Getting Perspective - Very Important!

[Smooth]

I do believe that this is not the end of the world and hope to reach a stage in my life where I would look back & be proud that I did something about hairloss and at the same time didn't allow it destroy my life.

Thats the way to go m friend! you got the right attitude! im not sure how old are you (assuming your early twenties) focus on things that make you happy, i think that going to collage and getting yourself educated is a great way to forget about your hair loss, and probebly by the time its over you either wouldnt care, or be making enough to get yourself some *real* solution (who knows, maybe by then a breakthrough will find its way to marketing, in that case you will be a really lucky guy )

 

[uncomfortable man]

I agree a majority of "normal" people often look down upon bald and balding men....They get some sick pleasure out of it

This is what I have personally observed and have been saying all along, although there are those here who will fight tooth and nail to dispute it. Not everyone is like this obviously but it's more than you would think. Shave yourself a horseshoe and then go out in public ( school, mall, bar, whatever) and see if anyone looks at you funny and treats you differently. I dare you. You will soon KNOW for yourself what I've been saying all along.

This is stupid. First of all, baldness is not an indicator of genetic inferiority. It is not a sign of sickness or anything.

You and I both know that but scientific fact and public perception are two different things. Personally, I'm tired of explaining/defending myself to ignorant people. It's prejudice, plain and simple. I recently went to a get together at a friend of a friends house with a clean shaven head and a beard (just like in my avatar) and this one guy I know yelled out "KKK go home!". I tried to make light of it and ask if he had a stuttering problem. That's when he told me that he has nightmares about going bald. I replied by saying that I live his nightmare every day so the least he could do is show me a little respect. But I suppose I was asking too much because ten minutes later out in the backyard he starts making fun of me again in front of everyone. I told him that I'm white and I'm bald- two things I have no control over so cut me some fuckin slack. "Aw, I'm just giving you a hard time man.".
I said, "If you keep that up I'm gonna get pist and you and I are gonna have a thing right here." He stayed away from me after that and I could tell that people understood and respected me for standing up for myself, but sh*t it just sucks that it even had to happen in the first place.

 

[s.a.f]

I recently went to a get together at a friend of a friends house with a clean shaven head and a beard (just like in my avatar) and this one guy I know yelled out "KKK go home!". I tried to make light of it and ask if he had a stuttering problem. That's when he told me that he has nightmares about going bald. I replied by saying that I live his nightmare every day so the least he could do is show me a little respect. But I suppose I was asking too much because ten minutes later out in the backyard he starts making fun of me again in front of everyone. I told him that I'm white and I'm bald- two things I have no control over so cut me some fuckin slack. "Aw, I'm just giving you a hard time man.".
I said, "If you keep that up I'm gonna get pist and you and I are gonna have a thing right here." He stayed away from me after that and I could tell that people understood and respected me for standing up for myself, but sh*t it just sucks that it even had to happen in the first place.

Exactly this may not happen to the Vin Diesel types out there but its going to happen to the average bald guy and the frequency depends on the social circle you keep. If you work in a small ofice with middle aged people then you might avoid it but in more working class jobs you'll probably suffer this type of thing on a daily basis.

 

[HatPrisoner91]

To House, with a hat on everything is normal. People treat me with more dignity and respect. With a hat on all of those eyes that would otherwise be burrowing a hole in my forehead just look straight ahead. Attractive women even go out of their way to make eye contact with me and flirt. It's wonderful, but only with a hat.

That is EXACTLY how it is with me. When I wear one, no one says a word. I go unnoticed or smiled at. When I am around people with no hat, I do get looks at it. No one has "made fun" of me to my face but they look. Of course at the same time, I would stab someone if they did; Im' sure of it.

 

[Quantum Cat]

I agree a majority of "normal" people often look down upon bald and balding men....They get some sick pleasure out of it

This is what I have personally observed and have been saying all along, although there are those here who will fight tooth and nail to dispute it. Not everyone is like this obviously but it's more than you would think. Shave yourself a horseshoe and then go out in public ( school, mall, bar, whatever) and see if anyone looks at you funny and treats you differently. I dare you. You will soon KNOW for yourself what I've been saying all along.

This is stupid. First of all, baldness is not an indicator of genetic inferiority. It is not a sign of sickness or anything.

You and I both know that but scientific fact and public perception are two different things. Personally, I'm tired of explaining/defending myself to ignorant people. It's prejudice, plain and simple. I recently went to a get together at a friend of a friends house with a clean shaven head and a beard (just like in my avatar) and this one guy I know yelled out "KKK go home!". I tried to make light of it and ask if he had a stuttering problem. That's when he told me that he has nightmares about going bald. I replied by saying that I live his nightmare every day so the least he could do is show me a little respect. But I suppose I was asking too much because ten minutes later out in the backyard he starts making fun of me again in front of everyone. I told him that I'm white and I'm bald- two things I have no control over so cut me some fuckin slack. "Aw, I'm just giving you a hard time man.".
I said, "If you keep that up I'm gonna get pist and you and I are gonna have a thing right here." He stayed away from me after that and I could tell that people understood and respected me for standing up for myself, but sh*t it just sucks that it even had to happen in the first place.

was it a black guy who yelled KKK? Or were you in fancy dress as a ghost?

anyway from the picture in your av you look like a perfectly normal man in his 20s/30s - indistinguishable from a million others. Why do you keep thinking people are singling you out for ridicule?

I know it's not nice that people assume you're more of a potential thug if you have shaven hair, but turn it to your advantage - people are less likely to mess with you.

or you could start wearing glasses to make you look a bit more 'cultured'

 

[BrightonBaldy]

I've never had a problem getting 'respect' from men, can hold my own with anybody from any background, my work demands it, men generally dont take the piss out of balding people in my experience but then I've never had the piss taken out of me or been bullied.

The problem with hairloss is women, you cant attract them and its sh*t.

This thread is a good read and theres plenty on here who should go over it. Getting perspective is very important, would you rather go bald or have a disfigured hand or a huge hump on your back? Might sound like a stupid question but I know two people who have those problems, the guy with the back problem has to get fluid taken out of his spine every two weeks, for the rest of his life, I'm sure he'd trade places with me in a heartbeat.