Why dont u try progesterone instead of estrogen. Progesterone fights with testosterone over 5 ar II which is why finasteride is a little scary. Allopregnanolone is the metabolite of progesterone and is an important nuerosteriod. Nerve damage is probably the cause of all finasteride sides not lack of dht although it does play a role in tissue repair for ur manly parts, beard growth etc. So in bro science theory if you didnt want to take finasteride; you could increase progesterone, and it would fight testosterone for 5 ar, meaning less dht more Allopregnanolone. Purely bro science , im not a biochemist.
As for op, its either roll the dice or face the inevitable.