Why Do You Guys Keep Surfing This Forum? (genuine Question)

[Haironn]

I'm not trying to start arguments or problems, I'm genuinely asking,
why do you guys keep surfing this forum?
from what I've seen, this forum does nothing good for anyone, does this forum make you feel better? does this forum help your hair loss?
why do people stay here?
all I see in this forum is gloominess, depression, ranting and a very negative point of view on life.
sure, hairloss makes dating life way more difficult, sure it's depressing, there is no much we can do about it.

but why come here? I doubt this place makes anyone feel better about themselves, so what's the motive?
this forum is a confirmation bias forum that 24/7 talks about how life sucks for people with hair loss, so why the heck stay here?

live with your hairloss or fight your hair loss with drugs and treatments, but why stay in a place that makes you feel worse about yourself and gets you into bigger and deeper depression?

I guess it's easy for people to feel sorry for themselves and rant all day. but I think it's a double edged sword.
you come to this forum to rant and to see how you're right about your point of views and to seek confirmation that this life is hell for men with hairloss, you think it makes you feel better and that your beliefs won, feels good to be right and hate life being bald, but in return you get more depressed and hate yourself even more.

who even benefits from being on this forum? please if there is anyone whom this forum made them feel better about themselves step up and let me know how.

 

[JohnsonDDG]

My reasons: to vent, to listen, to give advise, for interesting conversation, to hear about treatments, to rage, for the drama, for the jokes, to theorise, for therapy.

 

[sunchyme1]

to troll

 

[JohnsonDDG]

to troll

 

[sunchyme1]

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[Captain Rex]

I'm not trying to start arguments or problems, I'm genuinely asking,
why do you guys keep surfing this forum?
from what I've seen, this forum does nothing good for anyone, does this forum make you feel better? does this forum help your hair loss?
why do people stay here?
all I see in this forum is gloominess, depression, ranting and a very negative point of view on life.
sure, hairloss makes dating life way more difficult, sure it's depressing, there is no much we can do about it.

but why come here? I doubt this place makes anyone feel better about themselves, so what's the motive?
this forum is a confirmation bias forum that 24/7 talks about how life sucks for people with hair loss, so why the heck stay here?

live with your hairloss or fight your hair loss with drugs and treatments, but why stay in a place that makes you feel worse about yourself and gets you into bigger and deeper depression?

I guess it's easy for people to feel sorry for themselves and rant all day. but I think it's a double edged sword.
you come to this forum to rant and to see how you're right about your point of views and to seek confirmation that this life is hell for men with hairloss, you think it makes you feel better and that your beliefs won, feels good to be right and hate life being bald, but in return you get more depressed and hate yourself even more.

who even benefits from being on this forum? please if there is anyone whom this forum made them feel better about themselves step up and let me know how.

simple reason -
you can't share this pain with anyone else in your real life - they will laugh at you - that's it.
We, as humans, has the urge to socialize with each other but this rude society doesn't allow us to do so and for that reason we made a community here to keep us happy and satisfied.
"The primitive era of virtual society started in 21st century........." - that's what the future generation will read in history books.

 

[Rudiger]

Iwho even benefits from being on this forum? please if there is anyone whom this forum made them feel better about themselves step up and let me know how.

Yeah I do, there's a lot of interesting posts on here, and some great humour as well, my experience of this forum is obviously very different to yours.

I think to glance over this forum without really getting into it, it may seem like a really gloomy place, but the amount of depressing content isn't as much as what you're saying here. Sometimes it spreads though, often you'll see a string of new topics about suicide within a day of each other, then you won't see anything for a while, that's just how it goes.

But now, how has this place made me feel better about myself? I've always hated baldness and know baldness would be sh*t, this place makes me own up to that reality and face it. Haha when I was 16 and first noticed I might have hair loss already, I thought I'd be bald by 20, and the most ridiculous things I'd tell myself "Just start working out, be like Bruce Willis with a thick neck, people will think it's cool" well luckily I never needed this place to figure out that was delusion in it's highest form.

But this place reminds me daily that I can't fool myself, I'll only end up feeling worse in the long run.

 

[Haironn]

Yeah I do, there's a lot of interesting posts on here, and some great humour as well, my experience of this forum is obviously very different to yours.

I think to glance over this forum without really getting into it, it may seem like a really gloomy place, but the amount of depressing content isn't as much as what you're saying here. Sometimes it spreads though, often you'll see a string of new topics about suicide within a day of each other, then you won't see anything for a while, that's just how it goes.

But now, how has this place made me feel better about myself? I've always hated baldness and know baldness would be sh*t, this place makes me own up to that reality and face it. Haha when I was 16 and first noticed I might have hair loss already, I thought I'd be bald by 20, and the most ridiculous things I'd tell myself "Just start working out, be like Bruce Willis with a thick neck, people will think it's cool" well luckily I never needed this place to figure out that was delusion in it's highest form.

But this place reminds me daily that I can't fool myself, I'll only end up feeling worse in the long run.

to me it sounds more like "this place reminds me daily to be self conscious about myself and that I can't start feeling better about my hairloss, cause I'll only end up feeling worse in the long run"

did you even see the top threads in this sub-forum? it's all about how much of hell it is to be with hair loss

 

[Rudiger]

to me it sounds more like "this place reminds me daily to be self conscious about myself and that I can't start feeling better about my hairloss, cause I'll only end up feeling worse in the long run"

did you even see the top threads in this sub-forum? it's all about how much of hell it is to be with hair loss

I just had another look at the most recent threads right now and I don't know what you're talking about, we do sometimes have a bunch of threads about suicide and depression relating to hair loss, but right now I can't see which threads you mean.

But indeed I can't start trying to feel BETTER about my hair loss, it's hair loss, c'mon, so at least now I stop trying to fool myself. In feeling realistic about the shittyness of this situation I am at least a more balanced individual, there's no ups and downs, I'm also not consistently depressed from being on here, if that's what you're implying, because this place genuinely doesn't depress me.

 

[Dench57]

i'm just here for the memes

 

[Haironn]

I just had another look at the most recent threads right now and I don't know what you're talking about, we do sometimes have a bunch of threads about suicide and depression relating to hair loss, but right now I can't see which threads you mean.

But indeed I can't start trying to feel BETTER about my hair loss, it's hair loss, c'mon, so at least now I stop trying to fool myself. In feeling realistic about the shittyness of this situation I am at least a more balanced individual, there's no ups and downs, I'm also not consistently depressed from being on here, if that's what you're implying, because this place genuinely doesn't depress me.

"I can't start to feel better about my hair loss"
you basically confirm my point, you feel sh*t about it, you stay here because this place makes sure you will continue to feel sh*t about it.
you're basically saying you just have gotten used to feeling sh*t about it so it became the norm so you're "okay" now.

tbh I was in your spot and in others, it's called avoidance.

 

[rclark]

simple reason -
you can't share this pain with anyone else in your real life - they will laugh at you - that's it.
We, as humans, has the urge to socialize with each other but this rude society doesn't allow us to do so and for that reason we made a community here to keep us happy and satisfied.
"The primitive era of virtual society started in 21st century........." - that's what the future generation will read in history books.

So true. My family makes fun of me. Have to do this on my android.

 

[Dante92]

Depression, venting and lollygagging.

 

[Rudiger]

"I can't start to feel better about my hair loss"
you basically confirm my point, you feel sh*t about it, you stay here because this place makes sure you will continue to feel sh*t about it.
you're basically saying you just have gotten used to feeling sh*t about it so it became the norm so you're "okay" now.

tbh I was in your spot and in others, it's called avoidance.

It's insane to try and feel better about something that's undeniably bad. Why would you feel better about losing anything? If I was happy to be bald I could just shave a horseshoe right now, why would anyone prefer to do that?

But I don't recall saying I feel sh*t about it, just that I refuse to attempt to kid myself that I can feel positive about hair loss.

You seem to be wanting people to be depressed on here or admit their depression, which is kind of ironic considering this thread was set up to hate the doom and gloom aspect of this forum. This thread's probably the most depressing one around right now, oddly enough.

But how exactly is it "avoidance" if you're facing up to the awful reality of something?

 

[Haironn]

It's insane to try and feel better about something that's undeniably bad. Why would you feel better about losing anything? If I was happy to be bald I could just shave a horseshoe right now, why would anyone prefer to do that?

But I don't recall saying I feel sh*t about it, just that I refuse to attempt to kid myself that I can feel positive about hair loss.

You seem to be wanting people to be depressed on here or admit their depression, which is kind of ironic considering this thread was set up to hate the doom and gloom aspect of this forum. This thread's probably the most depressing one around right now, oddly enough.

But how exactly is it "avoidance" if you're facing up to the awful reality of something?

this thread is not wanting for people to be depressed, it's to show that this sub-forum does nothing but to depress people even further.

I'm not saying you should feel good about your hairloss, but people should live with it or accept it, or at least stop thinking about it, and if the hair loss stops you from doing things you want to do, then that's a problem. and being on this sub-forum will only make that problem worse.

 

[yetti]

basically, this forum is a group of regulars who like each other and enjoy communicating with each other about a lot of topics, only one of them being hair loss.

 

[Rudiger]

this thread is not wanting for people to be depressed, it's to show that this sub-forum does nothing but to depress people even further.

I'm not saying you should feel good about your hairloss, but people should live with it or accept it, or at least stop thinking about it, and if the hair loss stops you from doing things you want to do, then that's a problem. and being on this sub-forum will only make that problem worse.

Maybe that was the original intention but I think you're clinging to the idea that I and others must be depressed, just so your point is proven. I still don't see what threads you're talking about that are currently depressing top threads.

But I can keep saying it, and you can keep telling me how I feel, but this place genuinely doesn't depress me, as much as you now seem to want it to for some reason.

Anyway, have you lurked here long?

 

[JohnsonDDG]

this thread is not wanting for people to be depressed, it's to show that this sub-forum does nothing but to depress people even further.

I'm not saying you should feel good about your hairloss, but people should live with it or accept it, or at least stop thinking about it, and if the hair loss stops you from doing things you want to do, then that's a problem. and being on this sub-forum will only make that problem worse.

I love the misery and cynicism and I hate cheerful people.

 

[sunchyme1]

i love dante but the f****r wont reply back to me anymore

 

[GornMyson]

It's nice to know people feel the same as me inside.