The Life Altering Opportunity Cost Associated With Hair Loss

[pjhair]

I visited a graduate school today. There is a solid chance that I will get 100% tuition waiver in addition to a monthly stipend to attend the masters program. An excellent opportunity. But while I was talking to professors about my research interest, I kept thinking about my hair. The pace of recession seems to have picked up lately. I can't pull hairstyles that I could even two months ago. How will I attend the school in such a mental state? With this pace I will be a NW3 in less than a year. What if I need a hair transplant? How will I afford it? Right now I have a high paying job so I can afford a transplant. But I wouldn't be able to if I go to grad school. Also, my grad school will be tough. If I keep thinking about baldness how would I be able to focus on my studies?

These are the kind of thoughts that were circling my head the entire time I was there. Worrying about baldness is such a mental drain. It sometimes forces us to make choices that are a huge opportunity cost and potentially life altering. Just think if we didn't have to worry about hair loss. How productive could we be then? We can then focus on our career or chasing women or whatever makes us happy. But no, we are locked down in this purgatory called hair loss that leaves us with little energy to focus on anything else.

 

[Afro_Vacancy]

Yes, it's awful to worry about this sh*t.

For whatever it's worth, there's no way that you'll be among the uglies in graduate school.

 

[pjhair]

Yes, it's awful to worry about this sh*t.

For whatever it's worth, there's no way that you'll be among the uglies in graduate school.

Thanks for your encouraging words. But I worry that my looks will go down substantially once I hit NW3+.

 

[Exodus2011]

whats your graduate specialization if you dont mind me asking?

if its STEM im sure they will be ugly. and i agree so strongly. at least its reasonable to give up on life because of baldness though. girls are arguably the purpose of existence and whats the point in doing anything if you cant get them?

 

[Assemblage23]

The worst thing about hairloss is how it destroys your ability to idealize the future and look forward to future events. How can you be excited about studies when dealing with this??

 

[pjhair]

whats your graduate specialization if you dont mind me asking?

if its STEM im sure they will be ugly. and i agree so strongly. at least its reasonable to give up on life because of baldness though. girls are arguably the purpose of existence and whats the point in doing anything if you cant get them?

My research will either focus on artifical intelligence(machine learning) or in computational neuroscience. Even if I focus on computational neurosciene , I want to get a job in machine learning once I graduate. I considered getting a doctorate in philosophy for a little bit but that will be too radical a sh*t from my educational and professional background so far.

girls are arguably the purpose of existence and whats the point in doing anything if you cant get them?

Girls are a part of why I want hair but even more important to me is the loss of identity and the resulting drain in confidence that has been caused by hair loss. I just don't feel good about myself anymore and the further the hair loss progresses, the more my dissatisfaction grows. For the first 26 years of my life, I was known as a handsome man. Now the thought of facing my relatives who remember me from my pre-hairloss days gives me anxiety. I feel deeply, deeply ashamed to go in front of them. When the only trait you are known and admired for is suddenly taken from you, you just don't know how else to live and be at peace.

In fact, screw girls. I am completely sincere when I say that given a choice between having a beautiful girl friend/spouse and having all my hair back, I will choose my hair, every single time.

 

[uncomfortable man]

Hairloss is why I dropped out of college. Couldn't stand to be the center of attention for all the wrong reasons. So yes, life altering indeed. Simpletons would assert hairloss is no big deal.

 

[JohnsonDDG]

I visited a graduate school today. There is a solid chance that I will get 100% tuition waiver in addition to a monthly stipend to attend the masters program. An excellent opportunity. But while I was talking to professors about my research interest, I kept thinking about my hair. The pace of recession seems to have picked up lately. I can't pull hairstyles that I could even two months ago. How will I attend the school in such a mental state? With this pace I will be a NW3 in less than a year. What if I need a hair transplant? How will I afford it? Right now I have a high paying job so I can afford a transplant. But I wouldn't be able to if I go to grad school. Also, my grad school will be tough. If I keep thinking about baldness how would I be able to focus on my studies?

These are the kind of thoughts that were circling my head the entire time I was there. Worrying about baldness is such a mental drain. It sometimes forces us to make choices that are a huge opportunity cost and potentially life altering. Just think if we didn't have to worry about hair loss. How productive could we be then? We can then focus on our career or chasing women or whatever makes us happy. But no, we are locked down in this purgatory called hair loss that leaves us with little energy to focus on anything else.

Nobody gives a sh*t if a grown man - like you are I - are a nw3!

Its looks odd on younger men but for adults nobody could care less - especially not academics and their aspie ways.

Bloody panicking about a nw3 - come on, man, pull yourself together.

 

[Exodus2011]

My research will either focus on artifical intelligence(machine learning) or in computational neuroscience. Even if I focus on computational neurosciene , I want to get a job in machine learning once I graduate. I considered getting a doctorate in philosophy for a little bit but that will be too radical a sh*t from my educational and professional background so far.



Girls are a part of why I want hair but even more important to me is the loss of identity and the resulting drain in confidence that has been caused by hair loss. I just don't feel good about myself anymore and the further the hair loss progresses, the more my dissatisfaction grows. For the first 26 years of my life, I was known as a handsome man. Now the thought of facing my relatives who remember me from my pre-hairloss days gives me anxiety. I feel deeply, deeply ashamed to go in front of them. When the only trait you are known and admired for is suddenly taken from you, you just don't know how else to live and be at peace.

In fact, screw girls. I am completely sincere when I say that given a choice between having a beautiful girl friend/spouse and having all my hair back, I will choose my hair, every single time.

Haha God knows the people in that field will be ugly! You should be good

And That's awesome, I woulda got a degree in comp sci If i wasn't so unmotivated from baldness!

I take it you have a BS in comp sci already?

Lol I love philosophy too, one of the few things that make me forget about baldness.

So true also about the loss of self that comes with baldness, I usually think of it from that perspective but recently some girls moved in next door so I've been worrying about females lol

Just going outside is f*****g hell. I f*****g hate being seen by girls as a baldie, with guys its sucky too but obviously they can understand

 

[rclark]

We all think about hair loss during times of stress.

When my family was murdered by Trump supporters, all I could think
about was my receding hairline.

Could not help looking in my car mirror why they were being stabbed on the
car seat. Thought a news reporter might be near by.

 

[Baldingat188]

I'm a bit younger then you but I suffered the same problems in school. I got 5 minutes into reading a textbook and then I started thinking about my hair and taking pictures.... terrible

Hairloss really ruins lives. It's ruined any chance I had at my social life , my dating life and school life. And I'm not even bald yet- it only gets worse

 

[EvilLocks]

How will I attend the school in such a mental state? If I keep thinking about baldness how would I be able to focus on my studies?

I quit my master's degree in 2013 after only finishing a year because of baldness. I could not concentrate on anything but the crippling fear of becoming bald and having my classmates notice, so I felt 'forced' to quit while I still had enough hair. It was a stupid decision on my part because back in 2013 I could pass for a fullhead, so I could have easily continued studying. The problem was I didn't know how fast my hair loss would progress, but I feared I would be bald within 6 months. I was wrong, and could have made it through all 3 years with the help of a little Toppik and clever styling. The point is; you never know how fast your hair loss will advance, so you shouldn't let it get in the way of your dreams and goals. I wasted my chance, don't let the same thing happen to you.

 

[rclark]

I quit my master's degree in 2013 after only finishing a year because of baldness. I could not concentrate on anything but the crippling fear of becoming bald and having my classmates notice, so I felt 'forced' to quit while I still had enough hair. It was a stupid decision on my part because back in 2013 I could pass for a fullhead, so I could have easily continued studying. The problem was I didn't know how fast my hair loss would progress, but I feared I would be bald within 6 months. I was wrong, and could have made it through all 3 years with the help of a little Toppik and clever styling. The point is; you never know how fast your hair loss will advance, so you shouldn't let it get in the way of your dreams and goals. I wasted my chance, don't let the same thing happen to you.

This has to be one of the best avatars alone, besides a great post.

 

[rclark]

Haha God knows the people in that field will be ugly! You should be good

And That's awesome, I woulda got a degree in comp sci If i wasn't so unmotivated from baldness!

I take it you have a BS in comp sci already?

Lol I love philosophy too, one of the few things that make me forget about baldness.

So true also about the loss of self that comes with baldness, I usually think of it from that perspective but recently some girls moved in next door so I've been worrying about females lol

Just going outside is f*****g hell. I f*****g hate being seen by girls as a baldie, with guys its sucky too but obviously they can understand

Relax, college girls will definitely NOT see you as a baldie.

These days, college drug use is very high. If she can see straight during the weekend,
that women is a KEEPER!

Remember these words of wisdom, as long as they say YES, it's consensual!!

 

[Rudiger]

We all think about hair loss during times of stress.

When my family was murdered by Trump supporters, all I could think
about was my receding hairline.

Could not help looking in my car mirror why they were being stabbed on the
car seat. Thought a news reporter might be near by.

So happy to see this sh*t not getting Likes anymore. Sorry.

 

[JohnsonDDG]

I m on Evil's side You should proceed with the Master's degree @pjhair. One thing I learned is you can't stop living your life because of hair loss, it will make you even more miserable. If you can, put some savings aside it will reassure you about a transplant. Don't forget there is toppik. Unfortunately, even if I am on a serious regimen (CA + spironolactone, I am not on the highest doses but I am normally not a candidate for these drugs given other genetical risks!! yay me! )and I have some regrowths from minoxidil+progesterone (but are they gonna trasnform in real hair???) my hair loss is progressing pretty quickly. One reason is the meds themselves causing sheds, hormonal imbalance, stress caused by hair loss, etc. Toppik is currently saving the situation for me. I don't know how long it will do the trick, and I am not even a candidate to transplant I guess. Worst case(probable case) scenario I go on wig path pretty soon, but for now I rely on Toppik still hoping for some progress

And the truth is people don't really care that much. People are so drawn into their own lives and drama that they could hardy care less if you are a nw2 or a nw4.

 

[JohnsonDDG]

I think it is true when you are a man, yes. When you are a girl... it is a different story
Though I perfectly understand pjhair fear and concern. But I think he would regret not to proceed with his Master.

Yes, it is a different story with women.

I think most people will whisper about a womans hair loss behind their backs and not say anything to their face.

So you would never know how many people know or care.

 

[Recedinghairgrowingbank]

I think it is true when you are a man, yes. When you are a girl... it is a different story
Though I perfectly understand pjhair fear and concern. But I think he would regret not to proceed with his Master.

I believe that, I often sleep at my girlsfriends house and she would be on the phone to her friends or have them over and the horrible sh*t that they say about the girls who are not there or absent from the conversation is unreal. What is it about women that they want to sh*t on another person so much? (Obviously not all women, maybe I just am attracted to b****s)

 

[JohnsonDDG]

I believe that, I often sleep at my girlsfriends house and she would be on the phone to her friends or have them over and the horrible sh*t that they say about the girls who are not there or absent from the conversation is unreal. What is it about women that they want to sh*t on another person so much? (Obviously not all women, maybe I just am attracted to b****s)

Men do it as well.

Lots of men - especially at work - b**ch about each other behind their backs.

Human nature - we all a bunch of critical, gossiping c****.

 

[pjhair]

Unfortunately, even if I am on a serious regimen (CA + spironolactone, I am not on the highest doses but I am normally not a candidate for these drugs given other genetical risks!! yay me! )and I have some regrowths from minoxidil+progesterone (but are they gonna trasnform in real hair???) my hair loss is progressing pretty quickly. One reason is the meds themselves causing sheds, hormonal imbalance, stress caused by hair loss, etc. Toppik is currently saving the situation for me. I don't know how long it will do the trick, and I am not even a candidate to transplant I guess. Worst case(probable case) scenario I go on wig path pretty soon, but for now I rely on Toppik still hoping for some progress

That's a really frustrating part about hair loss drugs. Take them to treat this disease and some times you end up with less hair than you would have without taking them. How many diseases are there where treating them can make them worse? The reason it's so hard to treat hair loss is because our understanding of various factors involved is poor.

I should continue studying AI. May be one day I can build a super-intelligent computer which can discover a cure