Has Anyone Just Shaved It Off To See?

[swingline747]

I shaved for like 2 years or so. I never honestly "liked it" but just kept doing it to see if I eventually would. I always said the only compliments I got for it was from guys. Nothing gay just like "yeah nice shaved head BRO". Of course they all had shaved heads.... I would get the "occasional" flirt from girls but they were always a particular type. Usually more urban, not in a race way but just attitude way, and talking about their kids.... plural..... more than one.

I actually still at times think about doing it. I did a while ago and not ONE person at my job liked it. I think after the long hiatus from it they felt more comfortable telling me they hated it on me. Mostly the women. One guy said he liked it. An HR consultant we have.... who shaves his head lol. Nice guy though. I just told him "all the cool guys do it".

Its funny because typing that second half led me to a revelation. The first time I was shaving I was dieting SUPER hard and lost a ton of weight. That helped the shaved look to me.
After the weight came back everyone said they thought I was "sick".
Shaved head + weight loss..... = sick

FUCKERS! lol

 

[FootyStar]

My entire body shaved itself without me being able to do a damn thing about it.

I hate it and I look awful but apparently I have no say in the matter whatsoever.

 

[Señor AIDidaS]

I have. Was in a relationship when I buzzed, and eventually shaved it off. It looked awful. She dried completely up, rendering me incel while in a relationship. Several friends who saw me in this state stopped getting in touch. I turned into a recluse and refused to go out. lots of alcohol and junk food. It was the biggest low point of my life.

It gave me a window into what my life as a bald man would be like. Permanent hell, with no escape (growing it back).

That's really weird. I must be lucky. For me, either no one comments, or I get compliments. The only person who tells me I look better with hair is my own mother oddly enough.

 

[Señor AIDidaS]

Words carry little value in my experience. Reactions are better gauged by people's actions: i.e. Are you being invited out to parties and social gatherings as frequently as before? Are reasonably attractive women getting wet and readily willing to have sex with you?

People never did any of these things when I had hair. I would say people talk to me more now though.

 

[Señor AIDidaS]

So the impact for you was net zero, basically. You can't lose what you never had. A lot of "just shave it guys" have similar stories, actually (not saying you are one). They were never popular socially or with women, and so they don't register the effects of their hair loss.

Yeah. I've got a lot of other issues I'll need to work out if I plan to even live past 30. Not suicide or anything, I have severe IBD. My life was ruined long before this.

 

[Runninghair]

Im 30 now. Nw2. With vellus in nw1 region.. Just about. Hairloss began for me at 18. Hair felt limper and was falling out loads. At 21 i was on finasteride and i dont know why but i decided to shave my hair. It was almost like a 'fck this' sort of depressive action. I have a high hairline so even before the loss it would av looked a bit crap. Anyways i did it and my family who didnt believe me i had hairloss said i looked ill and their actual words were 'that a very harsh look'. My mum in particular hated it. When i did it i didnt like it as much as hair but i didnt think it looked as bad as inthought it would be. Regardless.. 5mins after i did it and hearing those comments shook me and i wore a beanie pretty much for 3minths until it grew back.

I think this shaving experience bearing in mind i had hair has scared life outa me ever since. If ppl hated it when i had hair god knows how id look if im shaved but have no hairline to frame my face albiet a high frameline.

Luckily finasteride worked for me for ten years and i continue the battle now on dutasteride (4days).

If i do lose the battle though one day though out the window go the 'looks' i have. im married now and i know some on here will say oh your over 30 and settled but i will never like the idea of looking in the mirror to a bald man.

Hoping some some new treatments give me more years. As always guys.. Fingers r crossed..

 

[kj6723]

The best pieces of advice I can give anyone who's struggling socially or romantically is 1) to spend all their free time on improving their appearance; and 2) to completely ignore what people say and just watch their actions: who are they f*****g? Who are they rejecting? Who are they choosing to spend time with, and which people get left out? Where's the common denominator?

What really opened my eyes to how detrimental baldness would be to my life was observing and paying close attention to the lives the bald men around me were actually living. What I could see was that the bald men were more often alone or single, more often passed over for promotions and opportunities at work, more often possessing of that hungry, attention-starved look in their eyes. They seemed, on average, to live lesser lives, and were thought of as lesser as well. It was indisputable, and a big eye-opener for me. I was honestly baffled at how obvious it was, when so many were telling me on the utmost of authority that balding was no big deal, that it was purely an issue of confidence and self-esteem.

What people say to each other in social situations, especially about touchy subjects (like personal appearance), is mostly a function of habit, politeness and tactical considerations. It rarely gives any meaningful insight into what they actually think. You listen to it at your own peril.

This 1000%

I can speak as someone who has lived at varying levels of attractiveness, the quality of life is not comparable.

It's the difference between trying desperately to say something clever enough to get noticed, and consuming peoples' attention and thoughts with a simple hello and smile

Forget working on your social skills, you will have more than enough opportunity for that. Become as good looking as you possibly can

 

[blackg]

The best pieces of advice I can give anyone who's struggling socially or romantically is 1) to spend all their free time on improving their appearance; and 2) to completely ignore what people say and just watch their actions: who are they f*****g? Who are they rejecting? Who are they choosing to spend time with, and which people get left out? Where's the common denominator?

What really opened my eyes to how detrimental baldness would be to my life was observing and paying close attention to the lives the bald men around me were actually living. What I could see was that the bald men were more often alone or single, more often passed over for promotions and opportunities at work, more often possessing of that hungry, attention-starved look in their eyes. They seemed, on average, to live lesser lives, and were thought of as lesser as well. It was indisputable, and a big eye-opener for me. I was honestly baffled at how obvious it was, when so many were telling me on the utmost of authority that balding was no big deal, that it was purely an issue of confidence and self-esteem.

What people say to each other in social situations, especially about touchy subjects (like personal appearance), is mostly a function of habit, politeness and tactical considerations. It rarely gives any meaningful insight into what they actually think. You listen to it at your own peril.

You're a smart dude. I like reading your sh*t. I wish I could articulate so well.

 

[blackg]

This 1000%

I can speak as someone who has lived at varying levels of attractiveness, the quality of life is not comparable.
It's the difference between trying desperately to say something clever enough to get noticed, and consuming peoples' attention and thoughts with a simple hello and smile

Another very insightful comment.

 

[CopeForLife]

I have. Was in a relationship when I buzzed, and eventually shaved it off. It looked awful. She dried completely up, rendering me incel while in a relationship. Several friends who saw me in this state stopped getting in touch. I turned into a recluse and refused to go out. lots of alcohol and junk food. It was the biggest low point of my life.

It gave me a window into what my life as a bald man would be like. Permanent hell, with no escape (growing it back).

Can relate to this...

Was buzzed with lowest guard felt bery bad, then alco, junk food, poor hygiene...

Now buzz with 4-6 feels better.

Last few days depression almost gone I even can write code for a few hours in a row.

But I feel that the new wave of depression is coming... Last was awful.

 

[Rudiger]

I have. Was in a relationship when I buzzed, and eventually shaved it off. It looked awful. She dried completely up, rendering me incel while in a relationship. Several friends who saw me in this state stopped getting in touch.

For the record zircon I have always enjoyed most of your "work" on here, in leagues way above other people I consider bullshitters.

But it's not just pulling women I find questionable (and for the most part it doesn't matter as this isn't the basis of your existence on this forum) but it's the whole package, the idea that you are saying with a straight face that your friends, obviously a platonic relationship, cast you away because of a shaved head, I mean how do you expect anyone to believe this?

The other thing is, if this had happened to me, I would be making much more noise about it, you wrote it in such a subtle and casual way like of course you lose friends over your hair cut- no surprises. In reality that is absolutely insane, and I've rarely read of anyone on here losing ANY, any friends at all, at least not so instantaneously, never mind several. At most people lose friends as they lose their hair because it eats at their personality and causes them to be introverted and mentally ill, but overnight people no longer wanted to know you?

On top of this, you seem like an intellectual sort of guy, I try to be or at least have friends who are, I'd be surprised if you had douchebro superficial friends, surely people who engage in high-brow conversations aren't going to dump you as a valuable friend "asset" because you shaved your head. I've known people who I've really liked in a humorous or conversational way, for sure, but there comes a "next level" friendship for those who I could chat with for hours about a book or film, and there's no way a shaved head is going to make me want to replace them.

Of course this is where it comes to a stand-still, it's my thoughts against your words, you can't say much else there's no way of proving anything here, but I just need to make it clear and ensure you see it from my viewpoint as a sceptic, this looks very strange.

 

[Assemblage23]

Everyone should do it, especially those who are scared to take finasteride. You'll rush to your Doctor to get an avodar script. It's an eye-opening experience, no more denial, especially for receders. Lost my mind when I was dumb enough to do it but it was a blessing in disguise. You will have to take my finasteride an my minoxidil from my cold dead hands.

 

[buckthorn]

I'll tell you what - if you have the whispy thin birds nest look going, long hair just looks disgusting. The short I go, the neater it looks. You can see the thinning more, and more balding spots, but it's better than the f*cking cobweb look. I am considering going down to a five soon.

 

[shookwun]

I'll tell you what - if you have the whispy thin birds nest look going, long hair just looks disgusting. The short I go, the neater it looks. You can see the thinning more, and more balding spots, but it's better than the f*cking cobweb look. I am considering going down to a five soon.

Lol that's no where near a buzz - 0 guard look.





0 guarding your head is a eye opening experience. I didn't realise how diffuse my head actually looked until I buzzed.


Half an inch of hair can disguise a lot

 

[buckthorn]

Lol that's no where near a buzz - 0 guard look.





0 guarding your head is a eye opening experience. I didn't realise how diffuse my head actually looked until I buzzed.


Half an inch of hair can disguise a lot

this post just made me throw up blood into my f*cking mouth. I already know how diffused I am. I have like 15% density left on the entire top.

 

[F2005]

Lol that's no where near a buzz - 0 guard look.





0 guarding your head is a eye opening experience. I didn't realise how diffuse my head actually looked until I buzzed.


Half an inch of hair can disguise a lot

Lots of guys' hair can look diffused after a 0 buzz. The former QB of my favorite football team had a very full head of hair yet he looked diffused in certain places when he buzzed it down. Also, I see from past posts that you're from around Fort McMurray, AB. Here in NY, I actually partied with a couple from there a few years ago after rockin out with Cinderella.

 

[F2005]

You partied with them?

I was actually friends with Cinderella's manager (in fact, I lived down the street from him).

Met all their wives/kids at social parties.

Wow, that is awesome. Yes, I've met 3 of the 4 guys: Tom Keifer, Jeff LaBar, and Eric Brittingham a few times. So now I think I know your location since I know where Cinderella is from. They're a very underrated band with some heavy, solid rock songs and some very good songwriting.

 

[F2005]

You probably do. In that case, I'll have to move . Just kidding.

Yeah, this was back in the early nineties. They were really big in the early eighties, and nineties. They
still are today.

Kiefer doesn't use drugs (if I recall correctly).

Their manager is from NJ. That's where I used to live. Since then, I live in Central Jersey.

Oh ok, I was gonna guess PA since that is where the band is from. Damn, Central NJ, huh? I'd bet you and I have been to some of the same clubs (Starland) and been at the same shows, and never even knew it. Hell, we could've even bumped into each other. Whereas northern NJ doesn't have much of a rock scene, I've found that central NJ has a very vibrant one. My cousin used to tell me about the old Birch Hill too.

 

[shookwun]

Lots of guys' hair can look diffused after a 0 buzz. The former QB of my favorite football team had a very full head of hair yet he looked diffused in certain places when he buzzed it down. Also, I see from past posts that you're from around Fort McMurray, AB. Here in NY, I actually partied with a couple from there a few years ago after rockin out with Cinderella.

Mate.

Its a no brainer

When you can see pigmentation, and density differences through ot the scalp from diffuse. When I shaved I literally could see diffuse patches in certain areas. More specifically on the sides of the crown. A weird pattern


When I look back; all the itching was in those particular places. However I could never see it while grown out.

Grown out passed an inch half-2 I can't even tell I had thin areas. However my sides and back have a darker pigmentation then the top. Its realy sad because despite my hair being saved by finasteride you can ever so lightly swe rhe pattern of a NW6. Just to put into perspective

 

[I.D WALKER]

Wow, that is awesome. Yes, I've met 3 of the 4 guys: Tom Keifer, Jeff LaBar, and Eric Brittingham a few times. So now I think I know your location since I know where Cinderella is from. They're a very underrated band with some heavy, solid rock songs and some very good songwriting.

They were a relatively big wig band ahead of their time.
In fact if I didn't know better I would say they wrote
a ballad specifically with us Androgenetic Alopecia victims in mind. You guys probably know it.
Don't Know What You Got (Till it's Gone)