This Whole Thing Reminds Me Of Racism And Discrimination

[samantha3333]

So at work, 95% of people are local which is shocking as we are one of the biggest multinational companies in the industry. From my observation, miniority especially foreigners are mostly isolated in social setting. Local people don't like to interact with us even though all of us speak perfect English. So I went online and asked why the local people here are so cold towards foreigners and minority. The replies I got was shocking. People think the problem was me because if most local people are cold to me, it must be because I'm hideous and have bad personality. I further explained it was not just me who got the cold shoulders it was all minorities and foreigners. Then I got no replies.

This is no different from racism and descrimination, where people get offended when you call them a racist or a bully whereas they don't even know the true meaning of racism and descrimination.

People would criticise you for not being able to handle a "small" problem like hair loss, whereas they have full heads. People would criticise YOU for not being liked by white people for your "sh*t personality", whereas YOU are the minority and experience descrimination.

Those people who laugh about and critise how you deal with hair loss is no different from those people who think they are not racist but would subconsciously therefore behaviourally avoid minorities just because they are different.

 

[Afro_Vacancy]

So at work, 95% of people are local which is shocking as we are one of the biggest multinational companies in the industry. From my observation, miniority especially foreigners are mostly isolated in social setting. Local people don't like to interact with us even though all of us speak perfect English. So I went online and asked why the local people here are so cold towards foreigners and minority. The replies I got was shocking. People think the problem was me because if most local people are cold to me, it must be because I'm hideous and have bad personality. I further explained it was not just me who got the cold shoulders it was all minorities and foreigners. Then I got no replies.

This is no different from racism and descrimination, where people get offended when you call them a racist or a bully whereas they don't even know the true meaning of racism and descrimination.

People would criticise you for not being able to handle a "small" problem like hair loss, whereas they have full heads. People would criticise YOU for not being liked by white people for your "sh*t personality", whereas YOU are the minority and experience descrimination.

Those people who laugh about and critise how you deal with hair loss is no different from those people who think they are not racist but would subconsciously therefore behaviourally avoid minorities just because they are different.

I thought you were American.

What I've found in some workplaces is that Americans tend to stick together. It's not necessarily bigotry, it's more of a culture match thing. They speak the same way, have the same values, same assumptions, et cetera.

 

[DoctorHouse]

I agree with David. I have always lived in areas predominately hispanic and most hispanics behave the same way David described above. But I do see them favor their people over ours.

 

[Guzam]

So at work, 95% of people are local which is shocking as we are one of the biggest multinational companies in the industry. From my observation, miniority especially foreigners are mostly isolated in social setting. Local people don't like to interact with us even though all of us speak perfect English. So I went online and asked why the local people here are so cold towards foreigners and minority. The replies I got was shocking. People think the problem was me because if most local people are cold to me, it must be because I'm hideous and have bad personality. I further explained it was not just me who got the cold shoulders it was all minorities and foreigners. Then I got no replies.

This is no different from racism and descrimination, where people get offended when you call them a racist or a bully whereas they don't even know the true meaning of racism and descrimination.

People would criticise you for not being able to handle a "small" problem like hair loss, whereas they have full heads. People would criticise YOU for not being liked by white people for your "sh*t personality", whereas YOU are the minority and experience descrimination.

Those people who laugh about and critise how you deal with hair loss is no different from those people who think they are not racist but would subconsciously therefore behaviourally avoid minorities just because they are different.

Both attitudes are perfectly understandable.

If I were a fullhead I would be upset by the presence of balding young guys around me. They look miserable. I'm balding myself and I can't stand looking at the misery of other balding people. This should be understood and accepted because bald is ugly for me.

Also, it's normal for natives to be upset by the presence of foreigners and not all will accept their presence. Many whites can't stand the company of niggers and brown south asians, mainly because of their culture and looks. It's perfectly understandable and you should be tolerant of this. If I worked in a 95% African company, I would accept that the majority of African colleagues would dislike my Mediterranean attitude and appearance.

tl;dr accept things and stop trying to tell people what to think. Some things can change only very slowly and one of these is attitudes towards foreigners

 

[Guzam]

This is the reason why it is always good-looking fullheads who treat me like dirt. At least here in Italy.

We're culturally obsessed by appearance and youth. Anyway I've seen baldies having social life by acting funny around girls, telling jokes and being loud and all that. A bit like Berlusconi. It seems to work here.

 

[Afro_Vacancy]

Not in my shitty country, surrounded by shitty, hypocritical and shallow people. I was born in the wrong country to be ugly and bald.

Guzam is also Italian.

I don't know if he's from the same region of Italy though.

 

[kj6723]

Many whites can't stand the company of niggers

 

[rclark]

So at work, 95% of people are local which is shocking as we are one of the biggest multinational companies in the industry. From my observation, miniority especially foreigners are mostly isolated in social setting. Local people don't like to interact with us even though all of us speak perfect English. So I went online and asked why the local people here are so cold towards foreigners and minority. The replies I got was shocking. People think the problem was me because if most local people are cold to me, it must be because I'm hideous and have bad personality. I further explained it was not just me who got the cold shoulders it was all minorities and foreigners. Then I got no replies.

This is no different from racism and descrimination, where people get offended when you call them a racist or a bully whereas they don't even know the true meaning of racism and descrimination.

People would criticise you for not being able to handle a "small" problem like hair loss, whereas they have full heads. People would criticise YOU for not being liked by white people for your "sh*t personality", whereas YOU are the minority and experience descrimination.

Those people who laugh about and critise how you deal with hair loss is no different from those people who think they are not racist but would subconsciously therefore behaviourally avoid minorities just because they are different.

If you're talking about the U.S., you are absolutely correct. Been that way for quite some time.

Wait until you're over forty. See how many people judge you on your skills, not your age.

 

[pjhair]

What I've found in some workplaces is that Americans tend to stick together. It's not necessarily bigotry, it's more of a culture match thing. They speak the same way, have the same values, same assumptions, et cetera.

True. People like to hang out with people they find interesting. Often people from the same country/culture have overlapping interests, similar sense of humor and taste in food/movies/sports, hence they hang out together. Though that is not always the case. I have nine really, really close friends. Only one is Indian. Rest of them are African Americans, Caucasians and Nepalese. Though I will admit, I love visiting India and seeing my family and relatives. I think I will retire there.

 

[Xander94]

True. All to often people like to hang out with people they find interesting. Often people from the country/culture have overlapping interests, similar sense of humor and taste in food/movies/sports, hence they hang out together. Though that is not always the case. I have nine really, really close friends. Only one is Indian. Rest of them are African Americans, Caucasians and Nepalese. Though I will admit, I love visiting India and seeing my relatives. I think I will retire there.

Interesting = looking good . Or fat and funny.

 

[pjhair]

If you're talking about the U.S., you are absolutely correct. Been that way for quite some time.

I don't know what part of the US are you referring to but that is simply not true from what I have seen. I have been living here for 12 years and never encountered racial discrimination from Americans.

 

[pjhair]

Interesting = looking good . Or fat and funny.

Why would looks matter when it comes to friends? They are your friends not your girl friend. You are not going to have sex with them. Looks are irrelevant.

 

[Xander94]

Why would looks matter when it comes to friends? They are your friends not your girl friend. You are not going to have sex with them. Looks are irrelevant.

Most people wanna hang out with the good looking people good looking friends attract good looking women and you would have a chance with them. I however never approach women.

 

[pjhair]

Most people wanna hang out with the good looking people good looking friends attract good looking women and you would have a chance with them. I however never approach women.

I don't think "most" people are like that. Anyway, hanging out with someone because of his looks is like hanging out with someone because of his money or power. In both cases you are friends because you are hoping to derive some benefit, not because you genuinely like his company. Such friendships don't last.

 

[pjhair]

@Xander94 tell me something, will you rather be a good looking guys sidekick, hoping to get laid someday? Or would you instead hang out with someone who is not that good looking but you enjoy his company and he enjoys yours?

 

[Xander94]

@Xander94 tell me something, will you rather be a good looking guys sidekick, hoping to get laid someday? Or would you instead hang out with someone who is not that good looking but you enjoy his company and he enjoys yours?

At this point I dont care I just hang out with all the incels and discuss nerdy subjects and have cool conversations and try to help them get fitter. But now that Im realizing that I wont be young forever Im starting to reconsider. Being someones sidekick is not something that interests me however

 

[pjhair]

At this point I dont care I just hang out with all the fat incels manlets and discuss nerdy subjects and have cool conversations and try to help them get fitter. But now that Im realizing that I wont be young forever Im starting to reconsider. Being someones sidekick is not something that interests me however

You can choose to consciously hang out with good looking people but you will notice that in the long run, the only people that will remain your friend are people whose company you enjoy. My close friends range from tall NW1 good looking to short 5'4 below average. We all enjoy each-others company. Most of us are friends from college days and we used to go clubbing, chase women and play sports. Overtime, our friendship grew to be very strong.

If you want to have other friends besides fat incels you hang out with, you should develop other hobbies instead of sitting at homes and playing video games. Go out to clubs and parties and meet more people. You will definitely meet people whose company you enjoy.

 

[Xander94]

You can choose to consciously hang out with good looking people but you will notice that in the long run, the only people that will remain your friend are people whose company you enjoy. My close friends range from tall NW1 good looking to short 5'4 below average. We all enjoy each-others company. Most of us are friends from college days and we used to go clubbing, chase women and play sports. Overtime, our friendship grew to be very strong.

If you want to have other friends besides fat incels you hang out with, you should develop other hobbies instead of sitting at homes and playing video games. Go out to clubs and parties and meet more people. You will definitely meet people whose company you enjoy.

A little too late for me to do that Im in foreign country and dont know the language. Also the people here are not really known for their social skills and interaction. Never enjoyed parties either just left early had nothing to talk about with people there except the usual boring interaction.

 

[pjhair]

Never enjoyed parties either just left early had nothing to talk about with people there except the usual boring interaction.

Not everyone you meet at parties will be fun to talk to. However, you will meet at least some if you go to several parties and repeatedly meet the same people which happens quite often in college. Also, going to parties alone where you don't know anyone is a bad idea. However, going to parties with your friends whose company you already enjoy is a blast. However, if parties and other social gatherings don't interest you then it's a different issue altogether. If you pretty much never find anyone interesting, then looks are not the reason why you are hanging out with fat incels. It's because of your own personality and lack of interest.

 

[Xander94]

Not everyone you meet at parties will be fun to talk to. However, you will meet at least some if you go to several parties and repeatedly meet the same people which happens quite often in college. Also, going to parties alone where you don't know anyone is a bad idea. However, going to parties with your friends whose company you already enjoy is a blast. However, if parties and other social gatherings don't interest you then it's a different issue altogether. If you pretty much never find anyone interesting, then looks are not the reason why you are hanging out with fat incels. It's because of your own personality and lack of interest.

I will try to start going to university parties despite the fact that Im not a student lul. However introducing myself to a woman and trying to have a conversation is very difficult task for me.