Anyone Else Scared They Will Be Single Forever?

[Aldrich]

f*** no. I pray to kek everyday that some she-devil won't put their vile magic on me and my resolve will fail me.

 

[resu]

No. Simply based on the fact that when I put in the effort I have had multiple arrangements of women in my life. That reassurance alone gives me enough satisfaction that when I go back on the dating market I wont have trouble meeting women. Problem for me stems from the ability to have a successful relationship, as I lack the life structure, and cognitive ability to have a fulfilling (healthy) relationship.




My issues are more along the lines of fixing my anxiety, habits, and life style. When I feel low about my self it rely decimates my ability to be myself as I cradle up, choke and become empty in thought.

If you suffer from anxiety it wouldn't matter how successful you were in the past, you need constant reassuring and confirmation, you would just think you got lucky up to this point and now it's really the last time.

 

[Xander94]

Only validation and halo effect can save you. Too bad you need good looks for both of them. You can't just "create confidence" out of the f*****g blue.

You can be like f*****g eggman though and have that I dont give a f*** confidence. Dunno how much that will benefit us though

 

[resu]

You can be like f*****g eggman though and have that I dont give a f*** confidence. Dunno how much that will benefit us though

Same with women that aren't all that, they just lack awareness, lucky bunch, always happy and euphoric.

 

[Xander94]

"Benefit"? Do you actually think he got any benefit? He's considered a pathetic loser, people on the internet look at hiv videos/images to have a good laugh at his expense and his misery. Can't totally blame them, though, the guy admittedly ridicules himself more than enough.

f*** man what are we supposed to do then ? One of these days i'll flip I know it.

 

[JohnsonDDG]

I think I'm more likely than not, at this point.

What will you do if you remain single and don't start a family?

Will you just focus on work and hobbies?

 

[blackg]

If you suffer from anxiety it wouldn't matter how successful you were in the past, you need constant reassuring and confirmation, you would just think you got lucky up to this point and now it's really the last time.

Well said, mate.

 

[pjhair]

I'm probably thinking this because my girlfriend just broke up with me because I'm moving abroad for a year but does anyone else get terrified that they will be single for the rest of their lives?

Because I've been single and I've been in relationships and I know for sure that's its easier to be happier and content when you can share you life with someone else.

I'm feeling sceptical about ever settling down. I'm very picky with who I can date because I don't like most people and only like to hang out with intelligent people. This alone is a problem because a large proportion of people aren't into politics, literature, philosophy etc. so that reduces the dating market significantly.

Then If I add the fact that I work abroad and don't earn that much money then my market value is reduced even more.

It seems a lot easier to find someone to spend a night with then it is to find someone to spend a lifetime with.

Anyone else feel they are facing impending and eternal singledom?

I am pretty sure I will remain single for the rest of my life. I refuse to settle down with anyone that is below 8. But given that I work in a field that has pretty much no women and all the women in my network are either married or in a committed relationship, the chance that I will meet a single women of my taste is pretty much zero. Especially because online dating hasn't yielded any result for me.

However, the prospect of staying single doesn't really bother me. I have amazing family and friends. I really enjoy the hobbies that I have. I will get the US citizenship next year after which I will start to travel extensively, especially in summer when I don't have grad school. I am thrilled just thinking about it. Unlike many guys, I don't have any urge to have kids. I don't even crave a women's companionship like many guys. It will be nice to have it but not something that I constantly think about. The only reason I need women is for sex, that's it. However, my ability to enjoy my hobbies relies heavily on the state of my hair. For example, when my hair looks good, I look forward to traveling and spending time with my friends. Otherwise, I just feel miserable. The impact of hair loss goes far deeper than it's ability to drive women away from you.

 

[pjhair]

I'm going to travel around south america for a year in a few weeks, will no longer be a regular here then. Just working away and saving now so f*** all else to be doing.

Excellent idea man. One of my friend went there and worked as a teacher. He is a 5 and now has a really good looking girl friend. He is really happy. He travels everywhere with her and they genuinely like each other. He is far, far happier there than he was in the US. I hope you meet some hottie there as well. I will highly recommend visiting Argentina. Women there are super attractive and are fascinated by foreigners. Learn a little Spanish if you decide to go there.

 

[tomcat]

I am pretty sure I will remain single for the rest of my life. I refuse to settle down with anyone that is below 8. But given that I work in a field that has pretty much no women and all the women in my network are either married or in a committed relationship, the chance that I will meet a single women of my taste is pretty much zero. Especially because online dating hasn't yielded any result for me.

However, the prospect of staying single doesn't really bother me. I have amazing family and friends. I really enjoy the hobbies that I have. I will get the US citizenship next year after which I will start to travel extensively, especially in summer when I don't have grad school. I am thrilled just thinking about it. Unlike many guys, I don't have any urge to have kids. I don't even crave a women's companionship like many guys. It will be nice to have it but not something that I constantly think about. The only reason I need women is for sex, that's it. However, my ability to enjoy my hobbies relies heavily on the state of my hair. For example, when my hair looks good, I look forward to traveling and spending time with my friends. Otherwise, I just feel miserable. The impact of hair loss goes far deeper than it's ability to drive women away from you.

hey dude may i ask hows ur hair ??

 

[pjhair]

hey dude may i ask hows ur hair ??

It's Norwood 2.5 right now.

 

[SmoothSailing]

Excellent idea man. One of my friend went there and worked as a teacher. He is a 5 and now has a really good looking girl friend. He is really happy. He travels everywhere with her and they genuinely like each other. He is far, far happier there than he was in the US. I hope you meet some hottie there as well. I will highly recommend visiting Argentina. Women there are super attractive and are fascinated by foreigners. Learn a little Spanish if you decide to go there.

Sí, Señor I've been learning a bit, should have the basics down.

My friend who went said Tinder is piss easy over there compared to here, on the other hand he is a solid 7.

I do look really Irish though, hopefully that helps somewhat

 

[pjhair]

Sí, Señor I've been learning a bit, should have the basics down.

My friend who went said Tinder is piss easy over there compared to here, on the other hand he is a solid 7.

I do look really Irish though, hopefully that helps somewhat

A friend of mine who went to Argentina also looked Irish. He had a really good time there. Women found him fascinating even though he isn't very good looking.

 

[resu]

A friend of mine who went to Argentina also looked Irish. He had a really good time there. Women found him fascinating even though he isn't very good looking.

That's the foreign effect, see this goofy guy, in his home country Canada he would be buried but in China he's seen as a celebrity with women wanting to take photos with him.

 

[Afro_Vacancy]

What will you do if you remain single and don't start a family?

Will you just focus on work and hobbies?

Probably.

 

[Saurabhaj]

Only validation and halo effect can save you. Too bad you need good looks for both of them. You can't just "create confidence" out of the f*****g blue.

What do you mean by Confidence?

Looks won't take you anywhere.
There are far many people out there who do not acknowledge the importance of hairs or looks because it doesn't take people anywhere up in life.
Every guy need some talent/skill/knowledge/nature/braveness/hardwork/passion/down to earth attitude to rise above.

 

[JohnsonDDG]

Probably.

Depressing, isn't it?

I get days where I am optimistic and days where I feel I don't have a chance in the world.

Maybe someday I will settle for second best just so that I have a companion

 

[JohnsonDDG]

What do you mean by Confidence?

Looks won't take you anywhere.
There are far many people out there who do not acknowledge the importance of hairs or looks because it doesn't take people anywhere up in life.
Every guy need some talent/skill/knowledge/nature/braveness/hardwork/passion/down to earth attitude to rise above.

If you have both even better.

Listen, I agree that passion and hardwork matter, but looks matter very much as well.

Good looking people are more likeable and are more likely to be successful in all areas of life

 

[Xander94]

If you have both even better.

Listen, I agree that passion and hardwork matter, but looks matter very much as well.

Good looking people are more likeable and are more likely to be successful in all areas of life

good looking = have validation all your life = achieve goals easier = happier = more women

 

[JohnsonDDG]

good looking = have validation all your life = achieve goals easier = happier = more women

Yep, pretty much.

But there are a lot of ugly successful people so don't give up if you aren't genetically blessed.