Why Did I Get Shafted By Genetics?????

[shookwun]

lol Xander, always goes on about "don't even care about women at this point" "might as well forget about women all together" but he is utterly, singularly, unhealthily obsessed with women, girlfriend, getting laid. Its literally 99% of his post content.

Yet this is the same guy who has active accounts on tinder and badoo.

 

[Dontwannabeabetabob]

I actually made a horrifying discovery only this past month

Up until now I'd been under the impression that hairloss in my family was basically limited to receding hairlines on my dad's side. I had always been under the impression that on my mom's side, hair genes were very strong, as my uncles and grandfather maintained fullheads past middle age. This was until my mom pulled out an old album with pictures of her grandparents

Turns out my great-grandfather was slick bald

You can imagine my horror, as until now I'd been certain I had inherited male pattern baldness from my dad, i.e. manageable with medication + transplants

I need to do some research and figure out at what age my great-grandfather went bald, but I need to approach the subject delicately as my mom already thinks my obsession over my hairloss is bordering on mental illness

Horrifying indeed. Your mom will never understand the social and personal consequences of a balding man, you can try to explain yourself but I feel as if most wouldn't understand, they'd call you vain, shallow, etc.

I hope you'll find the answer to that question as if it were me I'd be searching far and wide. In my family the men who did start to bald started after 55, at the most just "mature" hairlines and thinner crowns. All manageable with transplants and meds.

I still can't believe this discovery, looks like I'll be on this website all night. f***.

 

[DoctorHouse]

I actually made a horrifying discovery only this past month

Up until now I'd been under the impression that hairloss in my family was basically limited to receding hairlines on my dad's side. I had always been under the impression that on my mom's side, hair genes were very strong, as my uncles and grandfather maintained fullheads past middle age. This was until my mom pulled out an old album with pictures of her grandparents

Turns out my great-grandfather was slick bald

You can imagine my horror, as until now I'd been certain I had inherited male pattern baldness from my dad, i.e. manageable with medication + transplants

I need to do some research and figure out at what age my great-grandfather went bald, but I need to approach the subject delicately as my mom already thinks my obsession over my hairloss is bordering on mental illness

I think my parent's realize my BDD is my mental illness so they try to keep telling me my hair looks thick every time they see me.

 

[Dontwannabeabetabob]

How did you guys bring this up to family?

 

[DoctorHouse]

How did you guys bring this up to family?

Easy. Just point the finger at the one who passed down the balding gene and say thanks alot for ruining my life.

 

[Dontwannabeabetabob]

Easy. Just point the finger at the one who passed down the balding gene and say thanks alot for ruining my life.

Damn him for reproducing!

You mention BDD and I certainly think hairloss has given me that. Everywhere I go I feel like people notice my thinning, even with my improvements. It's become an obsession now I've come to realize.

What's your hair status?

 

[kj6723]

Horrifying indeed. Your mom will never understand the social and personal consequences of a balding man, you can try to explain yourself but I feel as if most wouldn't understand, they'd call you vain, shallow, etc.

I hope you'll find the answer to that question as if it were me I'd be searching far and wide. In my family the men who did start to bald started after 55, at the most just "mature" hairlines and thinner crowns. All manageable with transplants and meds.

I still can't believe this discovery, looks like I'll be on this website all night. f***.

I think my parent's realize my BDD is my mental illness so they try to keep telling me my hair looks thick every time they see me.

Just went and straight up asked my mom a few minutes ago

She's claiming he wasn't slick bald, and he had "some hair up there". I guess it's possible, pics were black and white and I didn't study them too extensively. Still, I feel further research will be required

Need to know at what age I can consider myself somewhat "safe", if dutasteride will be in my future sooner than anticipated, and if I should be considering fut over fue to maximize grafts over my lifetime

 

[DoctorHouse]

Damn him for reproducing!

You mention BDD and I certainly think hairloss has given me that. Everywhere I go I feel like people notice my thinning, even with my improvements. It's become an obsession now I've come to realize.

What's your hair status?

My BDD came from my acne and my ectomorphic body and chicken legs. My hair was my best asset. When it started to go I started on treatments immediately. Caught it early enough. Lost some ground over the years but according some expert Norwood spotters I still have good hair. It looks way better in photos than in person but it's time for me to consider a hair transplant just to thicken up the front. I am more of a diffuse thinner which makes it harder for transplants. But I have seen a case with Dr Arocha where it can be done.

 

[hanginginthewire]

With BDD, you will definitely have a field day naming all your flaws unfortunately. I think the biggest handicap is you are intelligent enough to realize them in the first place. What about the guys who are already a NW3V or greater and come to this forum and ask if they are balding and have no clue they have been balding for over 5 to 10 years. I guess being clueless to your flaws could be a genetic gift in itself. I know how you feel about graying. I started around the same at as you did and in only few years did it accelerate. However, with hair color it looks fine but the expense has been huge. And then you see these guys in their 50's and 60's with almost zero gray and you realize just how much money you could have saved if it would have happened alot later in life. Genetic lotteries can definitely make you famous and rich.

Yeah seriously.

The funny thing (though not really) is after I wrote my post I kept thinking of all the things "wrong" that I didn't even mention. I think being dissatisfied with one's appearance (in a profound way, I know everyone has things they might change) has to be one of the most ruinous things that can happen to a person's psyche. The amount of energy (psychic and physical) that my appearance issues have taken is truly sobering. f***, just look at the time we spend on the forums. That alone. And that doesn't encompass 1/4 of the time I'm obsessing on hair loss. I pray and will be very pleased if and when there's a cure/effective treatment, but we'll never get this time back.

 

[Saurabhaj]

This is not what I said.
I know that in forums people tend to use extremism and emphasis.
However, I wrote that your "best bet" is to be born handsome or rich. I did not write that, if you do not have these characteristics, you will not have a chance. You will have to work harder and maybe you will not have as much fun.

Now I have a question for you. You wrote multiple times that you have no wife primarily because of hairloss. You are a good, empathic doctor.How did being smart but bald work out for you in marital happiness?
It seem to me that, when you discuss your own baldness, it is such a stroke of bad luck. When others complain, you downplay their throes.
Am I wrong?

When someone says baldness was a reason for their failure in dating or love life,i strongly agree with it.
I understand this.
In love,boy should have looks that the girls will love in single heartbeat.If that boy is not likeable,he will failed.I accept this.

But i strongly disagree if some says they have trouble in life (career wise).
or if they any one say baldness is the reason they don't want to live life.


I have always cheered people not to take baldness as a problem and achieve a successful and happy life.
For example,there is one guy here who always talk how bad people talk about him for his looks,
I have always dislike such comments because i think person should ignore bad insults because no one has right to talk anything bad.

I was told multiple times i look older than my age,but i did not take it to my heart because that would be so damaging to my confidence.
I think no person should lose confidence because of their looks.

I do not down play others,i want them to recognise that no one has Right to downplay them.

 

[Roberto_72]

+1 BDD.

My options when I think of how I'll look approaching a woman:

BLUE PILL
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RED PILL
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Now these are extreme and I don't think anyone is either an ogre OR Gosling - except for an actual ogre or the actual Gosling.

However, there are some interesting aspects of this "beauty and the beast" juxtaposition.

Wherefore are Goslings Goslings - and the rest of the world has pretty much anonymous faces?

It would be much more interesting if nature had made everyone as good looking as Gosling and the evolution of the species was decided by - say - big fights, rather than good looks. You really want a woman? You have to fight for her. Literally. The same for women. You like that guy with blue eyes? Kill your competition.

Wait. This is what animals do. Maybe this is why there are no animal shrinks (except in LA).

 

[Xander94]

For the record nobody's life is easy.

Women's life in ages 13-40 is easy

 

[Xander94]

Now these are extreme and I don't think anyone is either an ogre OR Gosling - except for an actual ogre or the actual Gosling.

However, there are some interesting aspects of this "beauty and the beast" juxtaposition.

Wherefore are Goslings Goslings - and the rest of the world has pretty much anonymous faces?

It would be much more interesting if nature had made everyone as good looking as Gosling and the evolution of the species was decided by - say - big fights, rather than good looks. You really want a woman? You have to fight for her. Literally. The same for women. You like that guy with blue eyes? Kill your competition.

Wait. This is what animals do. Maybe this is why there are no animal shrinks (except in LA).

Gosling is 3/10 I mog him

 

[Xander94]

Every day is my worst day

 

[Stanx22]

+1 BDD.

My options when I think of how I'll look approaching a woman:

BLUE PILL
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RED PILL
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Yeah, because if i approached a woman with the red pill mindset, then i'd be 2/10, but with the blue pill mindset i'd magically transform into 8/10 male model.

 

[Stanx22]

Every day is my worst day

Do you have any friends ?

 

[Xander94]

Do you have any friends ?

Not really

 

[Stanx22]

Not really

Just like me, and the loneliness is extremely hard. I nearly don't ever go out of my house or even my room because i have nothing to do outside and no one to spend time with. I think if i ever died, no one would even notice.

 

[Xander94]

Just like me, and the loneliness is extremely hard. I nearly don't ever go out of my house or even my room because i have nothing to do outside and no one to spend time with. I think if i ever died, no one would even notice.

Better start trying bro or you'll end up like me I was able to cope at ur age.

Now I just cant anymore it keeps gettings worse. Today I almost broke down crying

 

[Stanx22]

Better start trying bro or you'll end up like me I was able to cope at ur age.

Now I just cant anymore it keeps gettings worse. Today I almost broke down crying

It's no use because neither i or normies can understand each others. And i'm sorry for your painful existence, PM me anytime if you need someone to talk to. I'll be glad to help.