I read a good article by GLL on men who overly think, analyse situations that involve women in attempts to try to be smooth, and suave. trying to avoid mistakes, awkwardness, and being weary of what to say.
This comes largely with experience, but as a whole it simply doesn't matter.
men who get laid the most are by no means smooth. Hitting on chicks, being sexuall in charge with dialogue, and being physical is what gets some one laid. Finding out now, instead of later if she is interested or not. But like anything just because a women likes you, doesnt mean shes sexually available. Which is why I am starting to believe that picking up chicks in clubs are ineffective. Women are surrounded by men, and women they already want to be with prior, and after to the main event. The before, and after is where deals, and lays are made. Inbetween, you will get a random make-out, possibly a forgotten number and a hand to go home to. These people often times have already decided who they are getting laid with, and you are simply the guy inbetween when they get there. (in most cases)
Its not in your control to determine whether she likes you or is sexually available and wanting to get to know you that following night. A lot of the times I used to contemplate why I didnt have that following chick in the bag at the bar and club. thinking the situation had all to do with me rather then what her schedule, and availability was. Just because a women is at the bar doesnt mean she is readily interested and available like men want to believe.
Looks max
take xanax
go out, and realize it doesnt f*****g matter.
