Any incel sufferers here?

[elephant_knight]

What's you point zeroes? It doesn't matter regarding hair loss if you're in a happy relationship.

Let's imagine that you meet a beautiful girl, settle with her, marry her, have kids etc. At that point, you should have accepted being bald and moved on right? Well, absolutely not in fact, you will still see the same reflection in the mirror. I'm not deluded, being bald is ugly, there is no other way to look at it. How could you accept saying to yourself "I'm OK being ugly now!".

I hate how I look right now and no amount of happiness in my life or with my girlfriend, and no amount of success in my future career could change that feeling of extreme sadness when I see myself with a diffuse Norwood 5 in the mirror.

Damn! Fred is slowly falling into the dark side...

 

[uncomfortable man]

Your memory serves you wrong, but my situation has nothing to do with Fred's. The magical switch is in your mind. You need to create it. If you can't, you are right, you will not be happy.

This is a little too cryptic for my taste. This isn't the Matrix. Not to say that your advice isn't sound and that it shouldn't be disregarded completely based on the fact that you don't know what it is like to be bald (nw1.7 @ 40). Your advice sounds good generally but you lack the specifics of how we go about not letting ourselves be controlled by societies messages/conventions and perceptions. How does he stop hating his appearance? It would take some aggressive deprogramming. Would you know how to go about doing that, specifically? If so, then please share your insight with those of us who need to be re-wired but if not then you are merely passing out an empty gesture and propagating PC rhetoric.

 

[DoctorHouse]

This is a little too cryptic for my taste. This isn't the Matrix. Not to say that your advice isn't sound and that it shouldn't be disregarded completely based on the fact that you don't know what it is like to be bald (nw1.7 @ 40). Your advice sounds good generally but you lack the specifics of how we go about not letting ourselves be controlled by societies messages/conventions and perceptions. How does he stop hating his appearance? It would take some aggressive deprogramming. Would you know how to go about doing that, specifically? If so, then please share your insight with those of us who need to be re-wired but if not then you are merely passing out an empty gesture and propagating PC rhetoric.

UM, I can honestly tell you its almost impossible to turn on the happy switch all the time but as long as you focus on something or someone other than yourself is one big step in the right direction. I am sure when you are focusing on your daughter and your wife instead of yourself, you are more content. Am I wrong? He may never stop hating his appearance but he does not have to stop at every mirror to reinforce his problem. I am not saying he is doing that either. Trust me I fully realize a stranger like me is not going to have any major impact on his or your feelings about yourself. I just think as long as you focus on the blessings around you, you won't have time too much to focus on yourself.

As far as society conventions, anyone can chose to ignore them and detach yourself from people who are negative, toxic or cruel. I know that may not be your style but its mine. Anyway, I accomplished what I set out to do for Fred. I got appreciation and gave him encouragement. That was my only goal for posting what I posted. UM, you are a tough nut to crack. Fred on the other hand seems more positive than you and therefore still might just be able to accept his fate and live a very happy life. I am not saying you could not accomplish the same thing but I have read his posts and your posts and Fred seems less bitter. My post really was solely for Fred as I always liked his attitude and videos when he first came on this forum. He was one of my favorite posters on here. I liked his confidence.

As far as knowing what its like to bald, I don't know what its like but after reading countless posts on here, I certainly feel empathic for those who are suffering. I do know what its like to have low self esteem and no confidence though. I know what its like to suffer from BDD and insecurities, social anxiety, and horrible acne. How did overcome this, I used education and self help books along with people who are very emotionally spiritual to overcome most of these afflictions. Do I regress, yes I do. However, most of the time I live in the now because only when I live in the past or future do I tend to regress. For the specifics you requested UM please read the Power of Now by Eckart Tolle for the insight you should embellish with open mind and open arms. Baldness is only a situation, its not a problem. You seem to have made it your problem. So many people have learned to treat baldness as a situation instead of problem. Happiness is an inside job. You either want the job or not. Its up to you rewire yourself the way you want to be. I am glad I can rewire myself enough to enjoy whatever time I have left as life can be gone in an instant. If this is even more cryptic than my last post, it only proves mysteries can only be solved by those who seek answers from those who have solved them. Peace out UM.

 

[WorkHardPlayHard]

goddamn it let me rep you for this

as someone who has looked at 2-3 hours of p**rn daily for the past few years this is so true

a lot of the times i just wanna infinitely have sex (well all i can do is the next best thing, masturbate) forever haha. i swear when you c*m its like you say, its the very meaning of the universe 0_0

but also you are right, ive done some heavy bating in the past few hours (i just got internet back) and i feel pretty damn drained and down . . . .

Check out yourbrainonporn.com. I'm always horny, and have to wack it a couple times a week, but it sounds like you're going a little overboard. How do you even have time to watch that much p**rn a day? haha.

 

[DoctorHouse]

Fred, thanks for sharing and being honest about who you were and are today. I wish I was able to do that at such a young age. You obvious found a way to rewire yourself to be a very happy man right now. Hopefully your story will inspire others on here to overcome similar situations.

 

[ScarredOne]

but if you are happily married with kids, hair isn't as important as it is when you are young and on the dating game. You're not trying to attract women any more, and if you are, then you're cheating on your wife.

Wait until you are old, bald, and divorced. You will never get a woman.

 

[Primo]

Wait until you are old, bald, and divorced. You will never get a woman.

What a pathetic human being! Talk about bitter and twisted.... Just because you got some dodgy hair transplants and they f"@ked up, no need to take out your bitter vitriol on fellow balders. Absolute cretin, you deserve everything you get with lame ****ty attitude like that.

 

[ChrisW1980uk]

What a pathetic human being! Talk about bitter and twisted.... Just because you got some dodgy hair transplants and they f"@ked up, no need to take out your bitter vitriol on fellow balders. Absolute cretin, you deserve everything you get with lame ****ty attitude like that.

Spot on Primo! He's been banned twice before as Scarred4Life and Scarhead. He's a 50 year old guy who was complaining that he couldn't get hot women half his age! It's not like he could if he had a full head of hair anyway. Plus, when a woman did want to go on a date with him, he didn't go through with it. His reasons were that she must begold digger or wanted a free meal. So he's more than a little disingenuous in what he says!

He was rightfully banned for some disgusting homophobia, claiming that gay men were like paedophiles, and that there was a gay agenda on here!! A thoroughly nasty piece of work who should be banned again, and his diatribes ignored! The homophobia came out as he was desperate for BBSA to be allowed back after a ban. Guess he wanted somebody else just as bitter on here as him!

 

[Quantum Cat]

I always imagine scarred4life resembling Blofeld from You Only Live Twice

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Plus, when a woman did want to go on a date with him, he didn't go through with it. His reasons were that she must begold digger or wanted a free meal

she was a golddigger? Who is he, Paul McCartney? :doh:

 

[ChrisW1980uk]

Just speaking the truth. It wasn't directed at the poster, but to everyone in general who is bald. You seem bitter because you fear what I say is true. Being mad about it will not change it. You will see some day.

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I don't know what you are talking about. You are another guy with hair who comes here to taunt bald guys. You are either a troll or fear losing your hair and can't stand to hear what is in store for you. Do you try to get everyone banned who doesn't agree with you?

Nope just homophobic bigots like you, who have already been banned twice!

 

[ScarredOne]

Nope just homophobic bigots like you, who have already been banned twice!

Why do you keep saying this to get people banned who you don't agree with? You must really be worried about your hair loss to be afraid to hear what others have experienced. This denial and putting your head in the sand. Where did I ever say anything about homos?

What about you threatening to kill multiple members here who don't agree with you?

 

[Thom]

I know a few bald guys, homely average looking, who have pretty wives. And no they're not rich.

I think the majority of those claiming otherwise on here are the difficult types who would never notice problem with themselves to begin with. They never care to fix bad character because they want to think everyone else is the problem. Victim mentality.

 

[ChrisW1980uk]

So you're not Scarred4life or Scarhead then Scarred?You just happen to be a DIFFERENT 50 year old who is bald with bad transplant scars and a penchant for saying all hope is lost?! Yeah right, you're not fooling me. Plus don't refer to gay people as "homos". I don't want people banned who disagree with me, just bigoted messed up scum like you...

 

[Primo]

Just speaking the truth. It wasn't directed at the poster, but to everyone in general who is bald. You seem bitter because you fear what I say is true. Being mad about it will not change it. You will see some day.

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I don't need you to patronise mate, i've been balding since 17, now 26, long face, massive forehead and a totally disintegrated hairline, I know what it's like to look young and "unaesthetic" and I deal with that reality on a daily basis, evidently much better than you given your desperate history of dodgy hair transplants.

The fact that you still chase after girls half your age when your 50,and somehow think that at your age, you still deserve their attraction and visual approval shows how delusional you are.

Like Ucman says there's a difference between wanting to just be normal and fit in (like most bald guys do) vs wanting to look perfect... You chased the shallow vanity dream of looking perfect and going out with girls much younger and much better looking than yourself, at the expense of everything else in your life... but the indulgent vanity project backfired and all your left with is some sh"tty hair transplants for all that energy, effort and expense.

It's no wonder your bitter after all that, but that doesn't excuse you taking out all your personal bitterness on this forum in an unobjective, withering attempt to scare other young balders, most bald guys just aren't as shallow and retarded as you when it comes to priorities in life.

They will make better choices than you, have more sensible and mature priorities and live much happier and infinitely more fulfilling lives than you, despite the ever present hardships of baldness, and as a shallow 50 year old man looking back on your life with so many regrets I guess it must really burn inside to see that, hence all the bitterness on this forum.:gay2:

 

[DannyBoyy]

I know a few bald guys, homely average looking, who have pretty wives. And no they're not rich.

I think the majority of those claiming otherwise on here are the difficult types who would never notice problem with themselves to begin with. They never care to fix bad character because they want to think everyone else is the problem. Victim mentality.

Exactly couldnt off said it better but what do i know im delusional and to narrow minded...i suppose i have to be like them and moan >__>

 

[ChrisW1980uk]

Well seeing as the admins are happy for scarredone to stay, and ignored my reports and stopped me from negging him, I hope they return the favour and stop him from negging me...

 

[Quantum Cat]

I can't neg him either. it might mean he's banned

 

[ChrisW1980uk]

The plot thickens, he still shows as a member. Weird, but if I've made a false accusation towards the mods, then egg on my face and an apology in order...

 

[DannyBoyy]

Couldn't off?! For god's sake DannyBoyy.

Wow i was on your ignore list long huh? you miss me fred? nawwww.

 

[Islander]

Exactly couldnt off said it better but what do i know im delusional and to narrow minded...i suppose i have to be like them and moan >__>

Looks like I've hurt your feelings with my remarks? You remember it word by word like a heartbroken teenage girl. I forgot I was supposed to go easy on you. But I just can't stand your types - Pseudo-Intellectuals. I am not really a moaning loser, I don't see only black & white on this forum like you do. I like DrHouse or QuantumCat, even though they are on the same "be confident and try to don't give a ****" train. But at least they are able to articulate their points and make their posts interesting, like they were written by adults. Nobody really seems irritated or moaning here right now, except you. And it's "too* narrow minded" not "to* narrow minded", since we are still on the subject of correcting each other.