Life After Nw3: Hell Or Merely Purgatory?

[CaptainForehead]

Why is your brother living an "incel" life. You can't take that money with you as I heard everything in heaven is "on the house".

We are both ugly with feminine features, that is why.

You raise an excellent point. My father recently asked the same question: what will happen to our money when we pass on.

 

[Joan]

Joan, you got me blushing now. You think Keanu still looks good in his 50's? A few years ago, my cousin showed a video of me when I was a teen and I had never seen that video before. Honestly, if I did not know that was me and was someone else I would have thought that kid is genetically blessed. If only I knew that when I was young maybe my confidence and self esteem would have been a lot higher. And in those days, no social media like we have today to make you feel even worse. So I had no excuse.

Hell, yeah! He's still got it. (And even EL agrees.)
I'm sorry you've been struggling with self-esteem issues for so long (I know that feeling all too well). And thank God there was no social media in our day. I would've felt worse, and I can only imagine what it's like to be young in today's world with all the exposure everyone gets. It has to be tough. DH, whenever I'm fixating on something, I tell myself I could be better, but I could be worse. Control what you can, change what you can afford, and remember that in 20 years from now, we'll wish were in our 50s again.

 

[buckthorn]

Ugliness is death. Apathy is simply a consequence, a symptom.

not true. Simple observation leads me to the conclusion that ugly people can live decent lives.

 

[CaptainForehead]

Understand the feeling. Unfortunately, I have the death sentence, the eternal nofap. It's called marriage....

Buy a laptop and drive somewhere secluded.

 

[resu]

We are both ugly with feminine features, that is why.

You raise an excellent point. My father recently asked the same question: what will happen to our money when we pass on.

Surely you could ask the escorts about your situation and tell them to just close their eyes while you plow them.

 

[CopeForLife]

not true. Simple observation leads me to the conclusion that ugly people can live decent lives.

I live a quite decent live. For the people outside.

Have a good payed job, hobby, traveled and live abroad for now. Never complain about everything IRL. If you think I behave in real life same as here – you're wrong.

No one knows how I suffer inside – do not judge people how only by how they look/behave on public.

The more you depressed the more you try to hide it on public and the more you suffer.

You can see that many even good looking people from Hollywood or just plain young people with fulfilling social lives, friends, whos social media is full of photos where the smile and having fun – committed suicide or secretly on the medications for depression.

"Simple observations" do not work with so complex creatures like humans are.

 

[EvilLocks]

Buy a laptop and drive somewhere secluded.

Lol. If I had a husband/boyfriend I would let him fap as much as he wants, it's a natural thing called sex drive and shouldn't be suppressed, well unless it involves children, violence or animals of course.

 

[hairblues]

All this talk of ageing has give me the drive to go buy retinol cream for the first time.

I bought this one:
https://www.amazon.com/Retinol-Correxion-Wrinkle-Night-Cream/dp/B00027DMI8

The CVS pharmacy had ... dozens -to-hundreds of different retinol products. It's nauseating. I just want what works and I want to keep it simple.

i dont know a lot yet about hair loss treatments But skincare i do know..

everyone is different but i have good response with a pure vitamin C serum in day and retinol serum at night.

I use Drunk Elephant vitamin C and Peter Thomas Roth 1.5% retinol..I don't need moisturizer with these two my face sort of self hydrates now...also love a pumpkin mask by Peter thomas roth i use like 1 or 2x a week it exfoliates but does not dry me out.

also getting facials is good it keep pores small if you start doing it young--just be wary of then selling you stuff...been getting them since 25 about 1x a month--been slacking on it past few years but i think the stuff i am using is exfoliating.

I was told skin starts to age at 25. something to do with colagen production. If you have oily skin young this is actually GOOD for aging just keep on top of it with a good facials and be wary of products that have fragrance or other stuff in them...sometimes can have fantastic ingredient and they mess it up with additives or poor packaging.

if you like to research products they have on Paulas Choice an encyclopedia of various products and break down chemically which ones work best for price etc.

if you want to try and return Sephora at least in USA has a good return policy if something does not work out for you.

http://www.paulaschoice.com/beautyp...4966257&Nr=AND(Site:beautypedia,Locale:en_US)

 

[Joan]

Understand the feeling. Unfortunately, I have the death sentence, the eternal nofap. It's called marriage....

Um, maybe I'm missing something here, but doesn't marriage negate the need to fap?

 

[Joan]

Lol. If I had a husband/boyfriend I would let him fap as much as he wants, it's a natural thing called sex drive and shouldn't be suppressed, well unless it involves children, violence or animals of course.

Men don't need to fap (unless they still want to) when they have a significant other.

 

[Rudiger]

I live a quite decent live. For the people outside.

Have a good payed job, hobby, traveled and live abroad for now. Never complain about everything IRL. If you think I behave in real life same as here – you're wrong.

No one knows how I suffer inside – do not judge people how only by how they look/behave on public.

The more you depressed the more you try to hide it on public and the more you suffer.

You can see that many even good looking people from Hollywood or just plain young people with fulfilling social lives, friends, whos social media is full of photos where the smile and having fun – committed suicide or secretly on the medications for depression.

"Simple observations" do not work with so complex creatures like humans are.

I like this post because it's a good summary of the fact that yes, we do not know how people live in secret and what's happening behind the mask.

However I'm not sure if it's correct that we can't ever make assumptions about people because of you and others in a minority, who are an example of how we shouldn't. You mention celebrities, well for every 1 actor that has suffered, there's probably a dozen who live functional and normal lives (forgive me on generalising without any hard facts but I don't think this is a crazy assumption, and I'm taking into consideration that Hollywood is a fucked up place and fame can mess with people quite easily). In England I saw a documentary about footballers with depression, 90% of it was focused on pretty much the only 2 or 3 cases in the past 30 years where a footballer killed himself, the rest was about how competitive sport really messes with the psychology of an individual etc. Although it was interesting, really this is not a prevalent thing, inevitably you will get depressed and suicidal people in any walk of life.

I don't think the exception becomes the rule, that's all.

 

[CaptainForehead]

sex drive and shouldn't be suppressed, well unless it involves ... violence or ...of course.

Depends

 

[whatevr]

We had elections here today and I was part of the committee so for the first time in a long while I got to see the town blooming with people of all sorts all gathered at the same place.

Faces I haven't seen in a long time, that used to be kids, now all grown up into 18-year old hotties or cool guys. Spiked up NW1's everywhere, short skirts everywhere...

I'm there with my NW2 barely able to cover the temples for some shitty semi-NW1 look, but the hairstyle sucks and for anyone even slightly observant it's clear I can't do much with my hair - certainly no match for the style of other younger people or even others my age.

I get home semi-depressed thinking about what my life will look like if I fail to maintain and go past this point. When I'm just gonna be that receeded dude that guys will hang out with for laughs and women will no longer give me marginal attention and treat me generally positively like now, but as some kind of laughing stock that would never even be considered as a potential partner or one night stand. Standing in front of the mirror, undoing my shitty cover-up hairstyle and exposing the crap that is my right temple which for some reason has receeded a lot more than my left, just fearing, fearing for the future.

Picturing myself being even in my late 20s as some NW4 prick that will sit in his house depressed for a couple of months before finally putting a lead ball right in one of his shitty temples that have now almost merged with the crown at the middle of the head.

God help me if I fail to maintain.

 

[hairblues]

I live a quite decent live. For the people outside.

Have a good payed job, hobby, traveled and live abroad for now. Never complain about everything IRL. If you think I behave in real life same as here – you're wrong.

No one knows how I suffer inside – do not judge people how only by how they look/behave on public.

The more you depressed the more you try to hide it on public and the more you suffer.

You can see that many even good looking people from Hollywood or just plain young people with fulfilling social lives, friends, whos social media is full of photos where the smile and having fun – committed suicide or secretly on the medications for depression.

"Simple observations" do not work with so complex creatures like humans are.

your not wrong about this--i have so many friends or family in unhappy marriages and they present this facade of happy romantic love life--then i have friends who are in happy marriages they rarely post pics or talk about where they go etc except maybe special trip or something.

I sometimes think unhappy people have to create some facade.

 

[buckthorn]

I sometimes think unhappy people have to create some facade.

Not a single person close to me knows of my depression and they never will. I have been going through it for years, and no one knows. Depressed people cannot talk about it, because unless it's Cancer or an urgent, life-threatening disease, it's disregarded.

 

[buckthorn]

Um, maybe I'm missing something here, but doesn't marriage negate the need to fap?

Only with you Joan. Only with you. Most women (and men) aren't open or experimental enough to keep the sex life interesting.

 

[Joan]

Only with you Joan. Only with you. Most women (and men) aren't open or experimental enough to keep the sex life interesting.

Men?!!? I doubt that. They're probably game for pretty much anything.
Honestly, though, I would feel just awful if my husband had to resort to satisfying himself. I'd think a man would feel the same about his wife/GF too.

 

[Joan]

Actually, I'm a very loyal guy. Believe it or not.

In fact, I even watch those stupid shows like Marriage Bootcamp (when I'm not sleeping).

Now, stop trying to lead me down the path of sin, Miss Joan. I am wise to your ways!

I've been here for almost two years!

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Lol, don't panic. I wasn't offering.

 

[Joan]

Too bad you weren't.

If I gain my hair back, (unlikely), from Histogen, you'll be offering!

Looking forward to it!

Not unless it's a foursome.
And if--I mean when--you get your hair back, you'll be getting young hotties.

 

[Rudiger]

Um, maybe I'm missing something here, but doesn't marriage negate the need to fap?

Oh the innocence.

The sexless marriage is not a myth, I'm not saying it's completely prevalent but I've known too many guys who get married and suddenly everything dries up. There's a few extreme cases where it's really bad- I'd say just once a week should be an issue but that appears common, I've known others where once a month or even like every 6 months is no surprise, and even sexless marriages aren't completely rare.

Even a relationship somewhat dries up after the initial f*****g like rabbits stage, maybe after a few weeks to a few months, it starts to get plain anti-social. I think people expect a new couple to spend a lot of times indoors in privacy initially, but when it gets to a point where it's ALL you do, your friends are no longer understanding. Adjusting to this in a relationship can be confusing as it's hard to know if you're insulting your partner by holding off on as much sex (well let's be honest, it's always going to be the female who slows things down) but from there you need to figure out what's acceptable, staying up until 3am most nights means an awful work life, etc.

Anyway, if every wife was guaranteed to have your attitude Joan I'd literally be married years ago.