SAF, is it possible to look 20 at age 30?

CCS

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:phone:
 

cuebald

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I'll believe it myself when I see the proof, mate.
you know of any?
 

s.a.f

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Well no ones trying harder than you. :whistle:
 

Bald Dave

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Why would anybody try to look 20 at age 30? Firstly 30 isn't old and secondly alot of men are in their prime when they get to 30. CCS just give up this obsession mate and live your life :hump:
 

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Bald Dave said:
Why would anybody try to look 20 at age 30? Firstly 30 isn't old and secondly alot of men are in their prime when they get to 30. CCS just give up this obsession mate and live your life :hump:

30 is the new 20 :whistle:

I agree with BD there. I like being 30+, the number doesn't bother me at all... I also don't care if I look older than the 20 yo's. Why would I want to look like them in the first place?

As long as I am mentally and physically healthy I'm happy... I like being experienced, I laugh at the stupidity of the kids.
 

s.a.f

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CCS's problem is that he's missed out on his youth and now he wants it back.
I think he's frightend of what the future holds and does'nt want to face it so he's living in a fantasy that one day he'll get back all the experiences that he's missed out on.

Yes 30 is'nt really old but most 30 yr olds have had a good deal of fulfilment and life experience to look back on and are in a good situation to settle down and face whatever the future holds.[attachment=0:caudgr2b]PR81463.jpg[/attachment:caudgr2b]
"Who needs to grow up? Come join us CCS"
 

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patagonia

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what happened to CCS´s 20´s ? who took em away?!

im already pissed as f*** with the bastard that stole CCS´s years away......

seriously, fill me in on the prequel.... what happened...?
 

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S.a.f, i think although you give CCS hard time, you actually sympathize with him alot, maybe its because you missed on your 20s too, same way CCS right now, but maybe you should ask yourself what would change your atitude back then (do you think someone preaching you over the internet would have changed it ?....)
 

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I really understand and relate with CCS but I have "figure out" a couple of things that I remind myself of all of the time:

There are no set rules as to what a person should experience at certain ages in their life.

The value of suffering and being in emotional pain at any time of your life is immense.

Reflect on your pain and turn it into wisdom.

Striving to become something you never were will just lead to more suffering and self-absorption.

Your life is right NOW, not in the future or the past. Right now is the only thing that exists.

Stop walking on a hamster wheel.
 

CCS

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s.a.f said:
CCS's problem is that he's missed out on his youth and now he wants it back.
I think he's frightend of what the future holds and does'nt want to face it so he's living in a fantasy that one day he'll get back all the experiences that he's missed out on.

Yes 30 is'nt really old but most 30 yr olds have had a good deal of fulfilment and life experience to look back on and are in a good situation to settle down and face whatever the future holds.
"Who needs to grow up? Come join us CCS"

Summed it up well. I spent my childhood in a whacky religion. Yeah, I had fun hiking and such, but I was so obedient to my religion that I turned down a hot girl who wanted to be my girlfriend in 5th grade. That was before my hairloss, and before my acne. Severe acne from 6th grade to 11th. NW2 in 7th grade, NW3 by age 17, NW4a by age 21ish. Yeah, and from 19 to 22ish, I gave all my pay checks to my parents to help them save their house. My coworkers could not understand why I did not want to get a new paint job for the car I was driving. Kept telling me how to dress to get women, but I did not have any money. Then I went into the military, got out, was really depressed, and spent the next 6 years in college getting C's and working for $7 per hour, unable to get an internship with my C average. All I wanted to do was work longer hours and save for hair grafts, which I got transplants. Now girlfriends or dates, except two women who used me and did not give much in return. I thought engineering was my only escape, but I could not focus. I became much happier when I made twice minimum wage delivering pizza and had my own vehicle for the first time in my life (instead of riding a bicycle everywhere like the previous 6 years), and discovered that hair pieces are an option and that I do have hope. I still want to thicken and lower my hairline, build a little muscle, and make a few other improvements, so that women in my league won't have any physical reservations about me. And I absolutely do not want to marry a woman who is not as nympho as I am.
 

s.a.f

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CCS said:
I spent my childhood in a whacky religion. Yeah, I had fun hiking and such, but I was so obedient to my religion that I turned down a hot girl who wanted to be my girlfriend in 5th grade. That was before my hairloss, and before my acne. Severe acne from 6th grade to 11th. NW2 in 7th grade, NW3 by age 17, NW4a by age 21ish. Yeah, and from 19 to 22ish, I gave all my pay checks to my parents to help them save their house. My coworkers could not understand why I did not want to get a new paint job for the car I was driving. Kept telling me how to dress to get women, but I did not have any money. Then I went into the military, got out, was really depressed, and spent the next 6 years in college getting C's and working for $7 per hour, unable to get an internship with my C average. All I wanted to do was work longer hours and save for hair grafts, which I got transplants. Now girlfriends or dates, except two women who used me and did not give much in return. I thought engineering was my only escape, but I could not focus. Finally dropped out, and became much happier when I made twice minimum wage delivering pizza and had my own vehicle for the first time in my life (instead of riding a bicycle everywhere like the previous 6 years), and discovered that hair pieces are an option and that I do have hope. I still want to thicken and lower my hairline, build a little muscle, and make a few other improvements, so that women in my league won't have any physical reservations about me. And I absolutely do not want to marry a woman who is not as nympho as I am.

This is very similar to IBM's story the religion and the having to help the parents financially.
A series of events has steadily eroded your self confidence and now feel that you have to 'prove' yourself, some kind of confidence compensation? I think you derogitivley overestimate how others view you.
 

Eureka

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I don't think you should spend your 30's wishing you had lived your 20's, that will only lead to spending your 40's wishing you'd lived your 30's.

The point is living "now"

I'm a hypocrite because I myself don't do this.. However it still seems like a nice message.

I wonder at what Point you accept that merely being bothered by hairloss has turned into http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Body_dysmorphic_disorder
 

Flavio

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I am 32 and I hate it. On the other hand, my sex life has never been better. I had to wait until I was 30 to start having really great sex.

And, of course, thanks to finasteride and minoxidil, I have more hair than many 20 year old guys. :)
 

patagonia

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I think its positive for CCS to have a place like these forum to be able to comunícate what is going on with him. He comes here to listen to the thoughts and advice on his issues… He knows there are members (SAF included) in here who have walked a bit more in life and have his best interest in mind .



Just a thought……
 

Harie

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So I'll answer this question since no one else has.

Drop weight
Build muscle
Get a spray on tan (too much sun damages your skin)
Moisturize your face like it's going out of style.
Look into anti-aging creams etc. Yes, they are for women, but will work on men too. Stuff to minimize bags under eyes, black circles under eyes etc.
Eat cleanly
Drink a ton of water
Exfoliate your skin
If you want, look into mild skin peels for your face.

That's as good as you can get short of going to a cosmetologist (sp).
 

s.a.f

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Harie said:
So I'll answer this question since no one else has.

Drop weight
Build muscle
Get a spray on tan (too much sun damages your skin)
Moisturize your face like it's going out of style.
Look into anti-aging creams etc. Yes, they are for women, but will work on men too. Stuff to minimize bags under eyes, black circles under eyes etc.
Eat cleanly
Drink a ton of water
Exfoliate your skin
If you want, look into mild skin peels for your face.

That's as good as you can get short of going to a cosmetologist (sp).

For Christ sake guys!
Here I am trying to talk some sense into him and you go and encourage him to continue with his paranoid deluded ocd's.
He does'nt need all that sh*t he just needs to come to terms with who he is and accept himself and all his minor flaws, only then can he move on and start being productive with his life.[attachment=0:3g68qcn3]img_4.jpg[/attachment:3g68qcn3]

This is the kind of guy CCS is trying to be:
Its not going to happen, and he's just building himself up for a fall.
 

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Harie

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s.a.f said:
For Christ sake guys!
Here I am trying to talk some sense into him and you go and encourage him to continue with his paranoid deluded ocd's.
He does'nt need all that sh*t he just needs to come to terms with who he is and accept himself and all his minor flaws, only then can he move on and start being productive with his life.

So because someone wants to look younger, they've got OCD (I think the actual term you were looking for is BDD - Body Dismorphic Disorder)? Or if someone wants to have more muscle, they've got BDD?

Why not make yourself look as good as you can in combination with living your life?

And it's not like anything I mentioned was harmful or dangerous. I didn't tell him to get plastic surgery or to get a penis extension surgery. Why accept who you are physically when you can change it for the better? Would you tell a guy that was overweight not to lose weight because "he should just accept who he is"?
 

ali777

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Is this like the AA meetings where people tell about their lives?

I've spent most of my 20s having fun and being irresponsible, and I'm paying the price for it now... I had my own income very early in my life, and having financial freedom spoilt me. I grew up working hard, and trying to make something of myself but in my 20s I thought I had it all, and I became complacent.

In my late 20s I tried to put things into perspective, but it all went wrong. I turned 30 with no money in my pocket... So, I'm trying to do it all again. Turning 30 and asking dad for help is not a nice feeling...

I signed a job contract today, but there is another contractual obligation that I sort of messed up and it might cost me dearly in the future (I don't want to go into details). So, the foreseeable future isn't exactly bright for me. I try to be philosophical about it. I would like to think I learnt from my mistakes, and that I'm a better person now. My only hope is that I don't pay more for my mistakes than I already have, I'll try to sort everything out in the next month or two and move on to my new job.....

I know I'm not a loser, I have a postgraduate degree, but because I have no money I feel like a loser. There are some girls that I like, but I don't want to ask them out because I don't feel like I can be a good bf right now. So, I only look for short term fun with girls, but that's not what I want.
 
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