Dating is not meant to be easy, even for guys that get matches..

[spring15]

lol this is not the point of this thread!

fucks sake

A lot of these guys don't even get to the stage of having a match & pursuing them, so they have no idea what you're even talking about lol

 

[Ajamilo]

I've seen it first hand that having a good head shape, dressing well doesn't change much. What Norwood are you now with the buzzed head?

Bro this is incel bullshit thing

 

[INT]

Matched with a girl. Initially got off to a great start, exchanged numbers, flirting and got onto WhatsApp. Date lined up.

2 days in chatting she asked me a question, ‘tell me something interesting about yourself’ I then said ‘I’m awesome’ in a half assed way, vibe suddenly changed and then eventually I got ghosted and blocked after I left another short answer. She told me something I responded with ‘haha’

That goes to show, it isn’t all about looks for women, I’m pretty sure, if I kept answering her questions in a way she liked our date would have gone ahead as originally planned. It’s how you make them generally feel too.

Sorry dude but your reply was quite lame. Looks are what probably got your foot in the door, the reply is what got it out again.

 

[vondoom]

cos hair?^^

and he wonders why he’s single

 

[Feelsbadman]

Sorry dude but your reply was quite lame. Looks are what probably got your foot in the door, the reply is what got it out again.

do you reckon a girl would care what Brad Pitt would say ?

 

[INT]

do you reckon a girl would care what Brad Pitt would say ?

Probably not. But is OP Brad Pitt?

 

[Oknow]

Probably not. But is OP Brad Pitt?

That is not the point, I was attractive enough for her to want to go on a date with me.

Actually in hindsight I made her feel insecure - I remember how when she sent me the first message on the app , making a joke, she was then like I hope that landed well.

 

[Oknow]

Sorry dude but your reply was quite lame. Looks are what probably got your foot in the door, the reply is what got it out again.

That’s the whole point of the thread lol

looks is half the deal with dating, whereas people on here think it’s all you need

 

[DoctorHouse]

Matched with a girl. Initially got off to a great start, exchanged numbers, flirting and got onto WhatsApp. Date lined up.

2 days in chatting she asked me a question, ‘tell me something interesting about yourself’ I then said ‘I’m awesome’ in a half assed way, vibe suddenly changed and then eventually I got ghosted and blocked after I left another short answer. She told me something I responded with ‘haha’

That goes to show, it isn’t all about looks for women, I’m pretty sure, if I kept answering her questions in a way she liked our date would have gone ahead as originally planned. It’s how you make them generally feel too.

You missed the red flag when she asked you TWO DAYS later " tell me something interesting about yourself?" If you read between the lines, she is basically telling you she has been chatting with you for two days and so far there is nothing interesting about you. That my good friend is a hint that you are not interesting so far. If you pay close attention to what people say, you will be surprised what you learn about yourself and them. You should have answered you were a former p**rn star. That would not only get her attention but her curiosity if you know what I mean.

 

[Oknow]

You missed the red flag when she asked you TWO DAYS later " tell me something interesting about yourself?" If you read between the lines, she is basically telling you she has been chatting with you for two days and so far there is nothing interesting about you. That my good friend is a hint that you are not interesting so far. If you pay close attention to what people say, you will be surprised what you learn about yourself and them. You should have answered you were a former p**rn star. That would not only get her attention but her curiosity if you know what I mean.

to be fair the convo was fizzling out by the point

she left that message as a follow up message to another message

 

[UnLuckyLuciano]

I think it depends of how do you manage to look while bald. If you try to grow out f*****g NW5 then it shouldn't be a f*****g surprise that no one wants to match you lmao, although if you shave/buzz your head and have better looking clothes (I do not mean more expensive) and get in shape then I think you will be okay. Just to let you know, after buzzing people tell me that NOW I am in my peak appearance. The worst thing is to wallow in your misery

Dating as a bald guy isnt hard.
You just need to be at least buffed, tall, funny and dress well.

 

[Norwoody]

House is right. I would also say that it's probable that she just has a bad attitude. A girl with a good attitude would have had the patience to wait until the date to ask something like that, or at least would have laughed it off. But perhaps you can do other things to increase their initial interest levels. It goes both ways.

 

[I wont lose this]

Just taking the opportunity to rant here a bit...

Today I cold approached a girl and didn't even introduce myself, jesus! It's been a while since I did something like that. My last and first relationship lasted for 5 years so after that I didn't have many chances to approach girls, nor was I interested. But then there's this cute girl who passes by my house each day on the lunch time, so I went to the grocery store on my neighborhood to see if I could bump into her and I did lol. I stopped her with a 'hey' and asked her name, then her age. After that I gave her my number that was written on a paper, and said 'Hope you text me' then left. W - T - F ! Only after I got home I realized how stupid it was and that I forgot to tell her my f*****g name. Jesus, I'm dying with embarrassment inside. So far she hasn't texted anything and to be honest I hope she doesn't, it was too much cringe for a day, yikes.

 

[Oknow]

House is right. I would also say that it's probable that she just has a bad attitude. A girl with a good attitude would have had the patience to wait until the date to ask something like that, or at least would have laughed it off. But perhaps you can do other things to increase their initial interest levels. It goes both ways.

to be fair, I was stunned how she went from suddenly being very interested to blocking and unmatching me over WhatsApp and the dating app

‘rude’ was exactly what crossed my mind too

 

[DyingOfTheLight]

Just taking the opportunity to rant here a bit...

Today I cold approached a girl and didn't even introduce myself, jesus! It's been a while since I did something like that. My last and first relationship lasted for 5 years so after that I didn't have many chances to approach girls, nor was I interested. But then there's this cute girl who passes by my house each day on the lunch time, so I went to the grocery store on my neighborhood to see if I could bump into her and I did lol. I stopped her with a 'hey' and asked her name, then her age. After that I gave her my number that was written on a paper, and said 'Hope you text me' then left. W - T - F ! Only after I got home I realized how stupid it was and that I forgot to tell her my f*****g name. Jesus, I'm dying with embarrassment inside. So far she hasn't texted anything and to be honest I hope she doesn't, it was too much cringe for a day, yikes.

Don't worry, if she's attractive she's used to men embarrassing themselves in front of her all the time
Anyway, you took your shot. Good job srs, a little embarrassment is better than being paralyzed by fear your entire life and then suffering from the worst regret

 

[Norwoody]

Just taking the opportunity to rant here a bit...

Today I cold approached a girl and didn't even introduce myself, jesus! It's been a while since I did something like that. My last and first relationship lasted for 5 years so after that I didn't have many chances to approach girls, nor was I interested. But then there's this cute girl who passes by my house each day on the lunch time, so I went to the grocery store on my neighborhood to see if I could bump into her and I did lol. I stopped her with a 'hey' and asked her name, then her age. After that I gave her my number that was written on a paper, and said 'Hope you text me' then left. W - T - F ! Only after I got home I realized how stupid it was and that I forgot to tell her my f*****g name. Jesus, I'm dying with embarrassment inside. So far she hasn't texted anything and to be honest I hope she doesn't, it was too much cringe for a day, yikes.

If you run into her again just keep your chin up, smile and if she smiles back just laugh it off, tell her you realize you didn’t even introduce yourself and how silly it was. Being able to laugh off your past mistakes will make you both feel better and less awkward. Then you can ask her something interesting.

 

[I wont lose this]

thanks for the cheer up guys

 

[DoctorHouse]

to be fair, I was stunned how she went from suddenly being very interested to blocking and unmatching me over WhatsApp and the dating app

‘rude’ was exactly what crossed my mind too

That was kind of my point. The fact that she was asking shows the kind of person she is. I would have teased her and said Why? I am boring you so far? See if she has a sense of humor. My interpretation is she was baiting to find some gossip on you so can bring it back to one of her girlfriends to see if she should even pursue you. What other questions did she ask you? I am finding this online dating very interesting. LOL

 

[Oknow]

That was kind of my point. The fact that she was asking shows the kind of person she is. I would have teased her and said Why? I am boring you so far? See if she has a sense of humor. My interpretation is she was baiting to find some gossip on you so can bring it back to one of her girlfriends to see if she should even pursue you. What other questions did she ask you? I am finding this online dating very interesting. LOL

To be fair on her, I wasn’t talking much about myself, she was going on and on about her dog, life in general , how she was looking forward to getting a haircut. How she hates her current hairstyle but kept it because her regular hairdresser is away.

Then eventually she replied to something and followed up with that 5-10 mins later (maybe to keep the convo alive?)

I got the sense that she was generally a very insecure person

I won’t be surprised if blocking me was reactiveness from her part because my answers were getting shorter and shorter

 

[DoctorHouse]

To be fair on her, I wasn’t talking much about myself, she was going on and on about her dog, life in general , how she was looking forward to getting a haircut. How she hates her current hairstyle but kept it because her regular hairdresser is away.

Then eventually she replied to something and followed up with that 5-10 mins later (maybe to keep the convo alive?)

I got the sense that she was generally a very insecure person

I won’t be surprised if blocking me was reactiveness from her part because my answers were getting shorter and shorter

At least you were able to tell she was insecure because I would have had he same impression from that conversation. I think the old fashion talking on the phone is so much better than texting. I would recommend that instead. Texting back and forth is too impersonal.