I think "feminist" has become to mean; people who fight specifically for women's rights, believing women to need particular help in this area. I believe in gender equality, I certainly wouldn't be considered a feminist by anyone. If you call yourself a feminist, simply because you believe in gender equality, I think you will just confuse people, I mean very few people don't believe in gender equality these days, thus by that definition most people are feminists.
The extreme nut jobs should be called feminizes