Pacman said:
My world is unbeleivably dark and bleak at the moment.
My love in life is women. My passion. Its what excites me. Not saying that Im a player or anything. Just that meeting women is what I love. Simple.
And for a few years I was desired. When my receding hairline hadn't made much of an impact. Now my f****ing recession has made my forehead look bulbous and shitty and it has completely f***ed up the proportions and contours of my face. My attractiveness went down from what I perceived to be between 8-9 to about a 6-7.
I feel like a pig. I hate myself right now. Now im just another average joe who has to get lucky with some fat pig f*ck for a women.
It doesn't matter how good my body is, or how nice my clothes are. Its all about the facial aesthetics. Thats all that matters, as long as your body isn't fat and you have at least decent clothes. You can't polish a turd. Once Im fully bald..f*ck..I don't know what I'll do. Im not tall. I live in the f****ing UK and dont get much sun so ill be pale and bald. And god help me if I have a beer belly. Shortish, fat, bald..what more could you want. I'll have to play the 'ironic' bald guy card in life. Hey everyone! Im the bald guy!
And Ill never be able to get with hot girls anymore. I'll have to settle for someone who is on a similar level of attractiviness to me when Im fully bald. Ill have to settle for second best. All because the f****ing hairs on my head f***ed me. f*ck.
Life to me is just a constant f****ing rat race. Work like sh*t. Have sh*t things happen. The only good reward is finding a nice woman. But how will do I do that as a bald f*ck. A bald f*ck with ruined self belief and confidence.
My only hope now is to look impeccable in other areas. Dress well always. Have a great body and make sure my complexion is good through fitness and diet and overall health. As a bald guy you have to really put the effort in, and all that effort doesn't take away the effects of the baldness.
How f****ing demoralizing will it be when even hypothetically im doing everything I f****ing can to still look good. Dressing well, eating healthily, looking tan, having a good job etc but the hot women will still pick up any guy with a nice face and hair over me.
So all the effort you put in, the returns are really diminishing once you get bald.
I understand why people come to these forums (heck I'm one of them.) It's a kick in the nads losing your hair and sharing your experiences with other balding men helps in away, letting off steam sharing opinions etc, it's almost like a hobby once you feel you know quite a bit about male pattern baldness. However, when you read posts like that where people think their lives are over, some even confessing to suicide attempts, it just goes to show that a lot of people here have psychological issues which really is a much bigger problem than hair loss.
I'm 18 years old, and all my life up until college I was overweight, had a large forehead, not a great looking guy. On top of this, I was insanely quiet and shy (this flaw still haunts me) and would go bright red at the mere mention of my name.
In my mid college years, I somehow transformed- grew a few inches, got my hair cut ( following terrible haircuts for my naturally thin and curly hair) lost a lot of weight, and was somehow now this fairly good looking guy. When people then started commenting on my hair (friends with banter) I began to worry about hair loss.
Two years on, the recession hasn't got much worse if at all but I do believe I am going to lose more. But by now, after only a couple of years of slight worry I really don't care much.
The point of this (unintentionally long winded) post is that at an age where looks are so important, considering I've been pretty unattractive up until the age of 16 or so, I don't let hair loss rule my life. I try to look my best obviously, but that's all you can do. To be honest, finding posts where people older than myself are suicidal over hair loss makes me feel a lot better about myself than a full head of hair would. Male pattern baldness isn't fair, but there are fair worse things on this earth that people can't do anything about that are also unfair. Not being able to get past this lack of 'fairness' is what ruins your life, not the baldness.
