When You're Out In Public And You Hear..

[tellersquill]

Women trick each other with fake compliments all the time: "Short hair looks great on you, you look like Anne Hathaway!"

Dozens of women had told my ex-girlfriend that her short hair looked great.

Then I asked her: "How many guys have told you the same?" "None."

That's just how they're wired I guess.

Very interesting theory.

Do you think this is conscious sabotage or non conscious?

 

[CopeForLife]

Women trick each other with fake compliments all the time: "Short hair looks great on you, you look like Anne Hathaway!"

Dozens of women had told my ex-girlfriend that her short hair looked great.

Then I asked her: "How many guys have told you the same?" "None."

That's just how they're wired I guess.

Shaved head looks great on you, you look like Jason Statham!

Then I asked him: "How many girls have told you the same?" "None."

 

[Grasshüpfer]

Ah, guys. Deeply inside me im the cynical bastard that thinks you are absolutely right. Kind of vain, lol, I wonder how someone with that level of empathy can become therapist.
Then again i refuse to live in that perception of reality for now.

 

[Grasshüpfer]

Very interesting theory.

Do you think this is conscious sabotage or non conscious?

I dont think its sabotage, quite the opposite. Confidence doesn t make you beautiful, a lack of confidence goes a long way though. That s why girls compliment each other all the time.

 

[Grasshüpfer]

People laughing, do you ever automatically assume that they're laughing at you? I do, all the time.. Sometimes they're probably not, but a lot of times I feel like they are. I work retail, so I'm constantly around people. Makes me want a job where I'm not so much in the public eye :/

A friend told me exaclty the same anxiety story a few years ago, analyzing wether some people across the cafe were laughing about her or at her. She looks 100% like blonde emilia clarke. So don t worry, we all do this.

 

[Baldingat188]

If a therapist did actually say this then he or she should lose their licence.

well it wasnt the main thing they said. The main point they tried to get across was " its just something that happens in life , accept it".

im not exaggerating though one of them really did say that I was being " kind of vain".

 

[Baldingat188]

I think the problem is people are so hesitant to believe hair loss is a big problem. Even if they discrimate on a subconcious level they still think "just hair no big deal". pretty much everyone who isnt balding carries this attitude it seems. Honestly I dont think there is anywhere outside of this forum where I could actually talk about how much hair loss ruins my life.

 

[IggyPop]

I was diagnosed with psychosis when I first explained I was losing my hair. They thought a woman couldn't possibly go bald, so it must be psychosis, right? Later I was even put on medication for schizophrenia, because they thought it was all in my head. I hate how they are so quick to put a diagnosis on you.

I swear, I am not making this up because of this thread´s topic:
When I started balding I freaked out and nobody would believe me, because I was mostly diffusing. I saw psychiatrists and in order to get a "better" diagnosis I was asked further questions: "Are sometimes people laughing at you on the street?" I said yes - and was also put on medication for schizophrenia. After years I found out that I been diagnosed with "paranoia", I strongly assume because I said that sometimes people on the street would laugh at me.
But it was the f*****g truth, since I was fat, ugly, with low confidence and anxiety, other youths repeadly would make fun of me in public without knowing me.

 

[IggyPop]

Lol these mental health professionals are frauds.

For years they had told me that it was not my hair, that I was suffering from a mental disease, that I had depression, anxiety, psychosis, borderline personality disorder, and what not, that all these were genetic that I would have to go on medication all my life to live a normal life because I had a defect in my brain.

Then I got my hair transplant, since it started growing (and even before, actually it was from the moment I realized I could get a hair transplant): no more depression, no more anxiety, nothing.

Like these same mental health professionals would not have been fucked up in the head if they started losing their hair aggressively while being a teenager. The arrogance.

For me it was ADHD instead of (early) psychosis. They can have a bit similiar symptoms. After years I found out by coincidence that I had been already diagnosed as a child (my parents didn´t care and not even told me about it....) with ADHD and I was really struggling desperately because psychiatrists after hearing from my earlier diagnosis naturally wouldn´t believe me. Every psycho they see is telling them: "All the other psychiatrists diagnosed me wrong, I am not crazy." I was close to actually killing myself, since I didn´t know whether I was really crazy or not. I think I have developed some PTSD since then.
It was like the story of countless movies, when someones makes a discovery, but nobody believes him until he is starting to doubt whether he is actually right or not.

 

[Baldingat188]

Yea its kind of hard to say weather the mental health or the external problems come first. I really feel like my mental health problems are a result of all the negative things I have going in life. I bet if I could wake up as a tall good looking guy I would feel alot better. Probally would have anxiety to some degree but my life would be alot better.

 

[michel sapin]

hey dante , you live in a city i presume ? Me i live near the sea , in the campaign . i was already kinda asocial before my hairloss , and it triggered social anxiety, but fortnately after school , i can come back home , going surfing and enjoying nature and landscape . Better than nothing, i have always hated city and town life style.

 

[michel sapin]

and yeah it is true that look is everything in this damn modern society, but try to avoid social media like facebook instagram , and developped talent . And life will still sucks but at least you 've achieved something.
And people who are not balding will never understand the struggle.

 

[shookwun]

I remember on holiday, I was talking with a guy about my balding, he said it was part of life, part of getting older.

Then I told him I was 19.

"You're 19?! I thought you were much older! Then yeah it kind of sucks. Ah what are you going to do?"

Then he went back to getting drunk and partying with his perfect NW1.

I stayed in my hotel room and cried the whole day.

Followed by having unprotected sex with one of the waitresses the following night after last call.

 

[EvilLocks]

Lol these mental health professionals are frauds.

For years they had told me that it was not my hair, that I was suffering from a mental disease, that I had depression, anxiety, psychosis, borderline personality disorder, and what not, that all these were genetic that I would have to go on medication all my life to live a normal life because I had a defect in my brain.

Then I got my hair transplant, since it started growing (and even before, actually it was from the moment I realized I could get a hair transplant): no more depression, no more anxiety, nothing.

Like these same mental health professionals would not have been fucked up in the head if they started losing their hair aggressively while being a teenager. The arrogance.

This. A million times. God, I hate mental health "professionals". I have only come across one who was nice and understanding, without trying to label me with these bogus diagnoses. And this speaks volumes, as I've been in "the system" since the age of 17 (now 24). What these people have put me through is really unforgivable, and the system has major flaws. They don't want to give you the truth, just empty "advice" and promises, and of course medication. I will admit that antidepressants helped for a while, but now I'm back to square one again. I have realized that the only thing who will pull me out of this depression is for my problems to dissapear. And that won't happen.

 

[N003]

For labile people this forum is simply horror......

 

[CopeForLife]

mental health professionals are just bluepilled morons

let alone EVEN you speak 100% truth (no) they have their own problems and perception of your problem refracted

the only thing I believe works (I never tried and do not want) is medication

but you became meds prisoner... sucks

 

[kj6723]

Lol these mental health professionals are frauds.

 

[Patrick_Bateman]

Wow, great video. Alot of people can learn from Tom Cruise. (Did not think I would ever say this)
Especially the last part, if you're unsure about something it's okay to take a step back and say: I'm not sure about this subject, so I don't have an opinion on it.

 

[IggyPop]

Lol, I remember telling my drug-pushing psychiatrist that I was afraid of these drugs and he said:

"You know what kind of people are against psychiatric drugs?! Scientologists!"

"Wow, now I'm completely reassured, gimme those pills Doctor!"

My "doctors" had no problems describing me pills which are normally used by patients with paranoid schizophrenia, but they were pushing me to stop Finasteride. Thx god I didn´t listen to them.......

 

[hellouser]

See if I said this to my psychologist, he would say its psychosis

Your psychologist needs to see a psychologist.