Virginityrocks
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Months ago, I posted this statement on the Propecia boards, declaring that I have stopped taking the antiandrogen to treat my hairloss:
There's an interesting thing I've recently noticed about my sex life since going bald: The women who are attracted to me, and hence the women I sleep with are more attractive and more emotionally mature than the women I slept with with hair.
See, I went from a full head of hair to completely bald. I didn't enjoy waking up every morning and seeing the slow erosive death of my hairline, or the slowly emerging spot on the top of my scalp — Not obvious enough for the casual observer, but my own hypersensitivity to each and every hair lost was causing me stress beyond the value hair had ever given me. So I ended my hair era with quiet dignity to the tune of the harmonic buzz of hair clippers.
But here's where things started to get interesting. My sex life was revitalized. Not immediately, no. But as time went on, and I began to accept my new appearance, women were taken by what I would assume to be not "confidence", but simply a comfort in who I am, of what I am, and of how I appear.
And this, I think, is something we men miss when we use or pass around the word confidence. We presume connotations for the word which imply strength, or a cocky self-assured swagger. But true confidence is in a total comfort. A confident man doesn't feel the need to tell himself or others around him that he's confident. He just is. True confidence is a comfort in yourself. A quiet dignity.
I've said this once before, and I'll say it again. YOU ARE MORE THAN HAIR. And by accepting this simple and what should be obvious fact for yourself, you imbue this message in every client you greet, every man or woman you meet. You are more than hair. And the sooner you accept this of yourself, the sooner others can begin seeing you for the entirely beautiful and talented human being you are.
People will notice this in you, and you will attract more attention as a result of this newfound comfort than the hair you had ever could. Tell the world with quiet dignity that if you can get over your own hairloss, so too can they.
It's unfortunate that it took hairloss for me to go through this very important process of relearning to be comfortable and love myself for who I am. Not everyone requires it. And not everyone needs to go through it... but you do. Because like it or not, no matter how much you try to hide it, or try to preserve what hair you have left with the magic of the "next big thing" in hairloss prevention, you are a bald man. You may have hair, but you are a bald man underneath it all. Underneath the cosmetics, or the rogaine, or the antiandrogens, or the prosthetics, you are a bald and infinitely beautiful human being. And the sooner you accept this for yourself, the sooner others can begin seeing and respecting you for who you truly are.
There's an interesting thing I've recently noticed about my sex life since going bald: The women who are attracted to me, and hence the women I sleep with are more attractive and more emotionally mature than the women I slept with with hair.
See, I went from a full head of hair to completely bald. I didn't enjoy waking up every morning and seeing the slow erosive death of my hairline, or the slowly emerging spot on the top of my scalp — Not obvious enough for the casual observer, but my own hypersensitivity to each and every hair lost was causing me stress beyond the value hair had ever given me. So I ended my hair era with quiet dignity to the tune of the harmonic buzz of hair clippers.
But here's where things started to get interesting. My sex life was revitalized. Not immediately, no. But as time went on, and I began to accept my new appearance, women were taken by what I would assume to be not "confidence", but simply a comfort in who I am, of what I am, and of how I appear.
And this, I think, is something we men miss when we use or pass around the word confidence. We presume connotations for the word which imply strength, or a cocky self-assured swagger. But true confidence is in a total comfort. A confident man doesn't feel the need to tell himself or others around him that he's confident. He just is. True confidence is a comfort in yourself. A quiet dignity.
I've said this once before, and I'll say it again. YOU ARE MORE THAN HAIR. And by accepting this simple and what should be obvious fact for yourself, you imbue this message in every client you greet, every man or woman you meet. You are more than hair. And the sooner you accept this of yourself, the sooner others can begin seeing you for the entirely beautiful and talented human being you are.
People will notice this in you, and you will attract more attention as a result of this newfound comfort than the hair you had ever could. Tell the world with quiet dignity that if you can get over your own hairloss, so too can they.
It's unfortunate that it took hairloss for me to go through this very important process of relearning to be comfortable and love myself for who I am. Not everyone requires it. And not everyone needs to go through it... but you do. Because like it or not, no matter how much you try to hide it, or try to preserve what hair you have left with the magic of the "next big thing" in hairloss prevention, you are a bald man. You may have hair, but you are a bald man underneath it all. Underneath the cosmetics, or the rogaine, or the antiandrogens, or the prosthetics, you are a bald and infinitely beautiful human being. And the sooner you accept this for yourself, the sooner others can begin seeing and respecting you for who you truly are.
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