Has Hairloss changed YOUR Personality?

[vipergts]

It has humbled me, frustrated me, made me loose confidence, less humorus, less passionate. I truly lack the drive and hunger I had 2 years back.

What hair loss has taught me: Bad Karma happens, the importance of being humble, Hair IS a big part of my image, bad things happen to good people, there are more shallow people out there than I had imagined, hair is important to some, but not all women, mind control is the biggest strength one could have and finally money can't alway buy happiness.

Please share your thoughts guys.....

 

[Aplunk1]

Hairloss = enlightenment.

Cherish it. :wow:

 

[Guest]

Well it has changed my thinking to some extent, not in a serious way but I tend to see the negatives about everything much easier than I used to. I'm all gloomy and doomy to an extent that it bugs even myself. I just lack the positive energy to achieve anything. I'm one of those ppl who took hair for granted, I thought I'd never lose it. I never mocked anyone who was bald so it isn't karma really in my case. I have also become a real people hater and hairloss has made me faulty in general.

 

[Maxpwr]

Well it has changed my thinking to some extent, not in a serious way but I tend to see the negatives about everything much easier than I used to. I'm all gloomy and doomy to an extent that it bugs even myself. I just lack the positive energy to achieve anything. I'm one of those ppl who took hair for granted, I thought I'd never lose it. I never mocked anyone who was bald so it isn't karma really in my case.

Yeah me too. I notice a huge difference to the way I think now and the things that motivate me. I have lost a lot of drive and motivation, especially as far as careers are concerned. These days I find I have to physically pull myself out of that gloomy and doomy state and force myself to focus.

Having said that, now that I know I can expect minimal results from my treatments I am starting to force myself to be motivated with regards to savings, investments and studying. These are the things that are going to gauge my success in life, not hair.... (more hair would be nice though :roll: )

Which brings me to a question: Does finasteride cause a lot of this by itself? I have read a lot of posts that suggest that taking finasteride makes a person lethargic, lazy, depressed... I find it pretty hard to get motivated to do something, but once I'm doing it there's no problem. I also find it hard to focus on certain things if I do not find them interesting.

 

[DaSand]

Since I noticed I had Mitt Romney's hairline at 15, it has made me aware of myself physically. I had an awful part in middle George Mcfly hair style through HS and college. I got jealous of guys who could grow their hair long without having to worry about it. It just seems like something about me was taken away. I sometimes wonder what I did to deserve this.

Hair Loss has taught me to be humble and realize you don't have it all. I can sorta figure why I was rejected, maybe because of my loss and also I didn't have a good personality. It also told me to build myself in ways that I can change myself like physical shape and personality.

But it would be nice for just one day, I didn't have it and I can grow it the way I want.

 

[k3nn7i]

yeah it changed me somehow. I'm more quiet. Lose the interest to hang out with buddies...
Almost everything changed. Tend to look at things differently now. Or maybe I'm just growing up. lolz.

Well, at least there is one thing I'm sure of, that is I have the motivation to be better than the others. Since I have lesser hair than them, I should just be better than the others in other aspects- study, work, body. Almost everything. LOL... :stupid:

 

[RaginDemon]

I changed a lot since I started losing it.

I am more quiet and I tend to go out a bit less.

 

[mulder]

Pretty much all of the above.

I think the worst part is really coming to realize how shallow most people are in certain circumstances. Also its disappointing to see how just about everyone takes genuine pleasure in others real pain (people love to see others squirm- within the limits of polite society of course- laughing at someones hair loss is perfectly acceptable...and no sometimes they're definitely not laughing with you).

On the positive side this has taught me to be much more considerate, a lot easier when you realize how cruel some regular day to day behaviour is. Also made me actually take more chances and try certain things I would have just put off...being dissatisfied with life is a big motivator sometimes....as long as you're still hopeful.

 

[chino20]

Yeah all of the above really. I used to be laid-back, be a bit of a joker. Now I see negatives in everything almost as if I'm looking for them, I let chances slip me by, can't get into relationships with women because I'm afraid they'd see the side of me that gets up, applies rogaine, swallows a pill, checks his hair 1,000 times per day, analyses shed hairs etc. I'm lazier now, just can't be bothered to make the most of my life and I would put most of it down to obsession with my hair.

 

[KielMcK]

Hairloss has given me more confidence in Satan.

 

[barcafan]

It certainly seems like it did that to me, im off it now as my hair has just gotten worse in the 6 months ive been on it.

 

[Nathaniel]

I have become more spiteful and hateful. I also watch other guys with great hair and feel jealous, like I wish I could have long hair, or grow it out and have a cool hairstyle that would contrast with my face.

It sucks man. I agree and sympathise with everyone who has posted on this thread.

 

[tonyunhawk]

Yes, it changed me a lot. I'm a nw6 in my 24, and shaved my head in 22, because it was no use already. My head is badly shaped, flat back of head. Some hair that is left created shitty pattern that is uneven, maybe it would be better to go bald completely. My hair was my strong feature, I looked well. I don't know why, but now I look very bad with hairloss, like an ogre, my appearance became very rough. The back or head has this classical 50 percent loss of hair, so there I look like an old ugly man, I can't even shave it off not to disgust myself, only with a razor it looks a little bit better, but still bad.
First of all, girls. They percieve me as something not for their life, especially young. The younger, the more severe alienation. Many of them don't look into my eyes, which tells pretty much how bad I look. They can say "hello" and then look into the ground. People just don't want to mess with somebody who looks bad. Girls don't smile to me, and this is a big contrast to what was before, when I didn't need to do anything, they liked my appearance. I just see how girls are mad about appearance, it's a god in this biological war. And this is right: in the long term, for survival of humanity not your abilities are important, but how you look, that shows your health. I also don't have strong facial features, I would never say "this man is pretty" if would see myself as another person. So, this war is lost. I didn't hear "you look good" for years already, and most probably won't hear again ever. I just switched to study of my profession that I enjoy, some hobbies. My friends... I have some, but a lot I lost, and I know they are picky about appearance, maybe they are idiots. Anyway, many of them were self-centered and felt superior to me, which is wrong, only idiots can behave like this.
I started to hate people, a little, but I know with years it will worsen up. The years pass, and I see how fast they go. I know almost for sure: I will be a single 30 y.o bald man, with a good profession, knowledge, but ugly. I hate them because of this unfairness, I know there's no such a thing in the nature, but I don't care. When I see my 18 y.o brother, and 2 girls sit in his room everyday and talk bullshit, and he is so stupid, I know a lot more, I study, but this all is nothing. Not a girl wiill love me. He has a long hair that he is proud of. This is normal, my life is not normal.
When I need to wear a hat, I think:wow, what a feeling, I can look like a normal guy, and I feel a minute relief, and this is when I realise how hairloss pressures me, everyday on public.
It stole my girls, and what's worse, hope for them.
It stole my appearance, I look bad and like an old man.
But I still enjoy my life, especially my work. I can concentrate, study, make some sports activities. But this is pretty much a loss, considering that i want a normal girl like any living creature, and I suffer from it much.

Hey askas that are very deep thoughts. And I can exactly feel what you mean it's so sad. hair loss is
a disease it's so painful a life without the things that are naturally normal to almost everyone.

>when I realise how hairloss pressures me

I know exactly what you mean I can repress as hard as I can
but then there's the day where the pain comes from the inside into your
consciousness and then you're down maybe for hours or days.

I really dunno what to do or think. I'm just empty.
I'm a very, very unsocial person and I wished that I would be much older maybe 45 or 50
and that I already had children and wife and so on, then everybody would give a fine f.
to my hairloss.


You still can concentrate that's good for you, we have to find our ways.
I can't concentrate because I'm totally piss'd off.

All the best for you.

 

[DaSand]

I have become more spiteful and hateful. I also watch other guys with great hair and feel jealous, like I wish I could have long hair, or grow it out and have a cool hairstyle that would contrast with my face.

It sucks man. I agree and sympathise with everyone who has posted on this thread.

I'm with you on that Nathaniel. I wish I didn't have the genes, I always wanted to grow my hair long but can't due to a thin frontal hairline.

 

[omgstfuty]

I have become a critical cu nt about pretty much everything.
However on the postive not, it has made me grow up more, become stronger and not take unecesarry bollocks from muppets.

It all falls in to place...........

 

[stampede]

Yes, it changed me a lot. I'm a nw6 in my 24, and shaved my head in 22, because it was no use already. My head is badly shaped, flat back of head. Some hair that is left created shitty pattern that is uneven, maybe it would be better to go bald completely. My hair was my strong feature, I looked well. I don't know why, but now I look very bad with hairloss, like an ogre, my appearance became very rough. The back or head has this classical 50 percent loss of hair, so there I look like an old ugly man, I can't even shave it off not to disgust myself, only with a razor it looks a little bit better, but still bad.
First of all, girls. They percieve me as something not for their life, especially young. The younger, the more severe alienation. Many of them don't look into my eyes, which tells pretty much how bad I look. They can say "hello" and then look into the ground. People just don't want to mess with somebody who looks bad. Girls don't smile to me, and this is a big contrast to what was before, when I didn't need to do anything, they liked my appearance. I just see how girls are mad about appearance, it's a god in this biological war. And this is right: in the long term, for survival of humanity not your abilities are important, but how you look, that shows your health. I also don't have strong facial features, I would never say "this man is pretty" if would see myself as another person. So, this war is lost. I didn't hear "you look good" for years already, and most probably won't hear again ever. I just switched to study of my profession that I enjoy, some hobbies. My friends... I have some, but a lot I lost, and I know they are picky about appearance, maybe they are idiots. Anyway, many of them were self-centered and felt superior to me, which is wrong, only idiots can behave like this.
I started to hate people, a little, but I know with years it will worsen up. The years pass, and I see how fast they go. I know almost for sure: I will be a single 30 y.o bald man, with a good profession, knowledge, but ugly. I hate them because of this unfairness, I know there's no such a thing in the nature, but I don't care. When I see my 18 y.o brother, and 2 girls sit in his room everyday and talk bullshit, and he is so stupid, I know a lot more, I study, but this all is nothing. Not a girl wiill love me. He has a long hair that he is proud of. This is normal, my life is not normal.
When I need to wear a hat, I think:wow, what a feeling, I can look like a normal guy, and I feel a minute relief, and this is when I realise how hairloss pressures me, everyday on public.
It stole my girls, and what's worse, hope for them.
It stole my appearance, I look bad and like an old man.
But I still enjoy my life, especially my work. I can concentrate, study, make some sports activities. But this is pretty much a loss, considering that i want a normal girl like any living creature, and I suffer from it much.

:bravo:

Props to you my man. I feel the same way.

It's good that you have the emotional honesty to say how bad the hairloss has affected you but also see that there are good things in life, hair or no hair, and that you should carry on working on them.

Last Friday, I was out with a colleague and I saw a girl (who was never really that keen on me) I went out with once, out with another guy who had a full head of hair. I thought to myself, I really can't hate her for it, but this just isn't fair. That man has done nothing to get hair, he hasn't had to work at it like you would have to to get a career. It's just something he's born with and something that will make him much happier. He doesn't need to take poison off some internet pharmacy to try and keep his scalp covered with a few wispy strands :thumbsdown:

It's hard getting my head round the fact that one or two genes being faulty has such an effect on my life. I've done nothing to deserve it.

 

[s.a.f]

Imagine you're the guy stuck in a wheelchair with some wasting disease or being a midget. Now who has the least chance of getting some pussay.
Or just imagine that you're just plain ugly, still feeling hard done by?

 

[omgstfuty]

Exactly what saf said.

Let me just make it simply for you.

YOU ARE ACTUALLY LIVING IN YOUR OWN LIFE, that is it, ther is no need to compare yourself to no bobdy, your actually living right now. well done, great job.lIt is totally up to you to live it.
Mnay people cant take that spirist and roll with it.
YET YOU FEEL LIKE YOUR FUCKED.
PERHAPS YOU LOSING HAIR IS A WAKE-UP CALL TO REMIND U YOU HUMAN AND NOT A GOD,f*****g LISTEN TO IT !!!!!!

 

[stampede]

Imagine you're the guy stuck in a wheelchair with some wasting disease or being a midget. Now who has the least chance of getting some pussay.
Or just imagine that you're just plain ugly, still feeling hard done by?

Of course, you're right, it could be a lot worse than hair loss.

But it feels like... I dunno... so near but yet so far if you get me... like the only thing that's missing is hair. Everything else is in place, I have a decent job with prospects, etc. It's just frustrating.

 

[omgstfuty]

lol u have become a twat pal, life sucks, i f*****g hate it, get me girl , ill marry herm sl*t, f*** off libertine u u ratlihertine dont f*****g judge me im nortehertn