Completely Destroyed...utterly Destroyed.

[Bobster231]

New poster here. I suffer from diffuse unpatterned alopecia. Really aggressive hair loss. I'm 27 years old and got hit hard very fast. It's a very rare form of alopecia. Especially in men. I have no safe donor zone as my hair is thinning everywhere sides and back. A transplant is out of the question.

I just can't believe how aggressive and fast the hair loss happened. At least with typical male pattern baldness there are options like a transplant.

How the hell do you accept a rapid appearance change that completely destroys your looks and appearance?

I f*****g worked my God damn *** off to get in shape and get the body I wanted. I had my self image of who I wanted to be. I was happy with my appearance. Than out of nowhere my hair starts diffusing like crazy and clumps start falling out in the shower.

I feel hopeless and helpless. My life has completely been destroyed and i've fell into a dark depression which is eroding my will to live.

Nothing has brought me to my knees like hair loss has.

And I basically have no options besides a hair piece since a transplant is out of the question. I tried Propecia but immediately got bad sides and had to stop and apparently finasteride doesn't work for DUPA hair loss anyways.

And the worst part is I have a huge scar on the top of my head from when I was a child.

I'm literally f*cked. My life has gone to complete disarray. The worst part about it is how fast and aggressive it is. I am a severely diffuse Norwood 3 with clear scalp showing.

Until it happens to you people will never know the pain of being forced to look unattractive and ugly.

I have a great shaped head and good facial aesthetics but having a huge scar across my head. There is probably no bald guy with a scar like mine.

I guess SMP could be an option to help conceal the scar.

Hairloss completely destroys lives. No one in my family is bald and it doesn't run in my family. How I got cursed with this sh*t is beyond me. My 81 year old maternal grandfather is a NW1. I was always told from a young age that I would take after him. I don't know what my final hair loss pattern will be but it looks like a god damn birds nest up there.

I will never have kids as I would never want them to experience this pain and ruin their lives.

I honestly feel like quitting my job and live the rest of my life getting drunk and high and than blow my brains out when I run out of money.

I can't accept this.

I constantly think of suicide. Knowing I can't even get a transplant.

Life is a b**ch. I feel for all you suffering out there. I really don't know how you guys hang on.

 

[Aldrich]

Save money and move far, far away. Shave your head and be bald there. The curse is worse when the people in your life see the downfall. If you give yourself a clean slate with people that have never seen you before, it will be less of a burden.

See, I can never imagine how a bald man would look with hair. To me, he is just bald and that's it. But, it's not as gentle the other way around. When they see you go bald, they'll know that it's hairloss, but also associate with it some kind of disease. That's the problem with male pattern baldness, its symptoms are shared by quite a few diseases.

 

[Bobster231]

I just don'the know how you are supposed to enjoy your life when you are despised and repulsed by the way you look. And isolating yourself because you don't want to be seen by anyone. Like, my disregard for life is unreal. Maybe if I was in my 40's or 50's this would be easier to handle. I could handle a receding hair line. But I had to get severe diffusing everywhere.

I HATE when people say "it's just hair, you aren't your hair" sure you can't base your entire self worth on your hair. But knowing its a genetic defect that makes you less attractive.

I wish those people would Bic their heads to find out how real the pain is.

 

[CopeForLife]

vent here bro

it really helps

you aren't alone

hair is life

 

[Bobster231]

I honestly can't stand guys with hair. It makes me so jealous knowing they will never have to deal with this turmoil and inner torment. They can live their lives feeling confident about their appearance and never worry about balding. I would give my left nut to not have hair loss. I'd sacrifice my penis ando testicles and give up sex. Knowing I would feel better about myself with hair.

 

[Bobster231]

And when you are in your 20's or even 30's looks are still important to you. Going bald is a death nail.

 

[Dench57]

I'd sacrifice my penis ando testicles and give up sex. Knowing I would feel better about myself with hair.

You could probably get a lot of your hair back by sacrificing your dick n balls and running tranny regimen (dutasteride/spironolactone/estradiol/CypA)

 

[Bobster231]

I'very honestly considered that. Because I have seen it work. Complete regrowth. But you trade in your manhood and sexual function. Basically a limp dick with guaranteed gyno. But a full mane. There was a guy on here who regrew a NW0 from a Norwood 4.5. But I mean the side effects could be brutal. I'm talking cognitive and mental sides. Complete hormonal shift to a female. Your face and body would change.

 

[Mattias]

Hey Bobster,

im really sad to read that you feel this way.

I experienced male pattern baldness in a early age and i jumped on the hair transplant-train as soon as i could, witch might be the most drastic way of handling it.
I'm not compering my situation to yours but i know the feeling of panic and feeling ugly and less attractive because of hair loss, as i think most people on this forum does. Your situation is obviously very aggressive and i can image that it takes a tool on your confidence , witch is completely normal to begin with.

I honestly think that the best option for you is to shave your head (you and me both ), get that SMP on that scar (even though i think scars are bad ***) and work on your mental game. I strongly suggest that you talk with somebody professional so you can get a different perspective on everything.

Please don't hurt your self by taking stupid sh*t and risking your health. You said yourself that you have the facial ascetics for the bold look, then rock that sh*t instead !

 

[F2005]

Bobster, I cannot even tell you how many of the same feelings that we share. So much so, that if I elaborated even further, I'd be typing for pages and pages. Hating your self-image, feeling hopeless and helpless, nothing has brought you to your knees in life like hair loss, inability to simply accept this sh*t, inability of people who have hair to understand. I share all of these feelings more than you can imagine.

Aldrich, I've isolated myself from plenty of people when I started losing my hair, including my former best friend. I don't want people I know to see me as a less-good-looking version of what I once was.

 

[F2005]

I just don'the know how you are supposed to enjoy your life when you are despised and repulsed by the way you look. And isolating yourself because you don't want to be seen by anyone. Like, my disregard for life is unreal. Maybe if I was in my 40's or 50's this would be easier to handle. I could handle a receding hair line. But I had to get severe diffusing everywhere.

I HATE when people say "it's just hair, you aren't your hair" sure you can't base your entire self worth on your hair. But knowing its a genetic defect that makes you less attractive.

I wish those people would Bic their heads to find out how real the pain is.

Everything you say in this post is EXACTLY how I feel.

 

[kj6723]

Options:

Hair piece: much of your life will revolve around maintaining and hiding it, but you can still max out your aesthetics, as you'll have the (appearance) of the best head of hair you've ever had. Hair shouldn't be an issue for getting laid in the short term, although you will have to face the inevitable of revealing it to a woman eventually if you want a long term relationship

Smp: I don't know much about it...does it compromise your scalp from the possibility of getting future treatments if better things become available? If not it might be a good option for the time being

Throw some concealer in there for the time being and wait for these new treatments everyone is so optimistic about...pretty much stay the course until you become too bald too keep using concealer, then consider a different option

Sacrifice your sexual function and male identity for probably an NW0

Completely refocus your goals/dreams in life so that being aesthetically appealing is irrelevant to your success(easier said than done...will likely take a great deal of fortitude). If you still want sex to be a part of your life, put your energy towards making as much money as possible.

 

[jd_uk]

Sorry you're feeling that way. Out of interest do you have any photos of your hair? DUPA doesn't usually involve hair falling out in clumps...it is I think just thinning like other male pattern baldness but all over instead.

SMP could be an option as you say because ot the scar. Also, if you have good facial aesthetics too then maybe it is just time to start shaving it short to a 1-2 guard. Supposedly DUPA can look a lot better cut very short.

 

[Jimbo5]

Options:

Hair piece: much of your life will revolve around maintaining and hiding it, but you can still max out your aesthetics, as you'll have the (appearance) of the best head of hair you've ever had. Hair shouldn't be an issue for getting laid in the short term, although you will have to face the inevitable of revealing it to a woman eventually if you want a long term relationship

Smp: I don't know much about it...does it compromise your scalp from the possibility of getting future treatments if better things become available? If not it might be a good option for the time being

Throw some concealer in there for the time being and wait for these new treatments everyone is so optimistic about...pretty much stay the course until you become too bald too keep using concealer, then consider a different option

Sacrifice your sexual function and male identity for probably an NW0

Completely refocus your goals/dreams in life so that being aesthetically appealing is irrelevant to your success(easier said than done...will likely take a great deal of fortitude). If you still want sex to be a part of your life, put your energy towards making as much money as possible.

The guy would need a full cap.

Has anyone seen a full cap that didn't look ridiculous?

 

[michel sapin]

excuse me to all of you guys. Im relatively new to this forum , and i would like to know if all the guys here which complains about their hairloss and their life being ruined are on propecia or duta . And if they took this drug before being Norwood 2 or 3 ?
just by curiosity.

 

[michel sapin]

bump

 

[buckthorn]

OP - goddamnit I am so sorry you have to deal with this nightmare. Do you have any pictures?

@michel sapin - finasteride and dutasteride sped up my male pattern baldness like crazy. My hair was fine before I finasteride. Hoping it will get a little better now that I am off.

 

[michel sapin]

ok because i just wanted to know if those guys have tried an anti androgen or if it has failed .

because if all those guys spent their time here complaning about their life because of hairloss but hadnt tried propecia or dutasteride that would be strange.

 

[michel sapin]

because i'm taking propecia, dutasteride and minoxidil for the moment and i don't want it to fail

 

[michel sapin]

but i believe that all those guys are complaining about propecia sides effect , so they probably never tried it . that is why they lose their hair .