I see what hairblues is talking about, and it is the most productive thing to do, and with common sense it is just best to move on and expend as little emotional energy on your loss as possible.
However for a lot of guys, especially those who felt they were quite lucky as in, were with a girl who could do better (and then, did) it's like, what the f*** is next for these guys? I've had friends who, to be honest, the idea of them being with a woman wasn't even comprehensible. Like if you told another person they were going out with a girl, that person's reaction would be silence, and baffled.
Typically not great looking guys, average at best, but completely useless at even chatting with women basically, like even normal stuff, never mind being charming etc. What chance would they have? Well at some point the stars aligned and they actually found someone, age 22, 25, whatever, and you know they're thinking "cling on to this with all your strength".
Then it goes tits up, even worse if they're cheated on. And after their first and what seemed an unlikely relationship, what the f*** do they do now? For some they even got in such a comfort zone with their ex, they were even less confident with women now, they didn't have to worry about talking to them for a few years. Now they've got to start from scratch, damaged, probably worse off than before.
For these guys it's not so easy to just rub some dirt on it and move on, I know it's logically the only thing they should do, but when they spend months moping, or not even moping but just naturally depressed and not themselves, I understood why.
It's like, where's the next one possibly coming from?
No doubt getting heart broken is shitty for anyone, even attractive females, but it's just way worse when you can't see a future past that one person.
