That's different. It's more of a bonding comment "look at the situation of this dude we know, ha ha" with a mean streak. Different than if the dude in question were present, then it's an attack on the social stature of the dude in front of other people.
I remember an incident when I was on a bus. There was a group of 2 girls, 1 guy at a stop. One girl was somewhat plump (not super obese). The group got in, the door when closing hit the plump girl. The non-plump girl said "at least it would not have hurt you". The plump girl tried to laugh it off. Mentally I was like WTF -- did you need to put down the girl in mixed company out in public??
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The problem though, is that even if you are not bitchy, your kind fears being put down by b****s. This results in the artificial manufactured hate toward certain kinds of men Fred was talking about.
I don't think we should make evilocks or Joan feel bad about coming here. We men are no better. It's not like we're chasing after the older less attractive women either. Besides the whole attraction system was set-up by evolution/nature not by women.
Joan & Evilocks, I'm OK with it that you prefer younger more attractive men because I prefer younger more attractive women and I admit it.