If I'm being condescending and patronising it's normally while explicitly revealing everything I think, not shadowing it behind backhanded compliments.
As I said before your timing of "people pleasing" if often very suspicious, in the middle of a debate between 2 people for example- "well golly gee those 2 sure are giving each other hell, maybe I'll pour some oil on it by showering praise on one of them, out of absolutely nowhere".
We've had forum members who are genuinely positive about life and I don't consider that "asslicking" as it comes from a genuine place (I.D. Walker comes to mind) but with your little jibes, jilts, strategically placed compliments, you can say you don't focus on the negative, only because you don't put it out there.
f*****g hell, "drunk Mel Gibson at a synagogue" is exactly what I mean by winking at the "audience".
Anyway, I revealed my experience of how you were to me, and I see traits in that with how you act to others. I thought about not even mentioning our past issues but then my point would be based on little anecdotes I'm pulling from recent threads (such as you telling a guy your 3 page argument is suddenly "childish") and also that involves other people who may not want to be involved.
I was there, I know what you're like, and it does annoy me when I see you acting above other people or questioning for them, or just slyly jumping into a situation because they're involved and you hold a vendetta. Zircon and Dench touched on a lot of things but not everything I identify with, and that's why I just had to add this, because you'll just keep acting like that, thinking your little sly stabs and oddly placed contributions go un-noticed.
It may not be constructive criticism to make you a better person, but at least it'll make you think twice next time.
And no, it didn't feel good and I didn't want to write it, I thought about writing it two days ago and decided no, then yesterday again, and today I thought y'know what, others were right about most things but not everything, this has to be included. There were other things that annoyed me with how this played out (being offended at being called autistic when you've written you are, only countless times) but I felt that it had already been covered, so I focused on the things that nobody had mentioned which affected me a long while ago, and may potentially effect others going forward. It's annoying to see, it's annoying for others, and if I can do anything to stop it then at least I tried.
I didn't wait for any opportunity, I had completely forgotten about it, seeing an old post a few weeks ago brought it back because we were giving each other hell and I honestly couldn't remember this, so I went down that road. I remember the post where you finally needled me too far yet again, and I lost it and pointed out what you were continuously doing, and you didn't reply. From there you cooled off. It was not your decision to stop, it was an embarrassment of knowing you were intentionally digging at me and thinking it hadn't been noticed.
Unlike your claim in a PM, your change of "ideology" had nothing to do with why we stopped fighting, that was at least a few months after we stopped. (also you may not ever discuss PM's on here but I don't follow the same rule religiously, and in certain situations it's relevant, but I'm not including anyone else here)
If I hadn't have put together all the reasons you were slyly behaving as you were, who knows how long it would have continued.
As far as "playing nice" for a year, I was genuine when I gave compliments on how you're bettering yourself in different ways, but over time it's become clear you do feel this odd superiority over others, even if you admit such basic faults as aesthetics being average or having unsuccessful dates.
You haven't looked at the real picture, you do hold petty grudges over those and I wonder if you even realise it. Admitting that to yourself instead of putting it down to my temperament or my "ganging up" is another, much more difficult thing.
I think this ties in to your claim as to how I apparently "play nice" with you and also the petty grudges I've seen from your real life self, translating into this forum:
https://www.hairlosstalk.com/intera...lures-with-women.105120/page-322#post-1502783
(and the posts that followed, one of which I basically called you a nutcase). Harassing a woman just to prove a point is exactly the type of behaviour that ties in to how you behave here.
I've admitted my faults and at times have apologised to others when I've gone too far. Months ago I was overly self-deprecating and feeling narcissistic to the point where even my own good intentions were selfish because I was doing it to feel good about myself. Some of these things were over the top, but I was going through a phase of really examining myself. I've thrown my hands up at different times and admitted I was being ridiculous, in one of the old posts I went through you half-assedly admitted starting an argument with me, but still put plenty of the onus on myself for a previous argument leading to your reaction in a different thread. This is as close as you get to an "apology", and I could tell from how you wrote it, that it killed you to admit any liability.
OK anyway, keep putting it down to "ganging up" on you, even though this is oddly one of the only times I've felt compelled to jump in when others already have (funny that, isn't it?). Keep calling these past experiences dubious even though other posters have written about it, some who would never usually write about another poster in such detail, and keep denying this is still your mentality, and tell yourself holding grudges is justified if you feel hurt by someone in the past.
But you just aren't doing yourself any favours in the long run. That is all.
If you want a "gang stalker" ask the guy who jumped in every single time I argued with someone to say "He's not worth it, move on, he hates incels" until I eventually pointed out that it was ironic he gets so hurt by "bullies" when it's being pretty hypocritical.
If I consistently jumped in any time someone had a problem with David then fine, it could be said I'm "ganging up on him", but this was the first time I really felt I had to do it and will be the last.
Dante you've previously admitted you probably have a bias against good looking people and you've painted me exactly how you want to out of pure frustration with your life, so your opinion on me isn't valid basically. You would pretty much agree with any point someone is making against me.
Thanks. I mean sometimes I pretend it's always easy to say what you feel on this "little forum", but in cases like this situation it really wasn't, and I haven't gotten any enjoyment out of it. I do feel a compulsion at some point to eventually feel what needs to be said, even if it's uncomfortable viewing, even if it's likely it won't get anyone anywhere, well least I tried. This applies to real life as well, but obviously not a fraction as much as my free wheeling on here.
I have mentioned apologising in debates but I'll admit this is still extremely rare indeed, for me as well. That actually feels the best though, even if you somewhat dislike what a person is saying in the heat of the moment, to take a step back and realise you're both butting heads, and just say sorry, if they say the same back (doesn't always happen) then that's the best you can really get on here.
