Hair matters

[IBM]

Hi,

Last week i went to the barber to cut my hair. I said to him to cut the ends only and give it a good look. Well he cut the whole scene and i got a short cut. At that time it was relief. No more mirrors, wind trouble, constant combing and hairstyle.

Now i realize that the short cut was a huge mistake. I'm feeling unatractive. Before i could get some good hair days. I, that days, was confident and it suit with my craziest and artistic personality. Now i look like the dumbiests of the dumbs.

Last Thursday i went to a bar, alone, and none of the chicks there looked at me with desire. Instead they looked at me like i was with aids or leprosy.
With longer hair i could make myself noticed. Now i'm a regular loser guy.

Well i'll have to wait six months to grow it again. Maybe i should start to take MSM to accelarate the process.

PS: I'll never go anymore males old barbers. In Portugal they cut it like we was in a dictatorial regime. Short and extreme left to right hairstyle like in the 20's.

 

[uncomfortable man]

You can't attribute everything to your hair. Maybe it is the way you dress or your physique that could use some work. Maybe its not even as obvious as that, just the energy you project.

 

[GeminiX]

You can't attribute everything to your hair. Maybe it is the way you dress or your physique that could use some work. Maybe its not even as obvious as that, just the energy you project.

/signed

The energy thing is particularly true, confidence and self belief are so important. I'm sure there is a good analogy here involving Dumbo and a feather, bit I'm too warm to write much

 

[DoctorHouse]

I think its the energy, you give IBM. You have too much negative energy in you and the only people you will attract is negative people like yourself. Everything you post, reminds me of the character on Saturday Night Live, Debbie Downer. I sometimes get like you and it causes me to stress out, feel bad and be depressed. I notice the more positive and outgoing I become, the more positive people I attract and more good things happen. Hair matters, Looks matter, Personality matters, Attitude matters, Money matters, Penis size matters, and Self confidence matters. That is the world we live in. EVERYTHING matters. You have to realize that you are not going to be blessed with everything that matters but if you have something that does matter then use it to your advantage. At least have the right attitude and self confidence because sometimes they may matter the most. If you want to find a nice girl for yourself, those two attributes are going to matter the most as long as the girl is not some superficial high maintenance snooty b**ch. One of the attributes, I always got complements about all my life was I had nice hair. Well, I got news for you, its receding more and getting thinner( which has become my downfall in the past few years and caused my whole attitude to change negatively about myself) and it still is not what matters the most. What matters the most is attitude and self confidence, two attributes I would say are not my best. I am working on them and it does pay off when I do. You should do the same if you want to attract women or even friends.

 

[Obsidian]

If you looked like you had Leprosy, they would have not let you in the bar.

Seriously though, none of us here like what is happening to us, that's why we are on here. I mean be glad at your age you still have a good amount of hair, and I doubt anyone has looked at you yet and thought "My God that man is going to be bald soon". Instead like they said, nobody wants to be around negative people all the time, it does bad things to your health and your self-esteem. Instead try for once to count your blessings for once, you don't have cancer, mentally challenged, or an amputee. Those guys would probably easily trade their hair for physical health.

I'll also give you an example of how personality it matters. I went to visit friends of my Father for a dinner party, I noticed a bald patch before I went there but you know what I did? I went over there thinking of happy times and put a smile on my face. That entire time, I didn't once think about my hair, instead we were having so much fun laughing that I forgot that I even had hair loss.

Another example is this, I got so nicely built during my university year that when I cut my hair most girls were looking instead at my arms and stomach instead of my hair.

Still there are days when I hate my hair so much and wonder why this is happening to me but you know what? Like Dr. House said you sometimes have to deal with the card you have been dealt and make the most of it. Besides, anyone who looks down on you for hairloss is a superficial person and is not your friend.

I hope this helps a little

 

[DoctorHouse]

Oh, IBM I forgot to mention, Intelligence matters too but I purposely left it out because I did not want to offend my good friend Metalheaddude, the Harvard graduate............................................................................. :whistle:

 

[IBM]

Well just look at this guy:

He's almost 50 years old but i bet he gets more look than me. Why? Well hair matters.

More examples? There you go

Well Taug was right. Hair matters.

 

[Obsidian]

Have you ever thought this: You are not those guys, you can only be yourself.

IBM I have seen your pictures, you have much better hair than that last guy.

 

[DoctorHouse]

IBM, why are you posting pictures of famous people or celebrities? Fame and popularity matter too. You do not have those attributes. I guarantee you if you become a famous actor, no matter what your hair looks like, you will get all the women you want. And then some poor old soul like yourself will be posting pictures of YOU on websites like this saying this famous actor gets all the women in the world but his hair is still thinning. I am sure Taug would be most likely that poor soul. I don't want to sound like a person with a big head, but I would probably be considered just as good looking as all those people you posted but I don't have fame or celebrity status so I am not going to have tons of woman hitting on me because I tend to give out an energy that says "leave me alone". I have been also told for some reason by very attractive women that I seem unapproachable. What I have been told is women assume for some reason I am already spoken for. You may give out that same energy and no women will look to approach you. Unfortunately, when I do let down my guard for some attractive girls, they seem to be interested but most of them are married women who I think are very unhappy with what they have. I am not interested in married women. You need to change your attitude, my friend, or you will be alone with just you and Rosey Palms. :smack:

 

[ali777]

I went out on my own as well. I got in touch with about 10 people and all of them gave me excuses, one of them invited me to a bar that is an hour away from me. I didn't fancy going far and I was bored at home so I decided to check out a bar nearby. (I really have to make effort to meet new people, I need more friends )

I initially got bored. As I was thinking of going home, some women asked me to join them on the dance floor. They wanted some male company It was very strange... I ended up having good time. It was more fun than watching TV at home.

When I got home, I was doing the usual tooth brushing, applying minoxidil, etc... I looked at the mirror and my hair was very messy, but it didn't stop me from having fun. I didn't even think about my hair when I was out. and trust me IBM, I have seen your picture as well, your hair is much better than mine.

I am not going to pretend to be very successful with women, but when I manage to relax I think I give some sort of good energy that doesn't intimidate women and they are happy to talk to me. Unlike DoctorHouse, I don't claim to be very attractive, but like him I was a bit unapproachable in my youth. Even the girls I was with thought I was very cold.

IBM, you need to learn how to relax. Besides, there is nothing wrong with being regular.

 

[DoctorHouse]

:bravo: ali, I liked your post. At least you had 10 people to call. I would say you are pretty popular. I admire you for going to a bar by yourself. I did the same last week but it was a sushi bar. Unfortunately, I was the only one at it. Its a new place and it was raining badly that day. However, I did have some excellent food and discovered a great Japanese restaurant that I will definitely be ordering from alot. :jump:

 

[ali777]

I used to socialise a lot in the past, but after a very long relationship I don't have many close friends left. Most of my close friends have moved on to greener pastures(??). I even sent a semi-desperate email to someone asking her to go out with me on saturday night... not as a date, but a chat and a few drinks.

Oh well... I had fun on my own.

 

[JayB]

Hi,

Last week i went to the barber to cut my hair. I said to him to cut the ends only and give it a good look. Well he cut the whole scene and i got a short cut. At that time it was relief. No more mirrors, wind trouble, constant combing and hairstyle.

Now i realize that the short cut was a huge mistake. I'm feeling unatractive. Before i could get some good hair days. I, that days, was confident and it suit with my craziest and artistic personality. Now i look like the dumbiests of the dumbs.

Last Thursday i went to a bar, alone, and none of the chicks there looked at me with desire. Instead they looked at me like i was with aids or leprosy.
With longer hair i could make myself noticed. Now i'm a regular loser guy.

Well i'll have to wait six months to grow it again. Maybe i should start to take MSM to accelarate the process.

PS: I'll never go anymore males old barbers. In Portugal they cut it like we was in a dictatorial regime. Short and extreme left to right hairstyle like in the 20's.

SHUT UP ALREADY. you clearly suffer from OCD. noone gives a sht about you in bars. you pretend like somehow you havent been complaining about the same sh*t for 3 years now.
"Now i look like a regular guy". you've been saying the same sh*t for YEARS now. nothing has changed, you looked like a regular guy 2 years ago, or so you claimed.

 

[IBM]

SHUT UP ALREADY. you clearly suffer from OCD. noone gives a sht about you in bars. you pretend like somehow you havent been complaining about the same s*** for 3 years now.
"Now i look like a regular guy". you've been saying the same s*** for YEARS now. nothing has changed, you looked like a regular guy 2 years ago, or so you claimed.

Well, i feel someone special after the post recovering/shinning long hair. I really feel special. Someone unique with hair longer.

 

[uncomfortable man]

I haven't seen any pictures of you IBM but I've heard you have a full head of hair and since HAIR MATTERS, you should be happy, right?

 

[IBM]

I haven't seen any pictures of you IBM but I've heard you have a full head of hair and since HAIR MATTERS, you should be happy, right?

Well i dont have full head of hair. I'm a diffuser NW3.5 . Sometimes i'm a NW3 but most of the time i'm NW3.5. Pics lie too much for diffusers.

 

[Hans Gruber]

I haven't seen any pictures of you IBM but I've heard you have a full head of hair and since HAIR MATTERS, you should be happy, right?

Well i dont have full head of hair. I'm a diffuser NW3.5 . Sometimes i'm a NW3 but most of the time i'm NW3.5. Pics lie too much for diffusers.

well,i never got a reply to my pm back to you but trust me IBM id f*****g kill to have your hair,well ok not kill cos it is just hair but id definitely eat something really nasty,like marmite for example.......

 

[IBM]

[quote="uncomfortable man":1obtuc45]I haven't seen any pictures of you IBM but I've heard you have a full head of hair and since HAIR MATTERS, you should be happy, right?

Well i dont have full head of hair. I'm a diffuser NW3.5 . Sometimes i'm a NW3 but most of the time i'm NW3.5. Pics lie too much for diffusers.

well,i never got a reply to my pm back to you but trust me IBM id f****ing kill to have your hair,well ok not kill cos it is just hair but id definitely eat something really nasty,like marmite for example.......[/quote:1obtuc45]

As i said. Pics lie too much. Now i'm like Arjen Robben four years ago. Its true in these days i lost due to thricomania (i've been very nervous) but definitely i'm thinning. I hope its a shed.

 

[Fanjeera]

I look really good with my half-curly hair too. Unfortunately I'm losing it .

 

[uncomfortable man]

I haven't seen any pictures of you IBM but I've heard you have a full head of hair and since HAIR MATTERS, you should be happy, right?

Well i dont have full head of hair. I'm a diffuser NW3.5 . Sometimes i'm a NW3 but most of the time i'm NW3.5. Pics lie too much for diffusers.

I wish pictures of me would lie and make me look like I have a full head of hair.