Do bald guys need to have more balls than guys with hair?

[HatPrisoner91]

Hey, what about meeting people who remember you as bald then seeing you with hair. :freaked: It's happened to me. :crazy:

That's not an option for me unless I got a wig,

 

[optimus prime]

How are things going in general HP? Are you getting things under control? I hope so. Give us an update.

I don't think it is easy what you have been though. Losing hair that fast must be hard.

 

[Hammer87]

I know many people far more bald from you (Or they appear to be). Two guys I know deal with a young crowd everyday, as they are both bar managers - Doesn't faze them in the slightest.

I don't think you get it. Not everyone looks the same. I'm sorry but they don't.

I am more bald than UMan and probably as much as or more than anyone here.

Ok I know that they are many people who have killed themselves too due to baldness. Should people look to them? For every "good" bald story there is a bad one.

What? UM implied people who are as bald as him are nervous going outdoors. This simply isn't the case the majority.

 

[Hammer87]

Meeting people you last saw with a full head of hair is tough. Best way I find is to straight away make a joke 'I've got a bit less hair than the last time I saw you!' - Often they'll reply with 'Yeh me too!' (Unless your friend is David Schwimmer). If you say nothing and act like nothing's changed, you'll just be dreading the second they mention it. - Or get paranoid about the way they're looking at you and your head.

If they're too polite to say anything they'll assume you don't have much self awareness or even worse that you don't realise you're bald which they will think is strange in their head.

Much better to be lighthearted about it, show it doesn't bother you and move on.

How would you know? You are not bald? See this is what I refer to constantly. You are acting like you can relate. Having less hair is one thing. Having none when they saw you with all of it looks like you have a disease.

What is it, you can't have an opinion without being bald? I have bald family members I see everyday (One even has alopecia, literally not a hair on his head), I've watched how they deal with life and other people my whole life.

 

[uncomfortable man]

You can observe, hypothosize even pretend all you want that you can imagine what it feels like to be bald, but you will never know how YOU feel about it until it happens to you and you live in it for at least a couple of years. People (especially bald people, like Nerwood) generally don't like to disclose how they really feel about stuff like this. Like many of you here have already admitted, you would put up some lame joke about yourself to make others think that you are so cool and collected and dare I say it, confident :roll: . Of course these bald examples you used don't show insecurity, but I bet you that most of them feel exactly the same way I do about it and choose not to tell anyone- perhaps for fear of being misunderstood and from the sound of things, he would be right in that assumption.

 

[barcafan]

You can observe, hypothosize even pretend all you want that you can imagine what it feels like to be bald, but you will never know how YOU feel about it until it happens to you and you live in it for at least a couple of years. People (especially bald people, like Nerwood) generally don't like to disclose how they really feel about stuff like this. Like many of you here have already admitted, you would put up some lame joke about yourself to make others think that you are so cool and collected and dare I say it, confident :roll: . Of course these bald examples you used don't show insecurity, but I bet you that most of them feel exactly the same way I do about it and choose not to tell anyone- perhaps for fear of being misunderstood and from the sound of things, he would be right in that assumption.

But now you're making the assumption that most people feel the same way as you do. How can this be true?

You're projecting too much, bro. Could it be that when you had hair you were the a**h** that made fun of bald people all the time? I am not accusing you of doing so but it would truely make sense of alot of your rantings.

 

[Hammer87]

Of course these bald examples you used don't show insecurity, but I bet you that most of them feel exactly the same way I do about it and choose not to tell anyone- perhaps for fear of being misunderstood and from the sound of things, he would be right in that assumption.

Sorry, I don't mean to preach but as part of my job is trained to be empathatic so it's a habit. However, I guarantee you no bald person I know feels the way you do (I use guarantee loosely as I can't literally read their minds) but would someone bothered that much by their baldness allow their nephew to draw on their head? Would they when I mentioned propecia and its hair growing capabilities respond by laughing and 'I'm ok thanks'. When I tried to bring up the topic subtley, they were happy to talk about it openly, infront of people they barely knew (Actually embarrassed me a bit to be honest). Nor do they cruise help forums like this for support. From my observation, and the stat that only 2% of men seek help, your state of mind regarding hairless is not the norm. Telling yourself 'Every bald man feels the same as me but doesn't admit it!' isn't going to help.

 

[uncomfortable man]

I can not speak for every bald man individually. But anyone with common sense can see that going bald is not a celebrated event. Anyone with common sense knows the stigma that is associated with going bald. Enough to know that it is not a good thing. Teenagers are shaving their heads in a horseshoe pattern because it's so cool, right? Most women love and prefer bald men, right? Anyone of genuine intrest, ie the main character of a love story or action movie or just the good guy is always bald, right? Young men just can't wait to loose their hair and sport that horseshoe, huh? Bald men are loved and revered in this culture, am I wrong? I mean, geez , that's why all of you are on this site, right? Because you love bald people and want to be one yourself and are by no means trying at great lengths and expense to aviod it.........right? You don't need to be a frigin mind reader for this one. :shakehead:

 

[emex4]

everything you said is true. but what can we do? nothing. so why dwell on it? we just have to make the best of a bad situation.

 

[uncomfortable man]

I suppose so.

 

[Hammer87]

Nice straw man argument....


Anyway, of course it's not desirable. But how negative it is really needs to be put into perspective by some. i.e. I've seen other threads (on other sites too) with people saying they'd cut their balls off if they had concrete proof it would help, others saying they'd trade an arm for hair etc. It's quite simply, not normal.

 

[HatPrisoner91]

What? UM implied people who are as bald as him are nervous going outdoors. This simply isn't the case the majority.

There is no way to quantify that. If they don't go outside, you wouldn't see them correct?

 

[HatPrisoner91]

What is it, you can't have an opinion without being bald? I have bald family members I see everyday (One even has alopecia, literally not a hair on his head), I've watched how they deal with life and other people my whole life.

You cannot speak as someone who can relate if you are not bald, NO.

I made an analogy before. If you are a short guy, it probably sucks. But you can't go up to a midget and tell him you are in the same boat because you are not. Its the same as a balding guy telling one who is BALD that they are in the same boat,. Just doesn't work.

 

[ghg]

So basically you're saying that it's normal for people to slowly turn into midgets? Because when someone's balding it usually means that he will be bald probably sooner rather than later. If someone's short it doesn't mean he's "shortening". Yet you claim these two are the same thing. What a f*****g einstein.

 

[Hammer87]

What is it, you can't have an opinion without being bald? I have bald family members I see everyday (One even has alopecia, literally not a hair on his head), I've watched how they deal with life and other people my whole life.

You cannot speak as someone who can relate if you are not bald, NO.

I made an analogy before. If you are a short guy, it probably sucks. But you can't go up to a midget and tell him you are in the same boat because you are not. Its the same as a balding guy telling one who is BALD that they are in the same boat,. Just doesn't work.

Firstly, it was probably the worst analogy in the history of anaologies. Secondly, someone who is 5ft 2 can relate to someone who is 5ft 1 despite being taller than them, yes.

You may as well have said 'Imagine your dick, arms and legs have fallen off, that's exactly what losing hair is like!'.

 

[s.a.f]

So basically you're saying that it's normal for people to slowly turn into midgets? Because when someone's balding it usually means that he will be bald probably sooner rather than later. If someone's short it doesn't mean he's "shortening". Yet you claim these two are the same thing. What a f****ing einstein.

I dont think he said that, and I can vouch that there is a big difference between bald and balding. Balding is an annoyance but most of the time its not obvious, being bald is totally obvious and makes you feel like sh*t.
And theres a huge variation in balding some people never progress further than nw2 or 3 despite reaching it early. Theres a big difference between being nw3 and nw6. Just like theres a big difference between being 5' and 5"6.

Firstly, it was probably the worst analogy in the history of anaologies. Secondly, someone who is 5ft 2 can relate to someone who is 5ft 1 despite being taller than them, yes

I think comparing the difference of being bald against balding as the same as a difference in height of 1 inch is the worst anology ever.

 

[Hammer87]

I think comparing the difference of being bald against balding as the same as a difference in height of 1 inch is the worst anology ever.

Then it may help to realise that it wasn't an analogy for bald/balding. I don't even know how you've come to that conclusion. It was an analogy for how a balding man can relate to a bald man despite having slightly more hair than him, they both lack hair. Likewise a short man can relate to another man 1 inch smaller, they're both still short.

I don't think there's a huge difference from balding (e.g. have a thin strip of hair going from ear to ear when the crown and hairline have gone) and being bald.

 

[s.a.f]

I think comparing the difference of being bald against balding as the same as a difference in height of 1 inch is the worst anology ever.

Then it may help to realise that it wasn't an analogy for bald/balding. I don't even know how you've come to that conclusion. It was an analogy for how a balding man can relate to a bald man despite having slightly more hair than him, they both lack hair. Likewise a short man can relate to another man 1 inch smaller, they're both still short.

We're not talking about a difference between 5'5" and 5'6".
Try 4'11" and 5'6". thats a better comparison between the difference of Bald and balding.

I don't think there's a huge difference from balding (e.g. have a thin strip of hair going from ear to ear when the crown and hairline have gone) and being bald.

Yes but we're not talking about that thats nw5 and I'd think most people would class that as bald not balding. We're talking about guys who have slight recession or diffuse compared to a nw6 bald guy.

 

[emex4]

I know I'm not much better because I'm posting here too....

But good god!! do you guys realize that you've been arguing about the same exact thing since last april? its the same thing eveytime! "you dont know how it feels because your not bald" haha if this sh*t keeps up, by the time the arguments over, everyone will be bald. good god, people. its so redundant.

 

[optimus prime]

I know I'm not much better because I'm posting here too....

But good god!! do you guys realize that you've been arguing about the same exact thing since last april? its the same thing eveytime! "you dont know how it feels because your not bald" haha if this sh*t keeps up, by the time the arguments over, everyone will be bald. good god, people. its so redundant.

lol...it just proves that people will fight/argue over anything. It's human nature.