We're supposed to support each other

[Goldee Lox]

Grace is saved for the field.

I meant grace in an inclusive manner.. It can be obtained online without being "overly positive poster".. Just sayin'

 

[uncomfortable man]

Then it still can be found here albiet in shorter supply, but i've seen examples of members giving eachother support... it happens. The real dispiarity comes between the high nws vs the low nws. They are two seperate worlds that rarely see eye to eye. Impact sectioned summed up for you.

 

[Goldee Lox]

Agreed.. and I don't doubt that it can be found. As I stated before, my view of this site is still young.

Different Norwood scales can definitely create disparaging mindsets on here.

 

[F2005]

Indeed, looking back on the last attack on my person ("You have no job? No wonder, you have no hair!"), I'm kind of proud of my reaction.

Which was... nothing. I just stopped talking to the guy and resumed my conversation with my friend. He seemed confused and eventually left.

Some here have said I should have punched him, insulted him, etc. These show that I care and you know what the fullheads would think of it:

"What a (bald) pussy, he can't even take a joke!" You know how they say, don't talk to stupid people, you might teach them something.

Grace. We'll see how graceful you remain when a group of people start singing their lungs out "HE HAS NO HAIIIR!" in front of you.

But of course, the lower Norwoods here will say: "That would never happen to me, because... because people are afraid of me! And I exude so much confidence at all times!"

Please, some people see a bald man in his twenties, you know they're going to showcase how superior they are to him.

That's the message I got from my last "hair loss incident": "You have no hair!" Innuendo: "But I do, suck it baldie!"

A typical Norwood 1.5 response: "Stop being so negative; you're a killjoy. No one likes to be around negativity or self-pity. You need to have confidence! If some one disses your hair loss, take it on the chin. If it wasn't hair loss, people would make fun of you for something else. That's how all guys are".

But obviously they'd NEVER follow their own advice.

 

[GoldenMane]

I'm seeing a few guys recently with severe hair loss/slick bald who are attracting some pretty hot women. I'm genuinely surprised at their success! Being bald makes things a hell of a lot more difficult, you will always be "the bald guy", but it doesn't mean your life is over. Bald guys can and do have successful lives, beautiful girlfriends and good jobs. They just have to work harder. And while it doesn't compensate for a lack of hair, getting fit and not being pasty faced white will improve your appearance. You'll still be bald, but you'll look healthier.

 

[whatevr]

A typical Norwood 1.5 response: "Stop being so negative; you're a killjoy. No one likes to be around negativity or self-pity. You need to have confidence! If some one disses your hair loss, take it on the chin. If it wasn't hair loss, people would make fun of you for something else. That's how all guys are".

But obviously they'd NEVER follow their own advice.

Eh, that's bull****. Once I lost my excess weight, no one made fun of me anymore. They didn't really have anything to make fun of, cause I looked pretty ****ing decent. Then I started losing hair.
My hair loss isn't severe enough yet for someone to actively make fun of me (though I've gotten a few quips), but if it continues to get worse, then that **** will start too.

 

[Primo]

A lot aren't, you just need to go to a website like SlyBaldGuys to see this. I personally find the realistic views on hair loss here refreshing, and I wish that I had come here sooner.

No, see that's exactly my point.

There is a whole world of rational and realistic baldies out there who don't inhabit either the delusional slybaldguy territory or, the almost, equally delusional and negative HairLossTalk.com impact section territory here, which for the most part preaches that it's all over for ever baldy/balding guy and that we should all actively give up on everything in life and just jerk off and play video games in a dark room until the day we die, or even better just off ourselves... Any constructive suggestions are simply shot down immediately. :shakehead:

You can be realistic, without going stupidly overkill and taking the negativity to a paranoid and delusional level. These type of impact section posters and slybaldguys are just as delusional as each other in my opinion.

Oh yeah and for the record newbies, i'm a 5ft 8 skinny, nw4 with awful headshape, so I certainly "get" everything there is to "get" about this baldness game with regards to social sigma and discrimination, having suffered it myself throughout my 20s and late teens.

I use this forum to rant the odd time just like everyone else & there's nothing wrong with that, because we all need to rant sometimes, especially given the arrogant bs we all inevitably suffer from arrogant fullheads and women sometimes...

I simply think it's important for us bald/balding brothers to keep a steady perspective, and stay proactive and in control of our lives, with career, hobbies and social life, as well as taking on board the brutal realities and lessons of balding in the 21C (i.e. get on treatments asap, cos bald look is simply not an option for 95% of guys and get a career that can pay for future hair transplants).

I know certain members here do that already, Fred for example pushing ahead with his career and mastering musical instruments, but too many guys just seem to spend their time wallowing here and feeling sorry for themselves, rather than short term ranting or becoming proactive and that's when the whole negative mindset morphs into a bulletproof negative belief system and they're completely lost forever.

Even if something really positive in their life came along and hit them like a brick in the face, they wouldn't realise or grasp it because they're too busy getting high off this thick cloud of negativity on the daily! lol, It's a dangerous way to live ma brothers, keep yo mind in yo riches baby, keep yo mind in yo riches!

 

[DannyBoyy]

You guys seem to not really been round Slybaldguys long enough to actually see that there has been honest convos there about hairloss...all im saying.

 

[Rudiger]

Eh, that's bull****. Once I lost my excess weight, no one made fun of me anymore. They didn't really have anything to make fun of, cause I looked pretty ****ing decent. Then I started losing hair.
My hair loss isn't severe enough yet for someone to actively make fun of me (though I've gotten a few quips), but if it continues to get worse, then that **** will start too.

Same here, people never made fun of my appearance before hair loss. So yeah, that's BS, fullhead BS.

Well spotted and everything guys but the fact it's obviously bull**** is the point they were making in the first place.

 

[DannyBoyy]

Well im glad some people wasnt treated like crap before hairloss, i wasnt so lucky lol why i think nothing of insults now if i ever get any since i know no better.

 

[Rudiger]

I know certain members here do that already, Fred for example pushing ahead with his career and mastering musical instruments, but too many guys just seem to spend their time wallowing here and feeling sorry for themselves, rather than short term ranting or becoming proactive and that's when the whole negative mindset morphs into a bulletproof negative belief system and they're completely lost forever.

I agreed with everything up to this point, but of all people to use FRED as a shining example of positivity and moving forward, haha. I can't think of anyone worse when it comes to promoting the idea of "giving up" for baldies, he'll claim otherwise and that he just enforces the idea of giving up on pursuing women because it's apparently a waste of time, but he constantly uses terminology like "a tan and working out won't save you", just constantly re-enforcing the idea that baldness is being eternally doomed.

Even "mastering musical instruments" I mean it's laughable, considering he just talked about how he's not naturally gifted at guitar (awww!), so is therefore a lazy ****er when it comes to really getting better and achieving maximum potential, but that would be pointless because it still won't be amazing enough and he won't be Hendrix. What a beacon of inspiration.

 

[Hairloss23]

Yes I can't be the only one who finds Fred painfully depressing, I can't imagine all bald guys feel like he does or we would have more than just him on here complaining about how bitterly unfair their lives are.

 

[shookwun]

only viable solutions are rugs, plugs, and drugs.


These cognitive approaches sound good on paper, but in reality are just mental masturbation.

'Lets get hyped. Blast some techno, bic our scalps, grow a goatee and pick up tonight' :laugh:

 

[Rudiger]

'Lets get hyped. Blast some techno, bic our scalps, grow a goatee and pick up tonight' :laugh:

That's funny and all but it's become like a trope on here to create quotes and attitudes that not many guys actually have so you can go "lol some people are so deluded!". And the only people who would say something like this aren't on this forum, and are probably easing into the realisation of what baldness actually means to them. Not many people here are that stupid.

You need to remain realistic. What if I wanted to become a male model? Would I be an inspiration if I followed that delusion?!

No, but who the **** suggested that it would be? Most people on here are realistic, you are not the poster boy for being practical and level-headed, and you haven't taken the red pill while the rest of us have our heads in the sand. Being realistic isn't telling most bald guys to give up, that going to the gym is overcompensating and pathetic, etc. that's being overly negative and you definitely get off on it.

Ironically you did once say that OF COURSE you still attracted females as a bald guy because of your height and modelling agencies had contacted you before (which I don't know why you'd write such a thing unless you were implying you're very handsome), and then later went on to say you're like a 7/10 even with hair. Nothing. Makes. Sense. Not a single damn thing, about you.

 

[Hairloss23]

Yep that's another thing I don't get about him, this "baldness is terrible and women hate it" mindset and then in the very next post claiming he gets loads of women...

 

[Rudiger]

I'm not bad looking and it's true that one modelling agency contacted me to welcome people at an event.

I think my height was the decisive criterium (of course they ask how tall you are).

That doesn't mean I could become a male model.

There are no bald male models anyway.

I'm not denying that they did, but I already just covered myself against what you wrote- I don't know why you'd mention the modelling agency unless you were implying you're very handsome. In the context of what we were discussing at the time, which was you denying that even average looking bald guys can get laid, you said that you were an exception as a bald guy who gets laid because you're tall and a potential model, so OF COURSE you still get women.

So really you're an alright/above average looking tall bald guy, who still got laid, so you contradict your own point which was originally that ONLY the 5% of genetically fantastic looking guys can be bald and still get women, but you aren't the top 5%, maybe top 30%, but not 5%. So how does that add up? Why are you the exception again?

 

[Rudiger]

Which bit?

The part about you writing about being contacted by a modelling agency, that entire thread is gone. Here's around the same time:

http://www.hairlosstalk.com/interac...-am-shocked!?p=1278831&viewfull=1#post1278831

In that post I said I just spent all this time arguing with you, but at the same time my posts that day and for weeks before, we never chatted, so the threads gone.

I am certain that when I asked why you were an exception to bald guys not getting laid, you definitely said along the lines of "of course I still got girls, I'm tall, have a good head shape, and have been contacted by modelling agencies".