Any incel sufferers here?

[CaptainForehead]

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Involuntary_celibacy

 

[LooseItAll]

Me for sure. Too shy for women, even those interested in me(does not happen often now). With every year it gets tougher as you are so much less experienced then your peers, with higher expectations on your shoulders.

 

[resu]

Well I don't have any money plus my libido is very low (sometimes non-existence) so it's not a worry for me to not date presently but I don't have issues with women.

And no, I'm not on finasteride, my libido just vanished.

 

[uncomfortable man]

Woah, if I had only known about this term twenty years ago. I have the opposite problem you do Resu... I'm always horny. I can summon wood like a teenager and believe the meaning of life can be experienced briefly in that moment nutting. But too much and it drain your lifeforce, literally. Ironic that the more you reach for that nucleus of life, that nugget of eternal meaning, the faster you die.

 

[Exodus2011]

Woah, if I had only known about this term twenty years ago. I have the opposite problem you do Resu... I'm always horny. I can summon wood like a teenager and believe the meaning of life can be experienced briefly in that moment nutting. But too much and it drain your lifeforce, literally. Ironic that the more you reach for that nucleus of life, that nugget of eternal meaning, the faster you die.

goddamn it let me rep you for this

as someone who has looked at 2-3 hours of p**rn daily for the past few years this is so true

a lot of the times i just wanna infinitely have sex (well all i can do is the next best thing, masturbate) forever haha. i swear when you c*m its like you say, its the very meaning of the universe 0_0

but also you are right, ive done some heavy bating in the past few hours (i just got internet back) and i feel pretty damn drained and down . . . .

 

[CaptainForehead]

UC Man, but you have a girlfriend who takes care of your sexual needs....

 

[DannyBoyy]

UC Man, but you have a girlfriend who takes care of your sexual needs....

Exactly i understand he dont want to be bald cause of "society" but he has a girlfriend/wife and a kid...and is still complaining if i was him i wouldnt give two ****s.

 

[Quantum Cat]

maybe he's afraid his wife will leave him if his Norwood gets any higher

 

[Quantum Cat]

but if you are happily married with kids, hair isn't as important as it is when you are young and on the dating game. You're not trying to attract women any more, and if you are, then you're cheating on your wife.

And if your wife says she won't love you if you go bald, then you should divorce the b**ch anyway.

 

[zeroes]

UC man is paranoid and imo he and his wife don't have a great relationship. He has already admitted cheating happened on both sides and while he denies it I think he wants action on the side and he thinks he can't have it because of his hair loss.

 

[uncomfortable man]

That was easily over ten years ago (the cheating incident). Don't presume to know everything about the dynamic of a couples relationship you don't even know.... over the internet. Your opinion, Zeroes is misinformed. I am happy with my wife and the life we have together. Of course we both could be making more money but when it comes to sex, my wife will tell you herself that she is very satisfied with our love life.

 

[Quantum Cat]

what does she say about your hairloss? does it bother her as much as it does you?

 

[zeroes]

My opinion is based on the fact you can never admit your paranoid. Your signature along with a string of comments on here lead me to believe you're far from in a happy relationship.

Regardless believe what ever helps you sleep at night.

 

[Islander]

Extremely true, Fred. Sad, but true.

 

[uncomfortable man]

My opinion is based on the fact you can never admit your paranoid. Your signature along with a string of comments on here lead me to believe you're far from in a happy relationship.

Regardless believe what ever helps you sleep at night.

Well there is a divide there. Within the walls of my home I am insulated with love and safe from such superficial judgements, so while it is true that overall I am very unhappy with being bald, within the context of my relationship with my wife/child I am blessed because they are my refuge from an otherwise cruel world. But they know how I feel about my insecurity and I would be lying if I said that my feelings never impacted my family life. But hey, what is life if it is not dealing with problems?

 

[HairGuru22]

Fred bringing the cold truth!

 

[DoctorHouse]

What's you point zeroes? It doesn't matter regarding hair loss if you're in a happy relationship.

Let's imagine that you meet a beautiful girl, settle with her, marry her, have kids etc. At that point, you should have accepted being bald and moved on right? Well, absolutely not in fact, you will still see the same reflection in the mirror. I'm not deluded, being bald is ugly, there is no other way to look at it. How could you accept saying to yourself "I'm OK being ugly now!".

I hate how I look right now and no amount of happiness in my life or with my girlfriend, and no amount of success in my future career could change that feeling of extreme sadness when I see myself with a diffuse Norwood 5 in the mirror.

Fred, you definitely have been dealt with a bad set of hair genes. But you have to look at the blessings you were dealt and focus on them. I know acceptance is the hardest thing to achieve when the mirror shows your true reality. You have proven you have the power to overcome these obstacles by having a pretty normal sex life. Most guys with your situation may have such severe social anxiety that they never can have any type relationship with a women and could remain a virgin for a very long time.

I don't think going bald with a good looking face is going to make you "ugly". If you are considered ugly to begin with, then hair or no hair, you are ugly. However, I would say 99 percent of the men in this forum would never be considered ugly with or without hair. Older looking yes but ugly no.

My advice, don't let society "control" you. You don't have to look a certain way to get society's approval. You are in control of your life and how you live it. You can live it as happy balding man or a miserable balding man. You have the power to chose either path. I regret the choices I have made but I can't change them. I live in the now. I live every day with regret and a dream to find some time machine to do my life over. I have to push those regrets out of my mind and focus on what I do have because I am not going to get a "do over".

The only way I find happiness is to surround myself around people who are mature and positive. The only reason why I post on this forum is to try to save someone who still has their youth from going down the wrong path of life and living a life of misery and regret. Maybe some how some of my posts will impact someone to realize everyone has the power of happiness within and they just have to learn to use it.

Fred, stop hating the image you see in the mirror and start loving the person deep inside you who is funny, charming and intelligent enough to realize you have do options. You already know a hair transplant is one of them. Focus on your girlfriend and less on yourself. You can't change your genetics but you can change your attitude. I remember the Fred who used to make videos on here and exude happiness and confidence. He loved the way he looked. Find that guy again and bring him back. I thought your videos were very entertaining.

 

[Islander]

So, where is that magical switch that can make you happy? I only laugh when there is something funny. If you're diffuse thinning as a young man - there is always that little stress about hair loss. Don't say I don't want to be happy, I just don't think I can now. And If I remember correctly, DrHouse, you're solid NW2 in your late 20's something?

 

[DoctorHouse]

So, where is that magical switch that can make you happy? I only laugh when there is something funny. If you're diffuse thinning as a young man - there is always that little stress about hair loss. Don't say I don't want to be happy, I just don't think I can now. And If I remember correctly, DrHouse, you're solid NW2 in your late 20's something?

Your memory serves you wrong, but my situation has nothing to do with Fred's. The magical switch is in your mind. You need to create it. If you can't, you are right, you will not be happy.

 

[DannyBoyy]

Fred, you definitely have been dealt with a bad set of hair genes. But you have to look at the blessings you were dealt and focus on them. I know acceptance is the hardest thing to achieve when the mirror shows your true reality. You have proven you have the power to overcome these obstacles by having a pretty normal sex life. Most guys with your situation may have such severe social anxiety that they never can have any type relationship with a women and could remain a virgin for a very long time.

I don't think going bald with a good looking face is going to make you "ugly". If you are considered ugly to begin with, then hair or no hair, you are ugly. However, I would say 99 percent of the men in this forum would never be considered ugly with or without hair. Older looking yes but ugly no.

My advice, don't let society "control" you. You don't have to look a certain way to get society's approval. You are in control of your life and how you live it. You can live it as happy balding man or a miserable balding man. You have the power to chose either path. I regret the choices I have made but I can't change them. I live in the now. I live every day with regret and a dream to find some time machine to do my life over. I have to push those regrets out of my mind and focus on what I do have because I am not going to get a "do over".

The only way I find happiness is to surround myself around people who are mature and positive. The only reason why I post on this forum is to try to save someone who still has their youth from going down the wrong path of life and living a life of misery and regret. Maybe some how some of my posts will impact someone to realize everyone has the power of happiness within and they just have to learn to use it.

Fred, stop hating the image you see in the mirror and start loving the person deep inside you who is funny, charming and intelligent enough to realize you have do options. You already know a hair transplant is one of them. Focus on your girlfriend and less on yourself. You can't change your genetics but you can change your attitude. I remember the Fred who used to make videos on here and exude happiness and confidence. He loved the way he looked. Find that guy again and bring him back. I thought your videos were very entertaining.

Well said *claps*