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There's a long-running misguided debate on this forum (and in general society) as to the merits of looks versus personality. This debate assumes that these are separate variables. They are not, as better looks (particularly effortless looks) facilitates a better personality.
I have 3,477 posts on this forum, and a few hundred private messages as well. I have a cupboard that includes minoxidil, stemoxydine (needs to be ordered online), RU58851 (needs to be ordered online), will soon include alfatradiol (needs to be ordered online), nizoral shampoo, special conditioner -- I cannot use finasteride. I also need to worry about skin, teeth, eyes, body composition, my nose apparently, and how to partition limited money among them.
All of this leaves me jealous of the people who can focus on living life and on their hobbies and pursuits. The people with full heads of hair, those whose stomachs are full after one slice of pizza, who never get acne, they don't need to worry about their looks. They can read more books, watch more movies, do better at their jobs, go travelling with their extra money, or perhaps start investing in the stock market or in housing. They can then feel proud about themselves for having invested their time and money wisely, for being more responsible, and for being more awesome people. If they have anything in this world, it's because they deserve it.
I would really love to live in a world where I knew nothing about DHT, hair loss patterns, hormones, carbohydrates versus fats, hydrogen peroxide, zinc, aromatase inhibitors, flaxseed, soy, minoxidil, etc etc etc basically where a lot of handsome men are. They don't need to worry for the most part, though they floss every morning and once every few years they get tailored clothing and for that they feel like they're putting in the effort and thus they deserve what they have.
This has been a huge stress. I guess I look a little better, but I don't read as much as I used to, my writing skills have declined, I didn't watch as many movies last year, I don't concentrate as much at work, I don't have as many savings, and I'll face criticisms for all of those things and others that will fill in the vacuum left by the reduced discrimination from looking slightly better (but still not good enough).
A while back a friend suggested that I might be doing poorly on dates because I lack relationship experience. That is certainly plausible, as women don't like socially awkward behaviour, and do think about the collective judgment of other women. However ... what is the root cause of my not having dating experience? The same reason I have a hard time getting dates now. It's kind of like the f*****g snowball effect, except this snowball doesn't seem to ever reach the bottom of the mountain, rather it just seems to grow and grow and get bigger forever.
I have 3,477 posts on this forum, and a few hundred private messages as well. I have a cupboard that includes minoxidil, stemoxydine (needs to be ordered online), RU58851 (needs to be ordered online), will soon include alfatradiol (needs to be ordered online), nizoral shampoo, special conditioner -- I cannot use finasteride. I also need to worry about skin, teeth, eyes, body composition, my nose apparently, and how to partition limited money among them.
All of this leaves me jealous of the people who can focus on living life and on their hobbies and pursuits. The people with full heads of hair, those whose stomachs are full after one slice of pizza, who never get acne, they don't need to worry about their looks. They can read more books, watch more movies, do better at their jobs, go travelling with their extra money, or perhaps start investing in the stock market or in housing. They can then feel proud about themselves for having invested their time and money wisely, for being more responsible, and for being more awesome people. If they have anything in this world, it's because they deserve it.
I would really love to live in a world where I knew nothing about DHT, hair loss patterns, hormones, carbohydrates versus fats, hydrogen peroxide, zinc, aromatase inhibitors, flaxseed, soy, minoxidil, etc etc etc basically where a lot of handsome men are. They don't need to worry for the most part, though they floss every morning and once every few years they get tailored clothing and for that they feel like they're putting in the effort and thus they deserve what they have.
This has been a huge stress. I guess I look a little better, but I don't read as much as I used to, my writing skills have declined, I didn't watch as many movies last year, I don't concentrate as much at work, I don't have as many savings, and I'll face criticisms for all of those things and others that will fill in the vacuum left by the reduced discrimination from looking slightly better (but still not good enough).
A while back a friend suggested that I might be doing poorly on dates because I lack relationship experience. That is certainly plausible, as women don't like socially awkward behaviour, and do think about the collective judgment of other women. However ... what is the root cause of my not having dating experience? The same reason I have a hard time getting dates now. It's kind of like the f*****g snowball effect, except this snowball doesn't seem to ever reach the bottom of the mountain, rather it just seems to grow and grow and get bigger forever.
