I Would Give Anything To Escape This

[zircon]

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[Roberto_72]

Your transplant will make your life better.
Hang in there.
PS: your thoughts were not irrational at all. In this day and age, having hair is essential to be liked in a sexual way. There are exceptions. Evidently neither you or I have been one of such exceptions.

 

[Afro_Vacancy]

There's a term: "cognitive tax".

In my case it's the cognitive tax of f*****g stemoxydyine, RU, minoxidil, nizoral, conditioner, needing to be careful on haircuts, and knowing that propecia would likely solve all my problems but possibly give me new problems.

Treatments need to be applied every day or close to it. Don't forget ! It's an anchor on the new day. Make sure to order replacements when supplies are low.

I'm going to New York for three days to visit family. I had to think about which toiletries to take. For most people it's toothbrush, toothpaste, floss, deoderent and they're done. No thinking involved. Very little space and weight in luggage. Thirty seconds of effortless and anguish-less packing. For me it's a more complex cost-benefit analysis. Add in the skincare products and the issue amplifies.

Most normal people can dedicate their precious intellectual and psychological energy to other important things. We only have so many fucks to give in a day, and I'm sure other aspects of my life have suffered as a result.

 

[I.D WALKER]

There's a term: "cognitive tax".

In my case it's the cognitive tax of f*****g stemoxydyine, RU, minoxidil, nizoral, conditioner, needing to be careful on haircuts, and knowing that propecia would likely solve all my problems but possibly give me new problems.

Treatments need to be applied every day or close to it. Don't forget ! It's an anchor on the new day. Make sure to order replacements when supplies are low.

I'm going to New York for three days to visit family. I had to think about which toiletries to take. For most people it's toothbrush, toothpaste, floss, deoderent and they're done. No thinking involved. Very little space and weight in luggage. Thirty seconds of effortless and anguish-less packing. For me it's a more complex cost-benefit analysis. Add in the skincare products and the issue amplifies.

Most normal people can dedicate their precious intellectual and psychological energy to other important things. We only have so many fucks to give in a day, and I'm sure other aspects of my life have suffered as a result.

Amen David MPN,
Also we cannot forget how the weekly weather forecast has taken on a more ominous meaning of it's own.., that is for the average overly taxed cognizant Baldite.

 

[Roberto_72]

There's a term: "cognitive tax".

In my case it's the cognitive tax of f*****g stemoxydyine, RU, minoxidil, nizoral, conditioner, needing to be careful on haircuts, and knowing that propecia would likely solve all my problems but possibly give me new problems.

Treatments need to be applied every day or close to it. Don't forget ! It's an anchor on the new day. Make sure to order replacements when supplies are low.

I'm going to New York for three days to visit family. I had to think about which toiletries to take. For most people it's toothbrush, toothpaste, floss, deoderent and they're done. No thinking involved. Very little space and weight in luggage. Thirty seconds of effortless and anguish-less packing. For me it's a more complex cost-benefit analysis. Add in the skincare products and the issue amplifies.

Most normal people can dedicate their precious intellectual and psychological energy to other important things. We only have so many fucks to give in a day, and I'm sure other aspects of my life have suffered as a result.

Don't forget that, for most people, the solution for bad hair days is taking a shower and drying hair. For us, washing our hair is the start of a new adventure about what it will look like

 

[KO21]

I couldn't agree with you more OP. I'm beginning my transplant journey by getting consultations and honestly the money doesn't phase me.

I would also gladly give away all my extra income for the rest of my life to obtain a full head of hair again. Hair loss has consumed my life for a while now and no amount of money is too much to be free of these thoughts and this depression.

It's getting to the point where the 'good hair days' are few very now. The combover is less effective now than it's ever been. I grab a hat the second I wake up now.

I even understand I'll need a second procedure down the line. But 20k for a hairline and not to think about hair loss for a few years? Sure.

 

[cyrusthegreat@hotmail.com]

"cognitive tax

Omg, this. It taints everything.

 

[Assemblage23]

Brace yourself it's going to be a big plunge. The days leading up to the procedure you will see your hairloss history flash before your eyes. It's extremely challenging.

 

[Roberto_72]

The girl I'm seeing now is great, in part because she's so hilariously cold and blunt. We were having a discussion and she told me that she felt the focus on looks in society was getting out of hand. She said we shouldn't be judging others on their appearance. "Yet you always left-swipe bald guys", I countered. Her answer: "well yeah, but I can't consider someone I'm not sexually attracted to for a relationship!"

That made my heart sink. My impression? She's not alone. Bald guys who manage to spark genuine attraction are a rarity. Her friends are all with NW1s and they are much less attractive than her.

I pray she'll stay through my transplant and recovery period. Legit best girl I've ever dated.

Have you ever heard about Hegel's theory on how people make the language but - in its turn - the language makes people?

For example, if a language has a structure and words that promote one group of people as opposed to another, the entire population will penalize the group that the language suggests being inferior, and they will do it without even realizing it.

Some theorize - for instance - that German is a sexist language for the way it associates neutral gender words to otherwise female concepts, whereas it always uses the male gender for male concepts. Overcoming a preconception is next to impossible when your language has no words that allow you to do it.

The years 2010s, thanks to the ease to take pictures and share them with apps of all kinds, are creating (IMO) a language that convinces people that the truest value is the aesthetic value.

With this regard, the bald person has never been so disadvantaged, as the new language has no words to promote him/her.

 

[kj6723]

As you guys know I'm getting my hair transplant early next year as well

I'm going into debt for it, but yeah, the money is inconsequential. Peace of mind is priceless.

The combover is making its final stand in my life(given the procedure is a success). Right now I'm wrestling with whether I should ride it out up to surgery day, or just getting a short cut/shave my head now. It is a liberating thought that if I were to cut it today, I will likely never deal with the combover again

 

[tellersquill]

Why would your career stall as a baldy?

My editor is a baldy.

Out of curiosity, how much is the hair transplant going to cost?

I don't deny that your wellbeing will improve upon having your locks restored.

 

[KO21]

As you guys know I'm getting my hair transplant early next year as well

I'm going into debt for it, but yeah, the money is inconsequential. Peace of mind is priceless.

The combover is making its final stand in my life(given the procedure is a success). Right now I'm wrestling with whether I should ride it out up to surgery day, or just getting a short cut/shave my head now. It is a liberating thought that if I were to cut it today, I will likely never deal with the combover again

I'm jealous man. Good for you. The day I no longer have to rock a hairline combover will be the best day of my life.

 

[tellersquill]

If you think about it, most people tend to spend a $1,000 a year on holidays and trips. If you go without that for fifteen years it pays for itself.

I'd consider getting one done if I were to become a NW4.

Are you concerned about what happens if it is successful but you keep losing hairs in non transplant areas?

Would you just get another one?

Because that's my concern with a hair transplant

 

[buckthorn]

my life as a bald man will be lesser than my current one with hair.

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Don't minimize how important this is. ever. All those dick faces that say, "just shave it" or "you will look good without hair"... where will they be when you actually go bald? pointing fingers and judging you.

You are courageous to get the transplant. Your life WILL be so much better. f*** your current partner. I mean, like f*** her of course and then f*** her. You're a goddamn warrior and a year from now you will be posting pics on here of your new self

 

[tellersquill]

Good call.

I'm a very slow receder but I only use nizoral and minoxidil. Still considering a hair transplant if I reach NW4.

 

[resu]

The girl I'm seeing now is great, in part because she's so hilariously cold and blunt. We were having a discussion and she told me that she felt the focus on looks in society was getting out of hand. She said we shouldn't be judging others on their appearance. "Yet you always left-swipe bald guys", I countered. Her answer: "well yeah, but I can't consider someone I'm not sexually attracted to for a relationship!"

That made my heart sink. My impression? She's not alone. Bald guys who manage to spark genuine attraction are a rarity. Her friends are all with NW1s and they are much less attractive than her.

I pray she'll stay through my transplant and recovery period. Legit best girl I've ever dated.

They are a rarity but not too rare because you always know one bald guy, one short guy, one ugly guy, one loser, one... that is the exception to the rule and beats all odds. These guys are always used as an example, "see, it doesn't matter, you just have to be confident, I know this one guy...".

 

[jd_uk]

I'm not sure if it was through reading about Hegel that I picked up on this, but yes I'm well aware of linguistic determinism and theories related to that. Your application in this context, and the understanding of image sharing on social media as a "language", are intriguing. I'll have to mull over those ideas for some time.

The age of image sharing and social media puts a huge premium on good looks, it's true, but beyond all it puts a premium on the absence of visible flaws. It makes sense: In today's world, you are not just someone to love or befriend, you are someone to be shared and presented to the outside world as a reflection of the worth of those around you. Someone with visible flaws, however genetic or beyond the individual's control these flaws may be, is by extension a reflection of low worth. Today's image-driven world of friendship, romance and desire therefore has no use for the bald man, just as it has no use for those with cleft palates, facial scars and crooked teeth. He is confined instead to a dark, austere netherworld of mediocrity and compromises. I might end up there eventually, but at least I'll have given it a good fight before I do.

I rarely post here these days, partly because I think so many people here have a skewed view of the world but will for this one. You're really comparing normal male balding to cleft palate? Yet again I can think of many men off the top of my head who are bald or balding and have attractive women in their lives. More and more I think dealing with balding is just a case od how you deal with it...styling wise etc ... Yes it can be sh*t...but practically any bald man can look decent/respectable if he gets regular close cuts and keeps himself in shape.

Good luck with the hair transplant but I hope you've researched it properly and thought of all the possibilities. I spent some time reading another forum recently and a poster called topcat gives some great insight to how corrupt many surgeons are and how many guys will regret their hair transplants in future because a master plan is not followed/bulk measurements taken etc.

 

[KO21]

I rarely post here these days, partly because I think so many people here have a skewed view of the world for this one. You're really comparing normal male balding to cleft palate? Yet again I can think of many men off the top of my head who are bald or balding and have attractive women in their lives. More and more I think dealing with balding is just a case od how you deal with it...styling wise etc ... Yes it can be sh*t...but practically any bald man can look decent/respectable if he gets regular close cuts and keeps himself in shape.

Good luck with the hair transplant but I hope you've researched it properly and thought of all the possibilities. I spent some time reading another forum recently and a poster called topcat gives some great insight to how corrupt many surgeons are and how many guys will regret their hair transplants in future because a master plan is not followed/bulk measurements taken etc.

Regarding this master plan, is there more to it than staying on medication / preparing for more transplants in the future if need be?

 

[jd_uk]

It's a calculated risk. There is no history of advanced hair loss in my family, so as long as I stay on finasteride I believe I should be able to maintain my native hair well. I've been on finasteride for four straight years now and am still at baseline.

I'll need another procedure down the line, that's a given. If things don't work out as planned that'll just accelerate the follow-up procedure in time.

See a surgeon who uses the haircheck device. It takes bulk measurements and can give an idea of your final hair loss pattern. Much more accurate than any miniaturisation testing/microsopic cameras. Some surgeons dont even bother using the latter and so really risk giving a guy a stupid look in future by transplanting aggressively. If someone is EVER gonna be a NW4-5+ then a low hairline could look really stupid if not done properly. I look at my NW6 dad and the fact is that if he had a hair transplant when younger he would just look stupid now. As it is, when he trims it short now it looks just fine. And remember..genetics tend to win out over finasteride long term. Finasteride is no guarantee and only slows hair loss.

Be careful is what im saying.

 

[jd_uk]

Regarding this master plan, is there more to it than staying on medication / preparing for more transplants in the future if need be?

See above. Sadly most hair transplant surgeons dont use all that is available to them. I dont mean to scare anyone with my posts because hair loss is such a mental f*ck up but i personally would recommend getting metrics taken. Dr Rassman in the USA uses haircheck to take metrics. Someone can look like a NW2 with no visible sign of thinning but the haircheck device can show a loss of hairbulk in a NW6 pattern compared to the donor area. It shows things on a macroscopic level. I just think people need to be careful when getting hair transplant's because i think all of us here, the types of people we are, will always care somewhat about our appearance. If you go to a pub or place where people are mainly older (40s+) then you will see just how common it is for men to bald all over. For these reasons i just think people need to be careful when planning hair transplant's.

Sometimes even not having one can be better than having one if you are not a good candidate for one and can save you from more stress in future. The hair transplant's I see on youtube when guys have densely packed hairlines...I personally cringe. Yes they look great short term. Maybe even for 5-10 years if on finasteride. But what then?