Case in point - everybody is different
Talking to 3 girls
girl 1 - boring and the most blandest personality ever. Somewhat self-centered. We went on a couple of dates, made out but it didn’t work out
girl 2 - ultra positive, calling me handsome, suggesting dates, talking about sex and sending photos of herself half naked
I wasn’t that into her, so stopped pursing. If I was good chance I would have had sex with her.
girl 3 - similar to girl 2 but unfortunately abroad but we are chatting anyway as friends
if I had a defeatist mindset, like people on here, I would rule out all women as being the same as girl 1 and not bother trying