Anyone Else Have Almost No Social Life?

[JohnsonDDG]

For the most I think socialising and all of its discontents are widely overrated. But one of the main reasons I no longer actively socialise is because I find that most humans are so utterly disappointing. This isn't to say they are bad people - I don't think all people are evil or anything like that - but I find that people can either be too 'flakey' or just not all that fun to spend too much time with.

I do have friends, many on facebook, and probably around four that I would consider real friends who I could call up and hang out with and not feel uncomfortable. But I find that I'm happy just seeing them all once every few months and that is more than enough.

I used to get my socialising fix from dating, but now I don't do that so much anymore I now get satisfaction out of fitness, reading, writing, films, and sharing memes on here.

I post this because I get the sense that I'm not alone in thinking this. Most of us wouldn't admit on social media that we don't have friends or we don't want friends but I think it could make an interesting discussion here. Because I've noticed some of you, much like me, end up spending half the day online here - which leads me to believe that there are many others on here who live on ghost mode and refuse to socialise like we are expected to do.

Thoughts?

 

[sunchyme1]

For the most I think socialising and all of its discontents are widely overrated. But one of the main reasons I no longer actively socialise is because I find that most humans are so utterly disappointing. This isn't to say they are bad people - I don't think all people are evil or anything like that - but I find that people can either be too 'flakey' or just not all that fun to spend too much time with.

I do have friends, many on facebook, and probably around four that I would consider real friends who I could call up and hang out with and not feel uncomfortable. But I find that I'm happy just seeing them all once every few months and that is more than enough.

I used to get my socialising fix from dating, but now I don't do that so much anymore I now get satisfaction out of fitness, reading, writing, films, and sharing memes on here.

I post this because I get the sense that I'm not alone in thinking this. Most of us wouldn't admit on social media that we don't have friends or we don't want friends but I think it could make an interesting discussion here. Because I've noticed some of you, much like me, end up spending half the day online here - which leads me to believe that there are many others on here who live on ghost mode and refuse to socialise like we are expected to do.

Thoughts?

my only friend is dante

hes the reason i am here

 

[CopeForLife]

haven't spoked with anyone except relatives (involuntary) for almost an year

ama

 

[CaptainForehead]

Yeah, I don't have any social life. Part of the reason is I only know people from work. The second part is me being an introvert, social interactions are exhausting for me. the last part is that I find the topics of conversation to be utter BS. No real honest conversations. I like it better on this forum.

 

[JohnsonDDG]

As an extremely ugly, balding guy I can't have a successful social life, besides my social anxiety and depression would kill me. I know there is no place for me among my peers if not for being humiliated and mocked for my appearance by frustrated people who need to vent their anger and frustration against someone who's in a more vulnerable position. I spend most of my free time utterly alone, and I'm ok with it because it's better than any alternative. I have been humiliated more than enough for one life.

It depends on where you hang out.

I once went to a board-game shop (quite popular in England) where they play dungeons and dragons and it was incel fest. There were loads of really ugly people: weird faces, obese, bald, lanky - you name it, but they were all happy socialising with one another. I wanted to get out as fast as possible at first because they all looked so weird, but after speaking to some I actually realised that most of them were far more intelligent than most ordinary people.

 

[JohnsonDDG]

No it doesn't. You're not ugly nor completely bald, so you don't understand. I seriously doubt those people were anywhere near as happy, and I wouldn't hang with those people just to be looked at by the ones like you who regards them as "looking so wierd", like if they were some animals in a zoo or a freaks in a circus, something "curious" to be looked at and laughed at.

Its human nature to look at people - especially unusual people. As long as you can treat them decently even if you find them different or weird then that's all you can do.

BTW many of them were dating each other - it was really cute because they had this geeky little circle - it made me really happy for them.

 

[JohnsonDDG]

You're right, as is human nature mocking and looking down on them, right? And, come on, you were not "happy" for them, it was something different, mere and morbid amusement.

Yes, there is a theory that bullying is human nature and is hard-wired in our dna. That's why it happens all the time.

Apparently it stems back to days where we all lived in caves: if you had a lazy, disabled, weird, gay, obese member then they would be destructive and hindering to the groups survival so the point of bullying is that they must either be excluded or taught that certain traits are not okay.

All of this was written by a scientist in a book called the fall - but some people do not like it because it places a scientific understanding of why social exclusion happens.

For me, I think bullying is natural but we must strive to not do it. While you may feel repulsed by a morbidly obese person I don't think it is okay to mock them simply on the grounds of human decency.

 

[Dsport]

Its really not possible to date because it reinforces men buying women stuff

Slight variation on prostitution

Best you can hope for is a woman that chases you, flexible, generous

Then you wife her up and have a kid, but protect yourself from getting raped

Always make sure you have your assets hidden

my only friend is dante

hes the reason i am here

 

[JohnsonDDG]

Its really not possible to date because it reinforces men buying women stuff

Slight variation on prostitution

Best you can hope for is a woman that chases you, flexible, generous

Then you wife her up and have a kid, but protect yourself from getting raped

Always make sure you have your assets hidden

Nah, I've been on lots of dates and I never pay.

I mean I will pay my own way but that's it. If its there birthday or xmas then I will pay for them but that's about it.

This myth that men pay is a little old fashioned and stems from the times when men worked and women didn't. Now we both work it isn't really necessary - although in some cultures it is still normal for men to pay (asia and Africa) in the west things have become more equal.

Older women may expect a guy to pay, because that is the culture they are from, but young women - certainly in the uk - all have there own cash

 

[Guzam]

For the most I think socialising and all of its discontents are widely overrated. But one of the main reasons I no longer actively socialise is because I find that most humans are so utterly disappointing. This isn't to say they are bad people - I don't think all people are evil or anything like that - but I find that people can either be too 'flakey' or just not all that fun to spend too much time with.

I do have friends, many on facebook, and probably around four that I would consider real friends who I could call up and hang out with and not feel uncomfortable. But I find that I'm happy just seeing them all once every few months and that is more than enough.

I used to get my socialising fix from dating, but now I don't do that so much anymore I now get satisfaction out of fitness, reading, writing, films, and sharing memes on here.

I post this because I get the sense that I'm not alone in thinking this. Most of us wouldn't admit on social media that we don't have friends or we don't want friends but I think it could make an interesting discussion here. Because I've noticed some of you, much like me, end up spending half the day online here - which leads me to believe that there are many others on here who live on ghost mode and refuse to socialise like we are expected to do.

Thoughts?

I have a very active social life, but I am in pain every second in every social situation because of hair loss.
When in public, I live in constant dread and discomfort. I have to vent here a lot even if I have an active social life.
I am so accustomed to this feeling that I haven't been happy since I notice my already advanced hair loss, and I fake comfort and confidence everyday. Three long years have already passed.
I practically act everyday, like an actor. It helped me develop a fake confident stance and posture, so I actually look very confident and this allows me to keep a social life going.
No one can tell I feel like this. It's all hidden, and it's a huge weight in my mind. I can live like this though.
I completely forgot the blissful feeling of freedom of youth because I am balding, and I'm not supposed to. I liked water, and the sea. Now I dread swimming, and the sun shining through my thin head of hair.
Finasteride is working, but the effect is extremely marginal. In fact, I am just maintaining.
Not going to stop because acting on hair loss prevents me from harming myself, which happened multiple times before I started finasteride.

This is not living though. It's sh*t.

 

[JohnsonDDG]

I have a very active social life, but I am in pain every second in every social situation because of hair loss.
When in public, I live in constant dread and discomfort. I have to vent here a lot even if I have an active social life.
I am so accustomed to this feeling that I haven't been happy since I notice my already advanced hair loss, and I fake comfort and confidence everyday. Three long years have already passed.
I practically act everyday, like an actor. It helped me develop a fake confident stance and posture, so I actually look very confident and this allows me to keep a social life going.
No one can tell I feel like this. It's all hidden, and it's a huge weight in my mind. I can live like this though.
I completely forgot the blissful feeling of freedom of youth because I am balding, and I'm not supposed to. I liked water, and the sea. Now I dread swimming, and the sun shining through my thin head of hair.
Finasteride is working, but the effect is extremely marginal. In fact, I am just maintaining.
Not going to stop because acting on hair loss prevents me from harming myself, which happened multiple times before I started finasteride.

This is not living though. It's sh*t.

Hang in there man. I feel you and a few other have a genuine case to be really pissed off - to be a nw4 under the age of 25 is brutal and nobody should have to experience it.

Do you actively date or are you taking some time away from all of that?

 

[Guzam]

Hang in there man. I feel you and a few other have a genuine case to be really pissed off - to be a nw4 under the age of 25 is brutal and nobody should have to experience it.

Do you actively date or are you taking some time away from all of that?

I have a girlfriend. Stable relationship. She knows I'm sensitive about hair in general but I never talked about it to her.
I never gave up because I know how women work: show weakness and you're done with them, period.

 

[CopeForLife]

Hang in there man. I feel you and a few other have a genuine case to be really pissed off - to be a nw4 under the age of 25 is brutal and nobody should have to experience it.

Do you actively date or are you taking some time away from all of that?

nw4 actively dating

 

[Dante92]

I have a girlfriend. Stable relationship. She knows I'm sensitive about hair in general but I never talked about it to her.
I never gave up because I know how women work: show weakness and you're done with them, period.

Another good-looking fullhead, good to know.

 

[CopeForLife]

Another good-looking fullhead, good to know.

He isn't a full head for sure, Dante.

His situation is worse than yours.

 

[Dante92]

He isn't a full head for sure, Dante.

His situation is worse than yours.

Not aesthetically.

 

[Guzam]

Another good-looking fullhead, good to know.

wtf there's a thread about my hair from like a month ago. Big photo.

 

[CopeForLife]

Not aesthetically.

He has a rat nest c'mon.

 

[Guzam]

He has a rat nest c'mon.

lol the rat's nest. What a f*****g joke my genes are.

 

[JohnsonDDG]

Another good-looking fullhead, good to know.

Noooo his hair is worse than mine and about the same as yours.