I Would Give Anything To Escape This

[tellersquill]

I think you can still go bald and do it with style. I always think Ralph Fiennes is a great example:

(edit: not that you have to do this, but its an option and proof you can look fine)..

 

[Dench57]

Ralph Fiennes is 53.

Here he was at 33.

 

[tellersquill]

Ralph lost a lot of hair quickly, didn't he?

I think Ralph looks handsome with little hair and he still has style without trying to do the macho skin head look.

 

[CopeForLife]

PM me if you want specifics. I'm only talking from experience. To me it seems you have trouble accepting that the perception of baldness differs from culture to culture, that it can be accepted one place (for example, in the milieus you frequent) and not accepted in another. Like I said, at the most recent party I went to there were zero bald men and with my NW3A I had the most aggressive hair loss of all in attendance. Why do you think that was?

As for my partner she was only being honest about her preferences, and based on conversations I've had with Tinder dates etc she is not alone in this. I accept it as it goes both ways. For example, she has a good slim figure. I wouldn't be attracted to her if she grew severely overweight or obese, another normal and common thing. And yes, she is legit one of the best girls I've dated, in part because she is so honest and straight in her communication.

I've talked about my experience in young aussie bar recently... I HOPED there will be at least 10% of bald/balding guys...

NW7 baldcel and me were the only plagued... I didn't even notice any NW2 let alone balding vertex!

I was in asian club a year ago and even there were some 30+ foreigners NO ONE BALDING. I WAS f*****g ALONE.

That is really matters – places full of young prime girls where you will not see any norwoodcels – not observations on the streets where you count bald men and cope with "ah there so many baldcels I am not alone!!!".

 

[CopeForLife]

Nobody to blame but yourself if you do that. Should really be common sense. I guess its just natural selection at work. No woman is gonna be reproducing with that weird fringed dumbass.

For me Wesley Snajders had one of the most amazing hair transplant (multiply sessions).

That hairline is ideal for me (but probably I'll get a bit deeper tho) since buzzcut suits me quite decent.

 

[N003]

I think you can still go bald and do it with style. I always think Ralph Fiennes is a great example:

(edit: not that you have to do this, but its an option and proof you can look fine)..

He looks good BUT it's a BIG difference if you become bald in your 20's or in your 40's and 50's.

Hair loss after 35,40 is a aging process it's just normal. I don't see many guys after 40 with a full hair head.

It is much less dramatic when you get bald when you are 35/40 + and the norwood level is also important.

But i understand dante and other younger guys.

 

[tellersquill]

Great point N003, I think it does get easier as you get older.

My tattoo artist is slick bald and went that way by the time he was 25. He said in his twenties it killed him but by his late thirties he didn't care that much, and now, by his late forties it doesn't bother him and he finds people don't mind either.

 

[tellersquill]

He mops up the odd woman because of his trade - tattoo artists.

I think its a bit like a bouncer - none of them are on amazing money but people see it as a cool job or something. Either way he gets the odd admirer and the occasional lay.

His negatives are that he isn't good looking to begin with and he is NW7 and 49, but because he is super bright, funny, and his trades gets him working on womens bodies for a lot of hours, he does still get laid.

Obviously this is one anecdotal example and does not represent all of UK society.

 

[buckthorn]

A lot of the thoughts expressed in this thread went through my head before my hair transplant.

Too bad my honeymoon phase has ended a long time ago. But still, sometimes I imagine myself without my 2000 grafts and I have nightmares about it: that infinite forehead, my facial features thrown out of proportion, looking so old already...

I know my crown looks pretty bad, but I don't have the same motivation that I had with my first hair transplant.

If I go through with it, I won't even see the results without a game of mirrors this time. I might change my mind when it's bald-bald though.

But I think I'm going to wait for those new treatments, they can't come soon enough.

I am very worried about getting even a conservative, soft one hair / graft hair line done. I have extremely coarse, BLACK hair. it's think. I don't see how people with hair qualities like mine can get conservative hair lines, because it seems it would look like a bunch of thick black spikes poking up every where, with scalp in between. Conservative hair line transplants only work for people with light, thinner quality hair.

 

[EvilLocks]

I am very worried about getting even a conservative, soft one hair / graft hair line done. I have extremely coarse, BLACK hair. it's think. I don't see how people with hair qualities like mine can get conservative hair lines, because it seems it would look like a bunch of thick black spikes poking up every where, with scalp in between. Conservative hair line transplants only work for people with light, thinner quality hair.

Are you kidding me?! You should feel blessed to have thick, coarse donor hair. It's the best type of hair for a transplant, period. As each individual strand is thicker, you will get optimal coverage from a hair transplant. And I don't think you should be worried about the hairline, a good surgeon will know how to place your grafts to make the most natural hairline. People with thinner individual hair strands are not the best candidates for a hair transplant, you on the other hand sound like an excellent candidate. Do it, this is your ticket out of this hell, buck. Grasp onto that rope and don't let go.

 

[buckthorn]

Are you kidding me?! You should feel blessed to have thick, coarse donor hair. It's the best type of hair for a transplant, period. As each individual strand is thicker, you will get optimal coverage from a hair transplant. And I don't think you should be worried about the hairline, a good surgeon will know how to place your grafts to make the most natural hairline. People with thinner individual hair strands are not the best candidates for a hair transplant, you on the other hand sound like an excellent candidate. Do it, this is your ticket out of this hell, buck. Grasp onto that rope and don't let go.

the more and more I think about it, I am not sure that it is. Looking at my Dad's head, and now my older bro's thinning, they have developed the crown that goes half way down the back, and the sides are thin too.. It would either be a ticket out of hell, or a final, brutal disfigurement. don't know what I am going to do. I wlll continue to work to tweak my regimen and find something that works.

 

[jd_uk]

He mops up the odd woman because of his trade - tattoo artists.

I think its a bit like a bouncer - none of them are on amazing money but people see it as a cool job or something. Either way he gets the odd admirer and the occasional lay.

His negatives are that he isn't good looking to begin with and he is NW7 and 49, but because he is super bright, funny, and his trades gets him working on womens bodies for a lot of hours, he does still get laid.

Obviously this is one anecdotal example and does not represent all of UK society.

There are actually women who don't mind or even like bald guy ya know... Yeah its sh*t when young but as long as you keep it tidy. What women tend to hate is any combover or grown out type balding style...or sometimes a complete sly look when it isn't yet necessary. Some people on here talk like something so common is a form of leprosy. Bald men do actually have sex out there lol...

 

[jd_uk]

I am very worried about getting even a conservative, soft one hair / graft hair line done. I have extremely coarse, BLACK hair. it's think. I don't see how people with hair qualities like mine can get conservative hair lines, because it seems it would look like a bunch of thick black spikes poking up every where, with scalp in between. Conservative hair line transplants only work for people with light, thinner quality hair.

I can see that. On the one hand you are blesses to have good characteristics for a hair transplant bur on the other hand as you say it may look unnatural in future. Only a very reputable hair transplant doctor can tell what is possible. If you are in the USA then i strongly recommend seeing DR Rassman/Dr Pak in California for an assessment. Its about not only the hair thickness but also the donor density and likely final balding pattern.

 

[tellersquill]

Zircon, I think I've learned that going bald is different for everyone.

While I don't like my own hair loss, it hasn't had devastating effect on me. So because of that I don't expect it to be so brutal for others.

However, being on here helped me learn a few privileges that I have. First, I'm 5'11, in decent shape, and have an okay face. Second, I'm barely a NW3 and have been losing hair for 10 years - that's a slow hair loss and I've had time to adjust. Third, I'm thirty, and that's so much better to have receding hair than at 19.

Being on here helped show me how brutal it can be and everyone experiences it differently.

 

[I.D WALKER]

the more and more I think about it, I am not sure that it is. Looking at my Dad's head, and now my older bro's thinning, they have developed the crown that goes half way down the back, and the sides are thin too.. It would either be a ticket out of hell, or a final, brutal disfigurement. don't know what I am going to do. I wlll continue to work to tweak my regimen and find something that works.

If I know you BT,
I wager you'll going to intelligently address/resolve one defined issue at a time. Naturally this may require additional emotional/mental exertion on your part, but as long as you err on the threshold of 'realistic expectations'
and set your objectives within the thermostat of your personal tolerance some of your lost stability will be restored.
Perhaps by organizing the present decisions overwhelming you most into a tier chart of priorities and a subsequent resolve
to completing each one, you'll garner some much needed breathing space to move on.
To a fault,I know a little bit about internalizing and processing overload.
When your plate is full, I find that by consuming smaller mouthfuls, some things are easier to digest.

 

[buckthorn]

If I know you BT,
I wager you'll going to intelligently address/resolve one defined issue at a time. Naturally this may require additional emotional/mental exertion on your part, but as long as you err on the threshold of 'realistic expectations'
and set your objectives within the thermostat of your personal tolerance some of your lost stability will be restored.
Perhaps by organizing the present decisions overwhelming you most into a tier chart of priorities and a subsequent resolve
to completing each one, you'll garner some much needed breathing space to move on.
To a fault,I know a little bit about internalizing and processing overload.
When your plate is full, I find that by consuming smaller mouthfuls, some things are easier to digest.

thanks brother. I have been doing better these last few weeks, because I have consumed myself with work and exercise. that's the only key for someone with such a plagued mind - always keep it busy before an infection turns into cancer.

 

[EvilLocks]

the more and more I think about it, I am not sure that it is. Looking at my Dad's head, and now my older bro's thinning, they have developed the crown that goes half way down the back, and the sides are thin too.. It would either be a ticket out of hell, or a final, brutal disfigurement. don't know what I am going to do. I wlll continue to work to tweak my regimen and find something that works.

I'm sorry to hear that. I hope you will find a regimen that works.

 

[Exodus2011]

Zircon, I think I've learned that going bald is different for everyone.

While I don't like my own hair loss, it hasn't had devastating effect on me. So because of that I don't expect it to be so brutal for others.

However, being on here helped me learn a few privileges that I have. First, I'm 5'11, in decent shape, and have an okay face. Second, I'm barely a NW3 and have been losing hair for 10 years - that's a slow hair loss and I've had time to adjust. Third, I'm thirty, and that's so much better to have receding hair than at 19.

Being on here helped show me how brutal it can be and everyone experiences it differently.

you really werent aware your hair loss was minor and almost totally unnoticeable until you came here?

it might have just been the shaved head in the pic but i could hardly see any balding

 

[tellersquill]

No, I noticed the hair loss at 21 but I've lost hair very slowly despite not being on treatments. I didn't realise how lucky I was until I saw how people can lose all their hair in a few years.

I'm just about a NW3 right now. I've lost a lot around the temples and I have slight thinning on the crown as well. At the moment it is really easy to cover with medium length hair - when I use toppik I look like a full head.

I'm just hoping it takes another ten years to progress to the next norwoord. By then there will be new treatments.

 

[infinitepain]

At least you're good-looking and >25. A little patience, and with the transplant all these problems will be gone. No more treatments, no more frustrations. Your life will get even better.

Transplanted hair will fall off if you aren't blocking DHT on your scalp.
In any case, the rest of your hair continues balding, so you can't live without treatments.

male pattern baldness genes = treatments for life.