Hello to everyone here.
I will keep this very short.
Treat your obsession / depression for hair loss and not hair loss itself. Go to a proper psychiatrist and leave ego at the door. Accept that you are losing hair or have lost your hair, buzz it or shave it, then move on.
The psychiatrist, along with medication and cognitive behavioral therapy will help dive deeper into the real issue that manifests as hair loss.
Do not lose your precious years over something no one cares about except yourself and perhaps a few unfortunate superficial people you bump into.
You won’t be able to do this yourself. Psychiatrist, medication, behavioral therapy, time and - if you have the privilege - support from your loved ones.
There won’t be any cure. There won’t be any treatment. I the only obstacle standing between the current “you” and the future version of “you”, free from all of this, is your brain.
I’d also like to mention that hair loss is a laughable “disease”, once you break from your shell and find out what actually goes on in the world. Or if you are unfortunate enough to experience an actual “bad” situation that - I promise you - will erase your balding concern in spectacular fashion.
Get treated. Be free. You are worth a lot more than your hair. Also, since a hot issue here is finding a female partner, you will be amazed at how many females are single at your age. This will be part of CBT but in short, going out and becoming a sociable person - along with medication and avoiding bad stimuli - guarantees success.
Have a great day.
f*** that, your visible identity is part of who you are, tell that to people who are disfigured from accidents.
No, the reality is that your appearance matters and is directly related to your subjective enjoyment of life because your appearance is a passport to that. I know because I've looked my best and seen how incredibly different people will treat you, especially women.
I'm pretty right wing, and when you're attractive with a full head of hair and you look appealing to women, it doesn't matter what kind of triggering goes on and how offended the woman gets over the things you say, half of the woman's brain is perpetually trying to convince the other half to make babies with you. That's the sh*t tier baseline reality for men, you're either doing that to a woman's brain by just standing there or you're being ignored and marginalized.
Anyone who wants to live life as a monk is just wasting their time, it is men, not women who are supposed to be, intended to be egoic creatures, it is your MO and the MO of all men in this world.
I love that power, your egoic power at its height is like riding a powerful cavalry horse through disorganized lines of peasant militia who want to hack you down. Especially if you think this world is a horrible place full of mostly horrible crab bucket motherfuckers as I do, it's directly attached to your enjoyment of this world knowing your looks are a passport to making things work your way regardless of how much people hate what you stand for.
That's the sad fucked up reality of this world, if I didn't have unfinished business here, I'd have probably checked out long ago and I believe in reincarnation and truly f*** that, I never want to come back to this wretched place.
Look around you, everything that shines and glimmers of industrial and technological power has its roots in a man motivated by his dignity.
Less so in the drone-level office culture of this world, but think about it, literally nothing of value in this world would ever have been attempted were it not for a man feeling a supernova of pride knowing he was either part of it, or was the cause of it solely. The world benefits when the dignity of men is at its highest, and while some men can absolutely manage looking bald, others hit their appearance max with hair and that's not something that can be overlooked.
In this wretched world looks matter, its your armor, it's your weapon, this world and IMO this OP is out to handicap you. I don't look down on people who are impaired in appearance, but I'll be damned if I'll allow myself to be.
Being upset about losing your hair is no less valid than being upset about losing a limb, it's the same thing, existentially your appearance makes or breaks you unless you just want to slave away for others out of the eyes of the public. It's not something that requires "treatment" like you're crazy, you need to get your f*****g hair back, and thankfully there are people on this forum proving that is possible even without a hair transplant.
You don't need to go to some head shrinker to essentially tell you that you don't deserve your dignity, much as the OP is essentially saying as well, no, there is literally zero point and you are probably in some way contributing to somebody else's egoic rise if you aren't at your apex yourself.
