant rotation. He gets comments on his MySpace page from complete strangers saying "oh, you're so cute".
Obviously this would create extreme confidence, even arrogance, in anyone, which it certainly does in him. Positive reinforcement based on his complete luck at having been born as an attractive male.
It's not fair. Just like the big horn sheep born with tiny, gnarled horns get owned by the other sheep and never get a chance to mate.
Oh well, that's how life is. You can still be confident, and I strive to be, but there are definitely external factors that play on confidence.
uncomfortable man said:People still stare, point, smirk and laugh at me when I go without a hat. What kills me is I know that if I had a full head of hair, all this torment would stop. People would see me as a normal person