Brutal reality check. How obsessive and unconditional a Womens love can be for a guy she barely knows or understands. Only then do you realise it's our aesthetics that determine everything. Guy barely speaks, keeps to himself and makes subtle small talk the ends up being in a relationship with the women, effortlessly.
This is reality for dating. If you are putting in to much work and are still hesitant about what will happen next then chances are she is not into you as much as you thought.
I had a recent encounter like this before I went on my rotation. Girl was texting me evey single day, we spoke routinely over the phone. Always sending me photos and getting sexual. Absolutely turned on by a man she never met. A picture and a voice that made her just submit entirely to me. Its encounters like this that make you realise the whole hard to get s utter bullshit and simply a matter of a women not being that interested in you. When a chick is intereared she will check up on you, never bail and alost always be willing to hangout with enough notice. Women flaking, forgetting to follow up is a recipe of average interest. Quickly dissmisable and someone they forget if you don't keep texting them to remind them you are still relevant
I have stopped putting effort into those encounters. When you have the flips side of both coins you realise that theae experiences shouldn't be hard. It should be comfortable natural and mutual on both parts.
Being funny, and trying to put yourself out there to get noticed is absolutely irrelevant. Sooner you learn this the faster your mind will be at ease. The whole let her notice you is a fantasy. It will happen regardless if she's physically attracted. Simple hellos, and subtle conversation will seal the deal. No need for mega dopamine tier conversations to demonstrate value. I used to be that guy who thought in was saying the wrong things and didn't stimulate an conversation enough for a result. Its all a mind f***, because in short it never mattered. It was decided within minutes before the hours and days of seeing each other.