Tinder, Bumble, And Other Dating Sites.

[Baldhurts]

No body shots in dating app crew
Never sends physique shots crew

 

[pjhair]

Of course the wise approach would be to lower their standards at this point.

Is it possible to lower ones standards though? There is no way I can date a women I don't find attractive enough.

 

[Dench57]

It seems like a lot of women are into astrology

instant retard alert

 

[Afro_Vacancy]

Val Kilmer was a sex symbol when he was young. He was iceman in Top Gun, he played Batman in Batman Forever, and he was with Cindy Crawford for a long time. He has a nice frame naturally, and he kept his hair as he aged. He had excellent facial features:

Then he got fat:

 

[pjhair]

That is because you are attractive yourself!

But doesn't it apply to everyone? Can we really date people we are not physically attracted to?

 

[EvilLocks]

Of course the wise approach would be to lower their standards at this point.

But no, let's price ourselves out of the market and put even more pressure on potential partners, that should fix it!
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^ I believe this is the mental mantra of many (older) women. They want only the best, even though their own value on the dating market has (significantly) decresed. I hope I don't become one of those women. If only I had the desire to date ...

 

[Dench57]

all fat men should have beards

 

[SmoothSailing]

But doesn't it apply to everyone? Can we really date people we are not physically attracted to?

No but who you are physically attracted to can change.

 

[Afro_Vacancy]

But doesn't it apply to everyone? Can we really date people we are not physically attracted to?

There are a lot of people out there happily married to unattractive partners. They stay happily married as their partner ages.

 

[Afro_Vacancy]

Astrology can be cool

There's some coolness, for example in anthropological ancestry. It's interesting how the aboriginals of Australia developed a different religion due to having a different sky. That's more anthropology than astrology.

However, if you're using it to run your life? No, it's not cool. Being a scorpio doesn't make me more mysterious or whatever.

 

[pjhair]

There are a lot of people out there happily married to unattractive partners. They stay happily married as their partner ages.

But may be they are attractive to their partners? Or may be people are just different. It may be easier for some people to be in relationship with an attractive partner but not for others. I was once in a relationship with a women I was not that much physically attracted to. It didn't really turn out very well.

 

[pjhair]

No but who you are physically attracted to can change.

We can't change it consciously though. So advises like "lower your standards" doesn't apply.

 

[Afro_Vacancy]

They don't just want a guy they'll be attracted to.

They want more, way more than that.

I'm not talking about dating ugly or below average men.

I'm talking about not being like: " 5'9? Sorry, must be at lest 6 feet tall! Next!"

At a point she just can't do that anymore, unless she wants to become a cat lady.

There are at least three roles that might come into play:

- She needs to be attracted to him;
- She wants to be able to brag about her side piece to her friends. This is correlated with the first role but not the same. For example she might be attracted to a guy who is bald, but if she goes with a bald guy a lot of her friends will think she is settling;
- He needs to be able provide for future children. Food, clothing, and shelter are expensive.

 

[pjhair]

I don't know... I think, also, when you like someone you tend to "beautify" her/him.

So you find "him/her" beautiful because you like the person? I thought you have to find the person attractive to like him/her in the first place.

 

[EvilLocks]

At a point she just can't do that anymore, unless she wants to become a cat lady.

I see myself as the dog lady

 

[Roberto_72]

#haagendazs

This made my day

 

[EvilLocks]

I know I can function that way.

I can too. But there has to be that initial attraction for it to work! I dated a guy who I didn't find the most attractive physically in the beginning, but still there was something that attracted me to him (I believe biology, he was my type). As we started dating and got more serious, I found him more and more attractive. Then I actually fell in love with the guy and found him beautiful.

 

[pjhair]

I know I can function that way.

You are different though. I personally can't like a women romantically unless I am attracted to her. Beauty is by far the most dominant and important factor for me when it comes to dating. I think many people are like that.

 

[pjhair]

What do you do once your girlfriend has irremediably hit the wall?

Let's say that if (and that's a big if) she takes good care of her weight (what I'm the most afraid of), doesn't smoke (check) and stays out of the sun (girlfriend too pale to tan, check), it will most likely happen in her 40's (unless she's @Joan ).

I guess I'll do what most men have always done throughout the ages: cheating with younger girls or see prostitutes.

That's what my (slayer) grandfather did (no prostitutes though), with a hair piece of course, I hope I'll be able to use Tsuji instead of that.

I can't predict what I will do when I am in my 40's. But I can tell you what I did in the past. When I was in relationship with a women I was not that physically attracted to, my interest in having sex with her went down very quickly. I will catch myself fantasizing about my attractive female friends. It was very frustrating. However, I did get emotionally attached to my girl friend so I didn't cheat on her despite getting a few opportunities. I just felt really guilty. It was a very tough situation. That's why I now advise my friends to never go for people they don't find physically attractive. Been there. Done that. Didn't end very well.

 

[Dante92]

@Dante92 I relate to your frustrations but the women posting here are good citizens of the forum.

LOL please. They're simply pretending empathy because they're suffering from baldness in the first place. Don't overestimate them.