How To Live A Happy Life As An Unattractive Man?

[Exodus2011]

Yeah, I know that it can be hard, especially for guys who have some level of aesthetics prior to the onset. But I think the majority of the male population that suffers from it does get to some form of acceptance over time.

Do you think you'll ever get to a "next stage" in your life, Exo? Or do you think will you still be pretty much where you are currently, ten-fifteen years from now?

no. honestly at the rate i'm going i'll probably just live with/semi parasite off my parents until they die. i say "semi" because of course i will still help around the house and such. the problem is my excuse is too good. going bald at my age + the inherent beta b**ch genetics of hapa males is quite a decent excuse to be doing something like that, a hell of a lot better than 90% of other NEET basement dwellers.

of course the main thing is i'm going to help them out so they won't be too pissed or feel like i'm dragging them down

if i get an okay hair transplant i'll have enough motivation to move out, thats what i'm working on now, getting a job. i applied for like 50 jobs 3 or 4 years ago but gave up after i got absolutely no where.

 

[Exodus2011]

my genetics are a f*****g laughable disaster. on top of everything else i have horrible allergies, my old allergy doctor said i had some of the worst allergies she had ever seen.

i had a public tantrum the other month because i had no sleep from a stuffed up nose so bad i couldn't half breathe, just flipped out and screamed at the world in my front yard. but now i realize i can channel that better by realizing i shouldn't feel guilty for being NEET/unmotivated with genetics like these

 

[Exodus2011]

As long as you accept that this is the way things will turn out I think you should be allowed to do that. But I find it weird that you think that having an excuse/not having an excuse is the main thing that should preclude someone from pursuing a NEET lifestyle. It's like your mind is formed so exclusively from consuming content that you are looking at your own life from the outside in, like a passive observer.

i don't know if excuse is a right word to use, but its more that i actually have a good reason to be NEET, like emotionally, unlike a lot of NEETs. i was always looking forward to working originally, i applied for jobs as soon as i turned 16. of course didn't get anywhere but still.

also lol at the presumptive last part assuming you know everything or even most things about me and who i am just from what i've said i act like in the past few years of basement dweller life.

 

[Exodus2011]

It's just a subjective assessment I'm making based on your posts.

you shouldn't be so confident in your assessment considering how much baldness changes you. i was so f*****g different before this hell. pretty sure a lot of us were

btw i might take back what i said about other NEETs , i actually do know 2 other NEETs who believe it or not are even uglier than me (both 5'2 and scrawny) so yea if thats anything to go by then they have real problems as well lol.

 

[CaptainForehead]

i applied for like 50 jobs 3 or 4 years ago but gave up after i got absolutely no where.

I applied for like 135 jobs over two years without success, till I finally got my current one.

Just sayin'

You are underestimating the amount of effort people put in to build their careers.

 

[CaptainForehead]

You will be more or less exactly where you are now in 20 years time.

That's what I'm afraid of

I also truly believe he can have a decent career if he puts in the effort.

 

[Exodus2011]

You might have been very different before but it's quite striking how you approach your own life similar to how an outside observer would approach someone else's. You are just passively observing your youth, and your life, wasting away, rationalizing the failure through your bad genetics.

Again, it doesn't really matter because you accept the consequences of doing so. You will be more or less exactly where you are now in 20 years time.

well i looked up rationalization, i'm always unclear on the definition, but i admitted my justification isn't rational. almost unarguably true, but still an emotional justification . i didnt lie about it.

I applied for like 135 jobs over two years without success, till I finally got my current one.

Just sayin'

You are underestimating the amount of effort people put in to build their careers.

over 2 years vs literally over 2 weeks. you pat yourself on the back for being some sort of masochistic constantly suffering jesus messiah. its not even moral, actually helping is moral. for example the volunteer stuff afro vacancy does

EDIT: talked to my NEET friend about the one job he had, that was the 3rd job he applied for . i can PM screenshots if you want

That's what I'm afraid of

I also truly believe he can have a decent career if he puts in the effort.

thing is i don't give a a rats *** about a decent career just lol. i've already said this many times to you

 

[CaptainForehead]

over 2 years vs literally over 2 weeks. you pat yourself on the back for being some sort of masochistic constantly suffering jesus messiah. its not even moral, actually helping is moral. for example the volunteer stuff afro vacancy does

EDIT: talked to my NEET friend about the one job he had, that was the 3rd job he applied for . i can PM screenshots if you want

Morality has nothing to do with it. My parents can't care for me, and I (try to) do what needs to be done to have a career in an industrialized country as a legal immigrant.

thing is i don't give a a rats *** about a decent career just lol. i've already said this many times to you

And THAT is the problem

 

[Exodus2011]

He will never put in the effort. I 100% guarantee it.

idk about 100% but right now i'd say the chances are 90. and btw there's apparently a lot of argument in neuroscience and psychology over whether free will even exists or not

 

[Baldingat188]

yea but like baldness is soooooo fundamentally different to other problems cuz we become a clearly obviously visibly inferior versions of our past selves.

this reminds me of my days feeling bad about my height when i went on bodybuilding misc, i didn't even think of myself as that short (5'6) but apparently it was "kill yourself" height on the misc. i got over it pretty easy considering i always had it, unlike with baldness. a lot easier to accept when you don't know anything else

Yea man I'm 5"6 to and if I could keep my hair I actually kinda like being short. I mean obviously I would rather be tall lol but what I'm saying is I could "accept " it. Bald I will never accept.

 

[Exodus2011]

Morality has nothing to do with it. My parents can't care for me, and I (try to) do what needs to be done to have a career in an industrialized country as a legal immigrant.


And THAT is the problem

how is it a problem? what matters is if i'm deadweight or not. not your masochistic BS. which tbh i am a bit right now, which is why i'm trying for a job again. probably won't find sh*t though

 

[Baldingat188]

Exo , I am in your same position - also applying for a job. It's hard and very discouraging when you keep applying and no one hires you but you have to keep going at it.

Have you had a job before?

Seriously dude I'm saying this because I want to see you succeed and I really think it would make a huge help just having a job. Would take a lot of getting used to but there is no reason for you to waste your entire life because of bad genetics. Bad genetics freaking suck , I have them to but the fact of the matter is you can still live a life that beats being a neet with bad genetics.

And for what it's worth you don't even look ugly. You just look like a normal dude on the street.

 

[Exodus2011]

Exo , I am in your same position - also applying for a job. It's hard and very discouraging when you keep applying and no one hires you but you have to keep going at it.

Have you had a job before?

Seriously dude I'm saying this because I want to see you succeed and I really think it would make a huge help just having a job. Would take a lot of getting used to but there is no reason for you to waste your entire life because of bad genetics. Bad genetics freaking suck , I have them to but the fact of the matter is you can still live a life that beats being a neet with bad genetics.

And for what it's worth you don't even look ugly. You just look like a normal dude on the street.

given a choice i would definitely prefer being mostly NEET, with maybe like 5-10 hours of easy work a week so i feel i'm contributing to society. as long as i dont live with parents or am dead weight to anyone. so yea honestly theres some laziness mixed in there, i hate work, i guess thats not unique at all though haha.

i mean ideally though i would like to be an artist but unfortunately i'm not creative enough, and being an ugly artist is laughable and cringey as f*** (assuming you aren't super successful artist i.e. moby). i don't consider art work however so i dont mention it haha

i've never had a job before.

and naw you don't have bad genes, your hair loss is minor.

 

[Baldingat188]

given a choice i would definitely prefer being mostly NEET, with maybe like 5-10 hours of easy work a week so i feel i'm contributing to society. as long as i dont live with parents or am dead weight to anyone. so yea honestly theres some laziness mixed in there, i hate work, i guess thats not unique at all though haha.

i mean ideally though i would like to be an artist but unfortunately i'm not creative enough, and being an ugly artist is laughable and cringey as f*** (assuming you aren't super successful artist i.e. moby). i don't consider art work however so i dont mention it haha

i've never had a job before.

and naw you don't have bad genes, your hair loss is minor.

If you never had a job you can't say if you hate work. I struggle with the same stuff to I procrastinate a ton and often I'm quite lazy. I'm not going to try to make assumptions about your situation but I find when you have a job everything in your life will go smoother. Even if you don't actually like going to work at first , just being in the routine of getting out of the house and doing something "productive" will make you feel better. You just need to get kick started in the right direction. Again , not saying it's easy cause I don't have a job either, but it is worth it. Also I've never been someone with many friends or who is good at making them - but work is one of the easiest places to make them I have found. And most of your co workers wouldn't care if you are "unattractive" as you feel you are.

Idk man , my genes are pretty bad lol. My final hair pattern is nw6-7 , I'm short , have bad genetics for health , and some other stuff but I'm trying to beat it. It is depressing though to compare yourself to chad all day but there is no point.

 

[Exodus2011]

this is getting depressing so i'll admit a bright side. i recently fucked a toy pussy like this one:

and i cudn't even nut. i swear it felt f*****g WEIRD. i think i might be too aspie (sensory processing issues) to have actual sex lmfao. i'm scared now of actual pussy f*****g, its gonna be embarassing if i stick it in and am like "uhhh this feels weird, i'm just gonna go now" xD

inb4 cope. i still am depressed as sh*t at just the actual fact of cute girls not liking me lol

and thats true baldingat18 but i dont want 40 hours of my life every week lost you know? its the time spent on it.

i'm so f*****g mentally ill i'm not passionate about like actually anything except being seen as/feeling worthy lol. most likely narcissistic personality disorder

 

[Stanx22]

Be nice

 

[buckthorn]

Anyone figure it out?

Is it actually possible?

Please no replies from good looking guys who had a pimple once or got a NW2 and now think they "know how it feels".

yes, just completely ignore what people think. Get some dogs and live in the woods and enjoy nature. The morons that say that humans need sexual interaction from other humans are weak and pathetic. Just get a couple good friends and you're good to go.

 

[Exodus2011]

Be nice

yea thats what you need to be, to women, aka the future of humanity, the ones who are currently in the process of taking over

 

[Exodus2011]

yes, just completely ignore what people think. Get some dogs and live in the woods and enjoy nature. The morons that say that humans need sexual interaction from other humans are weak and pathetic. Just get a couple good friends and you're good to go.

it took me a long time to admit it but i'm the total opposite of that. the meaning of life is being seen as good and worthy . i'd say everyone practically is like that as well, to a large extent.

 

[IdealForehead]

How did you get ssris without seeing a therapist?

Walk in clinics. They're not exactly hard to get. Anyone will prescribe them to you.