Consolation From A Girl On Quora (lol)

[PappinAce]

i was just thinking about how ethical it would be for male pattern baldness-guys to have children in this society. to bring a life into this world when you know there is a high probability that it will turn miserable. i googled it to see what people think and came across this wonderful discussion on quora, one of my favorite web sites.

https://www.quora.com/Can-a-bald-man-get-married-and-have-children

i think the guy was thinking less about ethics and more about "is it impossible to meet women and start a family now that i'm a balding monster".

the top answer is from Anjali, a female who has long, dense hair (which totally doesn't matter). i'm sure she is a wonderful soul, hair loss ignorance aside.

"Bald men can roll out of bed and look sexy in whatever they put on, since they don’t have to worry about their hair sticking up at random angles all over their head. This tidiness carries on throughout the day as well. There’s no sweaty hair plastered to a bald man’s head when he finishes running a mile or after working outside on the hottest day of the year."

yeah bro. i remember when i used to play tennis with a full head. the hair used to get sweaty and stick to my face, it was so unattractive and i would think "man, i wish i could be bald, i would look so much better working out." so glad i got my wish!

i think Anjali should shave her head so she will look tidy, since she seems to think it's such an attractive look!

 

[Afro_Vacancy]

There is more to you than your bald genes.

 

[PappinAce]

i agree. but does society in many ways not reduce you to your bald genes?

 

[Afro_Vacancy]

i agree. but does society in many ways not reduce you to your bald genes?

Almost everybody has flaws.

Further, your sons are not destined to be bald, and in any case I really doubt that baldness will still be around in thirty years.

 

[Captain Rex]

i think Anjali should shave her head so she will look tidy, since she seems to think it's such an attractive look!

well, that's her, Anjali.

and that's her neat and tidy bald look - she likes so much.

Send her this, she will know the true meaning of that question.They won't understand unless they are made to suffer.

 

[SteveTabernack]

18 years from now balding has to be cured though right.. RIGHT!?

 

[PappinAce]

Almost everybody has flaws.

Further, your sons are not destined to be bald, and in any case I really doubt that baldness will still be around in thirty years.

We will see!

True, we can't really pretend to control genetics. A NW4 could have a NW1-for life son.

 

[SmoothSailing]

What a dumb b**ch. So often do I wonder "does he/she really believe this or are they just spewing whatever is most 'appropriate'?" Seriously, has she convinced herself of this?

It's very disheartening to be consoled with lies, it means there's nothing true they can think of to console you. I'd rather the cold harsh truth. "You're an ugly f****r" sounds better than "looks don't matter".

 

[hairblues]

What a dumb b**ch. So often do I wonder "does he/she really believe this or are they just spewing whatever is most 'appropriate'?" Seriously, has she convinced herself of this?

It's very disheartening to be consoled with lies, it means there's nothing true they can think of to console you. I'd rather the cold harsh truth. "You're an ugly f****r" sounds better than "looks don't matter".

It is just ignorance because some men are not impacted (good or bad) --so women assume that applies to all men.
They are not nuancing it to facial feature types effected most.
Ugly men or men already unattractive are not that impacted with women.
Good looking men who are 'masculine' looking strong jaw chisled face are not that impacted.
But most average men or 'plain' men are most impacted and men who are 'pretty boy' good looking definitely impacted.
Rob Lowe never would have survived hair loss even though his face is beautiful where someone like Ed Harris or Woody Harrelson lost nothing in looks.

I honestly did not know how much it effected mens looks or lives until I joined here. Because men I dated with hair loss were still sexy or handsome.

 

[SmoothSailing]

Because men I dated with hair loss were still sexy or handsome.

Girls often only notice good looking guys. It's why they can so easily say "men have it easier" etc.

There's no one that could honestly tell me I'd look good bald.

 

[Guzam]

Almost everybody has flaws.

Further, your sons are not destined to be bald, and in any case I really doubt that baldness will still be around in thirty years.

Everyone has flaws.

Some men are too ambitious, others are vain. Some are obsessed with career or money; others love food too much. Others lack drive. Others lack culture. Others are judgemental, others are just snob. Some men are loud, others are poor and whiny.

We are bald.

I hope you can see the tragic comedy in this because I feel very angry about it.

 

[Guzam]

i was just thinking about how ethical it would be for male pattern baldness-guys to have children in this society. to bring a life into this world when you know there is a high probability that it will turn miserable. i googled it to see what people think and came across this wonderful discussion on quora, one of my favorite web sites.

https://www.quora.com/Can-a-bald-man-get-married-and-have-children

i think the guy was thinking less about ethics and more about "is it impossible to meet women and start a family now that i'm a balding monster".

the top answer is from Anjali, a female who has long, dense hair (which totally doesn't matter). i'm sure she is a wonderful soul, hair loss ignorance aside.

"Bald men can roll out of bed and look sexy in whatever they put on, since they don’t have to worry about their hair sticking up at random angles all over their head. This tidiness carries on throughout the day as well. There’s no sweaty hair plastered to a bald man’s head when he finishes running a mile or after working outside on the hottest day of the year."

yeah bro. i remember when i used to play tennis with a full head. the hair used to get sweaty and stick to my face, it was so unattractive and i would think "man, i wish i could be bald, i would look so much better working out." so glad i got my wish!

i think Anjali should shave her head so she will look tidy, since she seems to think it's such an attractive look!

I want to remind OP that women take the virtue signalling too seriously to the point of sounding very silly like that woman.
To know what they really think, hear their conversations with their female friends while hanging out, without being noticed.

Yes, I know you can hear it man. So clear.

"Ewwww, he's bald'"

 

[Roberto_72]

i was just thinking about how ethical it would be for male pattern baldness-guys to have children in this society. to bring a life into this world when you know there is a high probability that it will turn miserable. i googled it to see what people think and came across this wonderful discussion on quora, one of my favorite web sites.

https://www.quora.com/Can-a-bald-man-get-married-and-have-children

i think the guy was thinking less about ethics and more about "is it impossible to meet women and start a family now that i'm a balding monster".

the top answer is from Anjali, a female who has long, dense hair (which totally doesn't matter). i'm sure she is a wonderful soul, hair loss ignorance aside.

"Bald men can roll out of bed and look sexy in whatever they put on, since they don’t have to worry about their hair sticking up at random angles all over their head. This tidiness carries on throughout the day as well. There’s no sweaty hair plastered to a bald man’s head when he finishes running a mile or after working outside on the hottest day of the year."

yeah bro. i remember when i used to play tennis with a full head. the hair used to get sweaty and stick to my face, it was so unattractive and i would think "man, i wish i could be bald, i would look so much better working out." so glad i got my wish!

i think Anjali should shave her head so she will look tidy, since she seems to think it's such an attractive look!

Girls often only notice good looking guys. It's why they can so easily say "men have it easier" etc.

There's no one that could honestly tell me I'd look good bald.

Everyone has flaws.

Some men are too ambitious, others are vain. Some are obsessed with career or money; others love food too much. Others lack drive. Others lack culture. Others are judgemental, others are just snob. Some men are loud, others are poor and whiny.

We are bald.

I hope you can see the tragic comedy in this because I feel very angry about it.

Have you actually seen the answer?

The most voted answer thinks these people as BALD (I copy the pictures here):

(Face palm)

 

[Guzam]

Have you actually seen the answer?

The most voted answer thinks these people as BALD (I copy the pictures here):

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(Face palm)

Yeah, I noticed. I'm not even mad, I just feel a desolate absence of feelings.

 

[Saurabhaj]

Girls often only notice good looking guys. It's why they can so easily say "men have it easier" etc.

There's no one that could honestly tell me I'd look good bald.

Men have it Easier,this is somewhat true.
Take this two scenarios.

A good looking guy will have huge number of girls ready to make him as a boyfriend.
This girl's will literally give him clear hints like they like him in words.

While on the other hand,good looking girl will have tons of guys wanting to make her girlfriend.
In that guys list,most will be ugly as fck.
And good looking guys have more attractive options in girls.
And good looking guys mostly will never fixate on only one girl.

I Want to give interesting example of Arrange marriage in India.
A good looking handsome,well settled guy will get about 100's of marriage proposals.
While an average looking guy gets 1 or 2 or 3.
On the other hand,good looking girl will get 100's of marriage proposals out of which 95% will be of nonsense category.

My female friend was a good looking prospective bride 2 years back.Now she is married.
She was in 10s level because:
She belong to ultra rich father.
She had model looks.
Highly Educated.
Marriage material.

She had long list of ex followers dying to marry her,she rejected all of them.
Still she fall for a guy in arrange marriage who took 2 months to say yes to that girl.
This girl was openly wishing that this prospective guy must select her as wife.

This guy got about 30 lacs Indian rupees( $50,000 USD of gold jewellery from girl's father)
and also got $100,000 USD worth money to establish his Eye hospital,one year after marriage.
She wasn't gold digger.
He was Jackpot winner.
They had honeymoon in New Zealand.


That guy wasn't super handsome.
He had no flaws.Decent symmetrical face,height about 5 feet 8.
As he was average looking,and simple guy,she knew her husband will never leave her for another girl.
Marriage security is top requirement in this age.

 

[Guzam]

Men have it Easier,this is somewhat true.
Take this two scenarios.

A good looking guy will have huge number of girls ready to make him as a boyfriend.
This girl's will literally give him clear hints like they like him in words.

While on the other hand,good looking girl will have tons of guys wanting to make her girlfriend.
In that guys list,most will be ugly as fck.
And good looking guys have more attractive options in girls.
And good looking guys mostly will never fixate on only one girl.

I Want to give interesting example of Arrange marriage in India.
A good looking handsome,well settled guy will get about 100's of marriage proposals.
While an average looking guy gets 1 or 2 or 3.
On the other hand,good looking girl will get 100's of marriage proposals out of which 95% will be of nonsense category.

My female friend was a good looking prospective bride 2 years back.Now she is married.
She was in 10s level because:
She belong to ultra rich father.
She had model looks.
Highly Educated.
Marriage material.

She had long list of ex followers dying to marry her,she rejected all of them.
Still she fall for a guy in arrange marriage who took 2 months to say yes to that girl.
This girl was openly wishing that this prospective guy must select her as wife.

This guy got about 30 lacs Indian rupees( $50,000 USD of gold jewellery from girl's father)
and also got $100,000 USD worth money to establish his Eye hospital,one year after marriage.
She wasn't gold digger.
He was Jackpot winner.
They had honeymoon in New Zealand.


That guy wasn't super handsome.
He had no flaws.Decent symmetrical face,height about 5 feet 8.
As he was average looking,and simple guy,she knew her husband will never leave her for another girl.
Marriage security is top requirement in this age.

I once took as granted that I was an average looking guy. Average height, brown hair, masculine build.

Now I understand what a privilege is to be average, how I didn't fully capitalize on that.
After high school, some girl friends of mine told me that the girls who liked me were more, way more than I thought. All a man needs is average looks, like that Indian guy you know: some height, some build, hair, no psychopathic tendencies.
This is why 'men have it easier'.


Balding is probably the hardest redpill lookswise.

 

[hairblues]

She's ignorant, but it's not her fault. She never had the best/worse teacher life can get you: pain. If she suffered our fate, she'd know. If she suffered in any way, she'd know and understand. Make her suffer, cure her ignorance.

eh you are not wrong I did not know this bothered men to this level until I came for my own hair loss.

you make her suffer she is still not going to get it..she won't get it unless she read this site for few months.

Men i know who I am close to who are my age and older are very stoic about emo stuff..so I don't know if this is part of it.

 

[Saurabhaj]

I once took as granted that I was an average looking guy. Average height, brown hair, masculine build.

Now I understand what a privilege is to be average, how I didn't fully capitalize on that.
After high school, some girl friends of mine told me that the girls who liked me were more, way more than I thought. All a man needs is average looks, like that Indian guy you know: some height, some build, hair, no psychopathic tendencies.
This is why 'men have it easier'.


Balding is probably the hardest redpill lookswise.

Yes.100 percent right.
I am damn sure if all guys here had full head of hair,most would be living 100% happy life without worries.

I get really sad when people say hair loss is part of aging process.
Balding from 18 to 30 is not at all aging process.

 

[hairblues]

Oh, well, fair enough. Making someone suffer is mostly a matter of fun. Education is secondary.

LOL you must love that scene in V with Natalie Portman where they shave her head.

 

[plisk]

so the logic here seems to be that because you are bald, there is a high chance your male children will have a hard time "competing" with the full head ubermensch

well i hate to break it to you, but statistically most of you are absolutely average in every other regard and your child could have hair like fabio and he would still live a life of wanting. Not tall, not good looking, not an athletic talent, not particularly intelligent, etc. In the tragedies of life, balding is pretty f*****g laughable when you put it into perspective.

To be quite blunt about it, i dont think the miniscule threat of balding is really what holds balding men back from having kids. Narcissism usually is, and luckily most people grow out of the adaptive narcissism that the early adulthood brings on (with good reason at the time, not so good when you're 30+), some dont however and will engage in masterful avoidance rationalizations, the same way people will avoid committing to anything that has finality because if you dont reach finality then the possibilities remain endless even if they are fantastical (bullshit) in nature.

I would suggest you have a kid as a balding c*** who is otherwise fantastically healthy in his 20s or 30s instead of mincing about until you are 40 or 50 and then having a kid with a high risk of autism, because that is actually crippling.