Colin297 said:
I see both sides here
Boondonk i agree with what you say about fighting baldness as well as you can and i for one am trying to do this within reason. I might consider an FUE at some point with donor hair from my body just to maintain a hairline for example. Probably wont ever do that but i can see what some people would opt for it.
male pattern baldness is an absolute plague its on my mind all the time mainly because of its slow and sure progression. Its like a cancer. In a superfical world its definately going to hurt.
I think you certainly go OTT with the "unpeople" thing though. Firstly, its a case by case basis - some people look shocking with a white bald head, others look just okay and the odd person even surprisingly suits it. All i know is, even the people that look bad arent completely dehuman-ed - not even close. ANYONE can still live a normal happy life and they can meet a partner of acceptable attractiveness etc if they try.
The thing is alot of you guys lose perspective and make up excuses as to why one slick average looking guy might still get everything he wants including respect from his peers, while they themselves dont.
Basically a slap head needs to concentrate more on circles in which he is known and less on gaining random people's acceptance because the guy/girl on the street can be brutally superfical but people you work with, family and friends aren't that bad.. You can make up specific stories all you like but thi sis a fact and if you disagree then its not your baldness that is the problem its yourself and the friendships and relationships you have cultivated
Of course the 'unpeople' thing is an exaggeration, but like many exaggerations it contains a grain of truth.
I appreciate that different bald guys get different results. For some, it really isn't an issue. For some, it's a hindrance but nothing major. For me, pretty much everything about the bald look fails. I'm in the 10% who look pretty shocking when they try it, in my opinion.
Of course, it's hard to be objective about yourself, but that's very much the difference I felt when I tried the shaved look. Which I did, for a while. With hair - even with a NW2 - I could at least chat to girls in a club and, even if they weren't interested in me, wouldn't be completely blown out. When I tried the shaved look I felt like I was a stain to be removed from their shoe. Literally, probably as soon as I went out of earshot they were 'WTF'ing' to each other.
I also received negative feedback from trusted friends, whose opinion I value. It just doesn't work for me man.
I can't be the only one out there. There have to be a fair number of people whose looks are ruined by losing their hair. For us, it's the equivalent of having an eye poked out or our teeth smashed in.
So my basic point is: If you're in
that situation, you owe it to yourself to do something about it. You don't HAVE to do something, but if you don't you may face a world of pain.
I appreciate that as an ugly baldy you can play different games, try and get women via your social circle and developing contacts yada yada. But you've got to bear in mind that going from a normal guy who can get a fair amount without too much trouble to being a guy who needs to nurture social circles to get even a whiff of poon is a huge setback. It's like telling a guy he can't drive to work, but has to cycle instead: sure, he'll get there, but it'll take ten times as long every single day to do so, and wear him down over time.
That's why I advise people who suffer with the look to do themselves a favour and try and do something about it.
