Anyone Else Feel Like They Will Never Be Happy Again?

[hairblues]

Yes indeed, people care mostly about themselfes, this is nothing new. But accepting balding because no one cares is, mehhh, if I allready had established a family with the my dream girl I wouldnt care if i went bald when I was 25 or 65(Almost wouldnt care tho). But when ur young and are nowhere near this kind of life, and then balding kicks in and destroys ur life, I would never give this kind of advise of "just letting go". Reality is that attractive girls dont want a baldie, so u have to lower ur standards. Only reason u dont want to loose ur hair is because it destroys ur chances with the opposite sex.

Is it really just that though?

I mean i think if i slapped a wig on 9 out of 10 men would not care as long as it was a good wig and looked great...but I would care--i would have that image in the mirror when I would inevitably have to take if off even if no one ever saw me except myself.

 

[SmoothSailing]

Today I saw one programme on T.V about baldness and hair transplant.

At the ending,40 year old NW0 anchor said in my language that roughly translates to "lets join to make India Bald Free".

Still it was not enough to make me sad.
I have decided to improve in other aspects than concentrating on things that are not in my hand.


I don't know what is the exact English word but sometimes some guys react in opposite direction.

On one side,if someone says,it's just hair,come on bro,move on! and we say they don't understand baldness.
On the other hand,when someone jokes on baldness,we feel bad for baldness comment.
We are not open to accept that baldness sucks in public.
I have read multiple posts about like i don't care for baldness.

I want to mention two things that made me rethink about my baldness woes:

My close relative said to me:
In this fast pace world,no one has time for thinking about the other person.
All have to deal with their own life troubles and your hair loss trouble is nothing in front of their own personal trouble.

And other was posted by one female friend in her About me of Facebook profile that roughly translates:
"We are so engrossed in to looking beautiful by doing makeup but
those who care about us don't care about how we look,
and those who don't care about us,our looks won't matter to them
This is 100% reality.


Sorry for bad grammar as its really difficult to translate regional language phrases for me.
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Do what you want and say what you feel because those who mind don't matter and those who matter don't mind.

Great quote in my opinion, although unfortunately pretty girls do matter to me, and most of them do mind if I don't have hair.

But anyways exo I feel for you. Just remember that there's a lot more to life. The best moments in my life have been having a laugh with my mates, no time with a girl has given me that kind of happiness. One thing I've always been thankful for is my ability to shut off my background worries from time to time, I believe this is something anyone can achieve. I've never meditated but I believe this can be helpful, or some other passion. To be truly distracted is the aim. If you spend everyday the same smoking weed and playing video games etc. You will eventually get bored and your background worries will surface.

Life is cope.

 

[TylerDurdenn]

Is it really just that though?

I mean i think if i slapped a wig on 9 out of 10 men would not care as long as it was a good wig and looked great...but I would care--i would have that image in the mirror when I would inevitably have to take if off even if no one ever saw me except myself.

Why care? If there was only men in the world, would you use ur time and money on minoxidil? Finasteride? Hair transplant???? One sex in world, would mean NO ONE WOULD CARE ABOUT LOOKS, unless ur gay

 

[kj6723]

Why care? If there was only men in the world, would you use ur time and money on minoxidil? Finasteride? Hair transplant???? One sex in world, would mean NO ONE WOULD CARE ABOUT LOOKS, unless ur gay

If there were only men in the world, we would all resort to homosexuality, as evidenced by prison culture

So even then looks would end up mattering

 

[TylerDurdenn]

This would work for me, I doubt inmates get this kind of stuff

 

[hairblues]

Why care? If there was only men in the world, would you use ur time and money on minoxidil? Finasteride? Hair transplant???? One sex in world, would mean NO ONE WOULD CARE ABOUT LOOKS, unless ur gay

You are kidding right?
yes i would still use minoxidil, i would still shave my armpits, get waxing, get facials manicure pedicure etc.
I don't do that all for men lol I do it because I am vain and like what I see in mirror.
i don't even feel human if i don't blow out or style my hair..I mean I don't sometimes but I don't like it.

 

[hairblues]

If there were only men in the world, we would all resort to homosexuality, as evidenced by prison culture

So even then looks would end up mattering

In Oz they would even start styling hair and doing makeup for each other lol.
(Chris Maloney made man on man action HOT)

 

[hairblues]

This would work for me, I doubt inmates get this kind of stuff

That is so creepy I would take a human of same gender over that thing or its male equivalent. I mean can't you guys just get something similar to a vibraror or didlo but of the pussy--why a whole 'person'?
She looks like from a horror film.

 

[resu]

No, apathy has overshadowed ever other emotion. It's over.

 

[SmoothSailing]

You are kidding right?
yes i would still use minoxidil, i would still shave my armpits, get waxing, get facials manicure pedicure etc.
I don't do that all for men lol I do it because I am vain and like what I see in mirror.
i don't even feel human if i don't blow out or style my hair..I mean I don't sometimes but I don't like it.

Couldn't give a f*** about my looks if there were no women to woe.

That is so creepy I would take a human of same gender over that thing or its male equivalent. I mean can't you guys just get something similar to a vibraror or didlo but of the pussy--why a whole 'person'?
She looks like from a horror film.

Wanking is as good as any current toy or doll for me. Whole person gives you something to actually f***, I guess.

 

[TylerDurdenn]

You are kidding right?
yes i would still use minoxidil, i would still shave my armpits, get waxing, get facials manicure pedicure etc.
I don't do that all for men lol I do it because I am vain and like what I see in mirror.
i don't even feel human if i don't blow out or style my hair..I mean I don't sometimes but I don't like it.

What are you? A girl or a trans? If there was no one to impress sexually, we would take care of our bodies in a more practical and easy way. But for me, I cant understand why anyone would care about looks, when there is no hope for reproductian via sexual intercourse. Hygiene, of course, would still be important.

 

[hairblues]

What are you? A girl or a trans? If there was no one to impress sexually, we would take care of our bodies in a more practical and easy way. But for me, I cant understand why anyone would care about looks, when there is no hope for reproductian via sexual intercourse. Hygiene, of course, would still be important.

I am woman born. Not trans.
I guess you never saw five year old little girls playing dress up with mothers clothes and makeup lol
we just like to be pretty and attractive even if its in front of our own mirrors.

why anyone would care about looks, when there is no hope for reproduction via sexual intercourse.
Why not? we are visual people why look at an ugly image if you can look back at a better looking one?
Its like would I like to look at a pretty flower or a pile of sh*t? I would like to look at the pretty flower..does not mean I want to f*** the pretty flower.

 

[TylerDurdenn]

That is so creepy I would take a human of same gender over that thing or its male equivalent. I mean can't you guys just get something similar to a vibraror or didlo but of the pussy--why a whole 'person'?
She looks like from a horror film.

This was just an example of how men could get out sexual frustration in a world with no women, and not turning gay like everyone in prison is according to some here

 

[kj6723]

You are kidding right?
yes i would still use minoxidil, i would still shave my armpits, get waxing, get facials manicure pedicure etc.
I don't do that all for men lol I do it because I am vain and like what I see in mirror.
i don't even feel human if i don't blow out or style my hair..I mean I don't sometimes but I don't like it.

What are you? A girl or a trans? If there was no one to impress sexually, we would take care of our bodies in a more practical and easy way. But for me, I cant understand why anyone would care about looks, when there is no hope for reproductian via sexual intercourse. Hygiene, of course, would still be important.

It's a good question, given the whole lookism thing, and that better looking people tend to be treated better even by people not necessarily looking for anything sexual from them

Is this because being good looking just makes them likeable? Or because they're perceived as having high sexual value and thus seen as a superior person?(even by those not seeking sex from them)

 

[TylerDurdenn]

I am woman born. Not trans.
I guess you never saw five year old little girls playing dress up with mothers clothes and makeup lol
we just like to be pretty and attractive even if its in front of our own mirrors.

why anyone would care about looks, when there is no hope for reproduction via sexual intercourse.
Why not? we are visual people why look at an ugly image if you can look back at a better looking one?
Its like would I like to look at a pretty flower or a pile of sh*t? I would like to look at the pretty flower..does not mean I want to f*** the pretty flower.

Yes I have seen that, they do it because they have seen an elder person do it and want to act like them, why does the elder person do it? To impress the opposite sex, finding out how they can be as pretty as possible, even if there is no men around. Its not in our nature to care about looks, everything our genes needs us to do, is sleep, eat and reproduce.

 

[hairblues]

It's a good question, given the whole lookism thing, and that better looking people tend to be treated better even by people not necessarily looking for anything sexual from them

Is this because being good looking just makes them likeable? Or because they're perceived as having high sexual value and thus seen as a superior person?(even by those not seeking sex from them)

Women treat other women better also its not just a sexual thing..its a respect thing--it should not be this way but unfortunately it is a reality. When I am dressed well, attractive looking I get a lot better treatment from everyone across board..Otehr night I picked up take out food and I happened to be dressed up--the gay guy did a double take and blurted out 'You are beautiful!'' and smiled. It was so genuine because he had his head down and came up and did a double take... Guarantee you he did not want to f*** me he was very much, very gay.
People generally speaking treat better looking people better. Period.

 

[TylerDurdenn]

It's a good question, given the whole lookism thing, and that better looking people tend to be treated better even by people not necessarily looking for anything sexual from them

Is this because being good looking just makes them likeable? Or because they're perceived as having high sexual value and thus seen as a superior person?(even by those not seeking sex from them)

Yes, you are more likeable if your good looking, but in a world with only men, it wouldnt matter if ur averege or good looking, u have to offer more than looks. U can make millions ONLY because of the way u are born today, therefore u will get fame, attention and all that comes with it. So people would want to be around you, because the person can give them something.

 

[Exodus2011]

Only in terms of aesthetics. While aesthetics is important, it isn't the only thing which defines the worth of a man.

Take into consideration other aspects. Grow in other dimensions.




Side effect of weed?


Another tip is to fake it. Act like you have more energy.

One of your major problems is that you don't have goals. You don't "see the point".

The point is to maximize your potential in life.

side effect of weed? are you a dare sponsor now? weed gives me energy. i do it when cleaning. you should actually do the research on this stuff instead of jump to the simple minded conclusion that drugs = your life is being destroyed. i don't even do much of it anyways we've been over this. a small *** bowl a day . . . . wow such a stoner lol

and yes aesthetics are one of the most important parts of who you are. looks, intelligence, and talent are the 3 things that matter, and only things really. balding takes a third of you away

the only real goal i have involves not being goddamn inferior anymore, through a hair transplant. just too f*****g mentally ill to get a job. but thinking of the possibility still helps i guess

And hairblues if you somehow got rid of my amotivational syndrome from baldness i might try that stuff. Wayyyyy too f*****g pointless feeling now tho

 

[Follisket]

I mean accept that your situation is uncontrollable, and accept that your "problem" with hairloss is actually an excuse, an illusion the mind is playing on itself, to hide from you the many other, more meaningful reasons why women may find you unattractive — Things you do have control over! — mostly your complete lack of self-esteem or self-confidence, or your persistent close-mindedness to the reality that women are not one dimensional shallow creatures, but complex and multifaceted that, just like men, have fantasies and fetishes that decide their choice of partner much more closely than whether or not they have strands of keratin growing out of a piece of skin on the top of your head.

I'm sorry, I know you mean well but I'm actually attracted to men so I know full well what baldness does to a man's attractiveness. At times I wish I didn't have that insight and could delude myself, though.

I appreciate intelligence, humour and kindness in people but when it comes to love and sex there's no compensating for physical attraction.

And I don't find myself shallow for it. It is what it is.

 

[rclark]

Watching myself in the mirror keeps me from feeling harmony.

Hope you don't feel that way in your thirties, in your twenties, happiness is knowing you can do YOUR best and do a good job at things.

In your thirties, happiness is knowing your not 40 yet....

In your forties, happiness is knowing you're not yet 65....

In your sixties, happiness is owning a pair of ADULT DIAPERS, and being able to afford them after your KIDS steal your money.

In your seventies, happiness is OVERDOSING on DEMENTIA MEDICATIONS.


OTHER THAN THAT, YOU REALLY NEED TO HAVE A POSITIVE OUTLOOK IN LIFE. Now stop feeling sorry for yourself.

The only way to know how I feel is to PUT A BAG OVER YOUR FACE, AND MAKE SURE YOU CRUMBLE IT, so it has LOTS of WRINKLES.

Now, please, I had to STEAL THAT out of a sold out magazine.. Press my LIKE BUTTON DOWN BELOW, and I'll give even more SHITTY USELESS LIFE INFORMATION!