Re: Thinking of throwing in the towel with fighting this sh*t
Boondock, I can only reiiterate your thoughts.
There comes a time when an obsession about something naturally gets boring. I think this is probably the case for most people suffering from hair loss. They obsess really badly about it for a while, and then eventually begin to let go and accept the process.
Im not saying I wake up and its nothing at all. But now I just dont care about it as much. I know that, firstly, there is nothing I can do to reverse it. So why waste time on what fate has in store for us? Why go against nature? After all, losing hair is perfectly natural and normal, its just certian people lose more and lose younger then others. Id say caucasans are generally the most unlucky when it comes to hairloss, but thats life. Perhaps slow it. But even worrying about slowing it is stressful. So now Im just more interested in what I can change. Diet, fitness, style. etc etc.
I think part of getting over hairloss is getting over yourself and your own ego. I think if you can get over yourself but still have confidence then your on the right track. And besides, until you do get over yourself and begin to accept what has to be accepted, confidence in yourself is going to be low. Confidence can only be present if you like yourself for what you are; if you can accept yourself for what you are. Try to turn away from vanity. We can still look good through dressing sharply and taking care of our health, but overly obsessing about our looks well never do us good. Dont let it consume you. Be happy that you are who you are.
If you are consumed by your insecurities and vanity and depression, what type of life are you likely to lead? What type of people are you likely to meet? If you are confident, happy, and free, then what type of people are you going to meet? If you want a nice relationship with a girl, then you will want someone who is beautiful on both sides, inside and outside.
I think beauty is different from 'hot'. Beauty is more timeless and to an extent ageless. You can have a beautiful baby, or be a beatuful old person. Beauty is where you are good looking; but that good look radiates from within. People that walk around with that 'I know Im hot' look are usually insecure. People that base their everything on their looks are usually the most insecure, and they dont even fully trust their looks, as they usually invest in make up/style to enhance it. Its easy to fall into a trap of vanity but a balance needs to be drawn and sometimes you just have to wake up and face yourself as you are, bald or not, ugly or not, tall or thin, you just have to wake up and try and enoy your life despite your looks.
I would rather people valued me due to my qualities as a human being rather than my superfical qualites. Remember also that some of our physicality does display our qualities - our ability to stay in shape and take care of ourselves shows in our body and health, and people can sense that. Being healthy and happy = sexy and popular.
When you arise in the morning, think of what a precious privilege it is to be alive - to breathe, to think, to enjoy, to love.†-Marcus Aurelius
