You would surprised. I visited my brothers wedding last year and my relatives commented that I appear less attractive. They couldn't identify the reason because to their eyes, the hair was still there. Anyway, even if others don't notice, I just hate the fact that my looks are fading because of it. Loss of identity is a real and a very painful problem. Probably my biggest concern when it comes to hair loss.
The Life Altering Opportunity Cost Associated With Hair Loss
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You would surprised. I visited my brothers wedding last year and my relatives commented that I appear less attractive. They couldn't identify the reason because to their eyes, the hair was still there. Anyway, even if others don't notice, I just hate the fact that my looks are fading because of it. Loss of identity is a real and a very painful problem. Probably my biggest concern when it comes to hair loss.
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How old are you?
I'm in my 30's myself so I've experienced the fading looks. Its just a part of life - its happening to women as well.
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at that age its a lot more common but still a minority
thats why it would still suck to a degree.
obviously a lot better than my own position though haha. and i wouldn't feel too bad balding in my 30s. i mean it would still not be good though of course
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Its unfortunate but not a disaster. Even if I couldn't get a decent looking GF in the future then at least I know I had my twenties where I dated and had a lot of fun. In that sense, I've had a lot of my adventures, and at some point everyone had to stop.
Some people may stop fast living and sleeping around at 21, some 30, some 40, and if you go beyond that age then its starts looking a bit pathetic. So perhaps I may no longer be able to pull as well but I had my years, and I am blessed for that.
I am 35 but have quite a youthful boyish face. Depending on my hair style, I can easily pass as someone in mid twenties. When I was initially struck by hair loss, I noticed the loss of looks within months. In fact, my father was skyping with me about a year after the hair loss and commented my face seems to have changed. My recession has picked up lately so I am having a hard time keeping the hair style that I could even two months ago. Consequently, I feel less attractive than I did even two months ago.
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Man, don't be an idiot. No one wants you to COPE but it is obvious that you have to do everything in your power to distract people from your defects and focus on your strong points.
You are lucky you can continue to study and maybe become affirmed in your field. Do no let hairloss take you down. You can postpone your transplant a couple of years and be again a full head WITH a master. It is crazy you are even thinking there is a choice here.
You are lucky you can continue to study and maybe become affirmed in your field. Do no let hairloss take you down. You can postpone your transplant a couple of years and be again a full head WITH a master. It is crazy you are even thinking there is a choice here.
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Yes I did. Just because I am in 30's it doesn't mean I have to be content with hair loss. I am terrified of it just as much as I was when I was 18.
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Of course you have seen the movie Avatar and / or the telefilm Caprica.
IMHO there is a slight chance we will live in VR and choose NW1 avatars before hair loss is "cured" in the real bodies.
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Thats different to me - as I get older it become more bearable. Especially because all my peers are either getting fat or bald.
I am like those people who worry about hair loss even in their seventies and get hair transplant.
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Interesting.
I think the reason hair loss usually matter less when you get older is that all the people around you decline in looks as well.
But, as for you, you're not even a nw3 at 35 - please consider yourself lucky.
If you have a NW1 or NW2 hair and a youthful face, you can continue to be good looking right until your late fifties early sixties. But losing your hair early robs you off decades of good looks. That's what terrifies me.
That there are people in the world dealing with worse issues doesn't help much to alleviate your own pain. I will give you an analogy. You say I should consider myself lucky because there are people who go bald when they are 18. I can turn around and tell an 18 year old bald man that consider yourself lucky because there are people who are completely blind. Then I can turn to a blind man and tell him, consider yourself lucky because there are people who are completely blind and also completely deaf. The list of misery doesn't end there. There are even worse problems.
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I can identify with this as a 36 year old. I care almost as much about my hair loss now as I did when I was in my twenties. While baldness and other signs of aging of course become more common as you enter your thirties, it's not like you wake up on your 30th birthday and suddenly not care what you look like anymore. With a full head of hair and a little self respect it's easy to look good well into your fifties and sixties.
With regard to your grad school decision, if it's a good career move you need to just do it and deal with your anxiety. For whatever it's worth, high tech is not a field that seems to be particularly looks oriented from my limited experience. Also, while I don't know the details of your situation, the real opportunity cost here seems to be leaving a lucrative job for additional schooling at a time of your life when your earning ability should be increasing significantly. I assume that you're aware of that consideration though and that the added value of the degree will be worth it in terms of increased salary or potential opportunities to join a starting company with equity or other incentives.
Yes I have thought quite a bit about it. The increment in salary will be staggering if I can land a job in machine learning once I graduate. Also, I simply don't like just developing software. Very boring, mundane and repetitive. I want a more mentally stimulating job in addition to salary increase.
Another good option for me is to just finish my masters part time while keeping my job. I will see what I do once I get admission decision from all the schools I have applied to.
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Mind your own business.
It's funny how WhitePolarBear hates it when you challenge him.
But all of the sudden, he's your friend. Sure that's not fake, of course.
Quit being a big baby.
Why don't you give others dislikes as well? Why do you even care?
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So true. Especially h.i. What a pussy.
It's funny, I walked into a room with forty year old men (my age).
My shame is not from my hair density, but more my height.
Although I'm taller than average, most men were taller than me. And I felt really small.
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I didn't Dislike your post and I don't think I've ever done so to anyone. I care because we genuinely do have a lot of good posters at the moment, the same guys really putting thought into what they write and coming up with unique or funny ideas to read about, and you just clog it up. I skip past 99% of your posts, and I care because I don't want to see bullshit encouraged by others. You can continue Disliking my posts and calling me whatever you want, but I don't even hate you, it's just not even worth forming an opinion on you to be honest.
I just find it hilarious that a few months ago you were justifying your bullshit posts on here and bragging because you had a decent Like ratio once upon a time, and now everyone has grown tired of it. You had roughly the same likes 400 posts ago as you do now.
So in realising this you've started posting some normal stuff to mix it up, but that's sh*t too!!
LOL!!!!1
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Great example, the guy who quotes your post so you get an alert and can see what he's written, is "bitching behind your back".
This is what I mean, more guttertrash posting, complete waste of time for all to read. You just write whatever the hell pops into your head and try to correlate it into an actual meaningful thought, and that's when you're making actual posts, not even counting the other 90% of the time you're being "humorous".
OK I'm done. Good day.