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Yep Joan, when I said I don't talk about women in bed, I do sometimes, but not even to shame or ridicule, but if there's a serious issue. Being poor in bed would be that issue, sex is important, if she's not trying or doesn't seem interested, or is selfish, that's a bad sign of things to come, and I do talk to the same few close friends about that. I also don't really blame others if they just want to talk about it, women or men, with close friends, just because it's a part of life and people can talk about it.
I don't know why people talk about it in large groups, but as a guy, this is really prevalent with men. Especially in more "macho" scenarios, football training, pubs, "lads weekends", it all comes out, now obviously I don't know what women are like in groups with just women, but the impression I get is that a woman talking about it in large groups would just be seen as lacking class. I mean, I don't know for sure, probably at the time they'll all find it funny and spur on the girl who's talking about it, but I've known girls who talked about such situations and afterwards definitely felt sorry for whatever guy was being made fun of.
Maybe women would get away with talking about a guy "anonymously" but if they all know the guy and she's shaming him, I actually do think some of the women will just think she's being a b**ch and will have sympathy. I'm not sure how many guys feel that sympathy when it comes to guys slagging off women, but I guess it can be hard to tell when everyone appears to be in that group mentality.
Well, technically you've proven me wrong here on how I said you must not know any women, but also this girl is totally different to 99% of girls anyway, so that kinda defeats the purpose of getting to know what actual women are like.
I don't know why people talk about it in large groups, but as a guy, this is really prevalent with men. Especially in more "macho" scenarios, football training, pubs, "lads weekends", it all comes out, now obviously I don't know what women are like in groups with just women, but the impression I get is that a woman talking about it in large groups would just be seen as lacking class. I mean, I don't know for sure, probably at the time they'll all find it funny and spur on the girl who's talking about it, but I've known girls who talked about such situations and afterwards definitely felt sorry for whatever guy was being made fun of.
Maybe women would get away with talking about a guy "anonymously" but if they all know the guy and she's shaming him, I actually do think some of the women will just think she's being a b**ch and will have sympathy. I'm not sure how many guys feel that sympathy when it comes to guys slagging off women, but I guess it can be hard to tell when everyone appears to be in that group mentality.
I had a female best friend. Well, she's still my friend, but she pretty much disappeared since she got her kid. We still talk every now and then.
And man, this girl is as honest as they make it. She was the first one to tell me, when I was talking about an infidelity, full of guilt:
"You don't have to give a sh*t, you don't owe any girl anything, I'll teach you to become heartless, that will do you good in the long run!"
Only a girl can teach you to become 'heartless'. She was right by the way. That doesn't mean you need to be an a**h**. She isn't one.
And I'm not one. But caring too much about others won't do you good. I always wanted to help everyone in the past, to be what they call a 'captain save a hoe'.
To be good, at all times, a model of integrity. I'm serious. What did I get out of it? Well, I was treated like crap by the girls (and the guys) of course.
Since I've been thinking about myself first and foremost, I'm happier, and everyone around me is happier.
So yeah, one of FredtheBelgian's biggest real-life inspirations in life: a woman. And she isn't the only one.
Well, technically you've proven me wrong here on how I said you must not know any women, but also this girl is totally different to 99% of girls anyway, so that kinda defeats the purpose of getting to know what actual women are like.