Anyone else here haven't dated in a long time?

[Butterbean Head]

My last date and girlfriend was a hooker. The last two straddles from non-paying specimens were already in a relationship.....

I'll never be in a coherent, intimate, normal(whatever that means) relationship. Imagine her parents meeting me!

 

[Butterbean Head]

Our first official date, "J" wanked me off in the cinema. Oh how appropriate Insidious 2 was screening.......

 

[Butterbean Head]

And then we made crack love in a Proton without a rubber John........

 

[Butterbean Head]

Yes, Wow indeed. Yet still this butterbean head didn't learn. Fell for another and then another, until there was no more money left to give......but I still insist I was and will always be the crackheads favourite.

 

[iCloud]

Well we were talking for a couple weeks. And I will be real, she is the sarcastic/arrogant type which I lowkey found annoying.

I asked her out yesterday and she replied with a voice message where she said "I have 3 options now: 1.) I will make an excuse to avoid it, 2.) I will say I'm not interested, 3.) I will take the blame on my own issues and wait while we keep talking until I feel more comfortable and see how it evolves, if you're still interested".

Started getting annoyed of her being cold and distant, not giving much back, felt very one sided. Today she left me on read twice in a row and then I said "you stay very cold and distant, no matter how hard I try to get closer to you, I don't know why I was even trying tbh, it should be natural".

She replied that she had a family emergency thing and that's why she wasn't available today and called me egoistic. I told her I'm sorry to hear about her situation and said talk to me later and let me know if everything is okay. She said "no thanks I'm not interested".

Honestly I feel like she was monitoring my behavior and waiting for the first thing I say that doesn't sit right with her so she can cut me off. Women seem to expect a man to be completely selfless and take all the sh*t from them without ever

It all sounds so tiresome. I would not have your patience.

 

[justinbieberscombover]

It all sounds so tiresome. I would not have your patience.

Some new girl gave me her number while I was typing that post and already randomly ghosted me after an hour. LOL

 

[iCloud]

Some new girl gave me her number while I was typing that post and already randomly ghosted me after an hour. LOL

What do you do to these girls? Do you ask “Horny?”

 

[justinbieberscombover]

What do you do to these girls? Do you ask “Horny?”

With this girl I sent her a voice recording where I complimented her about her job. She replied with thanks and a heart emoji. Then I asked what are her plans for the weekend.. poof, gone.

 

[Capone]

Well sounds like you went to the date depressed and made no effort

I went on dates with 4 different women in the last 2-3 weeks..
1st and 4th one ghosted me after the date. Got kisses from the 2nd girl, met her a few more times and almost smashed. Didn't want the 3rd girl.

Gotta keep trying bro, one date is far from enough!

That transplant paying for itself already lol

 

[Capone]

lol i met a girl from a dating app and we spoke nd she aid i look tired that counts s a date but i mean a first date with a stranger that doesnt work out doesn't even count no sex wasnt fun or nothing
i mean dating a girl

Well we were talking for a couple weeks. And I will be real, she is the sarcastic/arrogant type which I lowkey found annoying.

I asked her out yesterday and she replied with a voice message where she said "I have 3 options now: 1.) I will make an excuse to avoid it, 2.) I will say I'm not interested, 3.) I will take the blame on my own issues and wait while we keep talking until I feel more comfortable and see how it evolves, if you're still interested".

Started getting annoyed of her being cold and distant, not giving much back, felt very one sided. Today she left me on read twice in a row and then I said "you stay very cold and distant, no matter how hard I try to get closer to you, I don't know why I was even trying tbh, it should be natural".

She replied that she had a family emergency thing and that's why she wasn't available today and called me egoistic. I told her I'm sorry to hear about her situation and said talk to me later and let me know if everything is okay. She said "no thanks I'm not interested".

Honestly I feel like she was monitoring my behavior and waiting for the first thing I say that doesn't sit right with her so she can cut me off. Women seem to expect a man to be completely selfless and take all the sh*t from them without ever complaining.

You only just asked her out after a couple of weeks of talking? You waited too long. You started chasing.That family emergency was just womanese for not interested. You shouldn’t have gave a sh*t about her problems you hadn’t built up any face to face connection yet. She got her little power buzz by being on top.

It’s sad these days with ghosting etc, power struggles. iCloud is right too much hassle.

 

[justinbieberscombover]

You only just asked her out after a couple of weeks of talking? You waited too long. You started chasing.That family emergency was just womanese for not interested. You shouldn’t have gave a sh*t about her problems you hadn’t built up any face to face connection yet. She got her little power buzz by being on top.

It’s sad these days with ghosting etc, power struggles. iCloud is right too much hassle.

Well I asked her before of course, but she found an excuse and postponed it. Meanwhile I was seeing other women so I didn't really care. I could have moved on immediately but if I did I would have never heard from her again - nothing to gain. But yeah you're right about chasing, it rarely ever works and even when it does it probably just leads to a dry date instead of what we men want.

And yeah it's sad that it usually turns into power/mind games.

I'm honestly just learning about dealing with these things and using that app to practice dating and gain more experience.

 

[Capone]

Well I asked her before of course, but she found an excuse and postponed it. Meanwhile I was seeing other women so I didn't really care. I could have moved on immediately but if I did I would have never heard from her again - nothing to gain. But yeah you're right about chasing, it rarely ever works and even when it does it probably just leads to a dry date instead of what we men want.

And yeah it's sad that it usually turns into power/mind games.

I'm honestly just learning about dealing with these things and using that app to practice dating and gain more experience.

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[Trompt]

21 years. I had a girlfriend at 18,but It barely lasted 6 months. Sucked.

 

[Derelict]

Never dated so nothing to miss, would be nice though.

 

[vondoom]

You only just asked her out after a couple of weeks of talking? You waited too long. You started chasing.That family emergency was just womanese for not interested. You shouldn’t have gave a sh*t about her problems you hadn’t built up any face to face connection yet. She got her little power buzz by being on top.

It’s sad these days with ghosting etc, power struggles. iCloud is right too much hassle.

second that... got to do it the same way as in real life... and not wasting time chatting, which a lot if people dont enjoy, or dont have the time to...

ghosting is honestly okay in my book... i mean it is people you dont know at all...
wouldnt be okay with ghosting if it is someone i know of course, but one out of many, i couldnt care less...

 

[Feelsbadman]

dating is pointless 3/10 pigs get 500 + matches on tinder
i slept with a girl from work who was hideous and she was telling me about her tinder and showming me all her matches and she likes tall (6ft 4) men with hair and beards and muscle

lmao!
shes a drug addict as well

 

[Butterbean Head]

dating is pointless 3/10 pigs get 500 + matches on tinder
i slept with a girl from work who was hideous and she was telling me about her tinder and showming me all her matches and she likes tall (6ft 4) men with hair and beards and muscle

lmao!
shes a drug addict as well

I hope you gave her your liquid self Mr Feelbad?

See me, I'm a bug-chaser......

 

[justinbieberscombover]

dating is pointless 3/10 pigs get 500 + matches on tinder
i slept with a girl from work who was hideous and she was telling me about her tinder and showming me all her matches and she likes tall (6ft 4) men with hair and beards and muscle

lmao!
shes a drug addict as well

I don't even match with those girls lol. Your fantasy "Chads" sound desperate.

 

[vondoom]

dating is pointless 3/10 pigs get 500 + matches on tinder
i slept with a girl from work who was hideous and she was telling me about her tinder and showming me all her matches and she likes tall (6ft 4) men with hair and beards and muscle

lmao!
shes a drug addict as well

see, you always say nobody wants you, but still you have sex... thats what i say, of course women want you...
looksmatch? or more like dating up for you (according to your description of yourself)...

 

[Feelsbadman]

see, you always say nobody wants you, but still you have sex... thats what i say, of course women want you...
looksmatch? or more like dating up for you (according to your description of yourself)...

that was like a one off occasion and i was disgusted but did it anwyway coz i was sad and drunk.