Hairloss turns me into a big pussy

[JayB]

its unreal how bad hair loss makes me go from a man to a big pussy. Today I had my biggest shed since april. i never thought my hair would recover from the shed i experienced in april, and just when it does, a few months later like clockwork, BAM another shed. and just as it happens, i come out of the shower, the wave of depression washes over me and my first thought goes to my ex girlfriend.

i go from being mr cool, whose cool, calm, and cocky..making plans with girls, laughing, smiling, i dont need anyone in the world but myself, to remembering what it was like to be with my ex. when i get like this i just wish i could get in my car and go over her house again to watch tv and be next to her. i start to think about what its going to be like if i lose my hair and don't meet a girl before it happens. i cant stand this sh*t man..when im styiling my hair and looking in the mirror with my hair looking good, i couldnt care less about the girl although i think about her everyday...but my attitude is just so much different i go from saying "her loss" to "i wish she loved me still" like a f*****g fagot. hair loss makes men turn into women i f*****g hate this. VENTING OVER.

 

[person_123]

i hear you brother.

hair loss sucks. people who can move on from it are brave soldiers. i seriously can't think about life without hair. i don't have the right head shape for a bald head, and i don't know anybody who is bald either, so i'd be the odd one out, and even though nobody would say anything, i know they'll all think it.

just try to hold on to what you've got for now. use your medicine, topicals, whatever if you are, and if you're not, start on some. hope and pray for a miracle cure one day.

as for the women department, i sympathise with you 100%. it just isn't the same if you have hair loss. i reckon girls probably don't even care that much. sure it'll affect your appearance, but i think girls will still be attracted to you if you have a nice body, good sense of humour or a nice charm about you. i mean, i know heaps of girls think vin diesel is hot, and he's bald. he's just got that type of attitude that says "i don't care, neither should you".

but yes it is hard to move on. how far into the balding process are you? wish you the best of luck on improving your circumstances.

 

[IBM]

hair or without it you'll move on. For worse or better you'll move on. That's for sure.

 

[JayB]

i hear you brother.

hair loss sucks. people who can move on from it are brave soldiers. i seriously can't think about life without hair. i don't have the right head shape for a bald head, and i don't know anybody who is bald either, so i'd be the odd one out, and even though nobody would say anything, i know they'll all think it.

just try to hold on to what you've got for now. use your medicine, topicals, whatever if you are, and if you're not, start on some. hope and pray for a miracle cure one day.

as for the women department, i sympathise with you 100%. it just isn't the same if you have hair loss. i reckon girls probably don't even care that much. sure it'll affect your appearance, but i think girls will still be attracted to you if you have a nice body, good sense of humour or a nice charm about you. i mean, i know heaps of girls think vin diesel is hot, and he's bald. he's just got that type of attitude that says "i don't care, neither should you".

but yes it is hard to move on. how far into the balding process are you? wish you the best of luck on improving your circumstances.

im at the point where i can still style my hair and it looks good. ive been at this point for around 3 years now. my hair changed the moment i started shedding and the texture completely changed. but after that, it hasnt changed at all. before my first shed, it was like wire thick. now its not thick like that, but i have a lot of it and it hasnt gotten any thinner thank goodness. idk a few hair specialists i went to told me it was Telogen Effluvium because of a panic disorder i was experiencing. maybe they were right? but in any event, my hair never returned to its original state, so i move on.
im on xandrox right now and thats all. i dont want propecia yet, im holding out. i just hate the sheds that i experience on xandrox every 6 months of so. its like i have a wierd hair cycle now...this shed may have been seasonal, maybe not. i dont know anymore. i know that everytime i ride out a shed, i dont find any real change in my hair after a few months...but it doesnt stop me from saying every time "this is going to be the shed that will make me end up bald". Then immediately i wish i was still with my ex girlfriend because its a safety net. but it just goes to show everyone, if I could come out of this depression and lack of confidence, we all can. With the exception of a select few, i really do believe all we need is to have the amount of hair we had on our head before we went bald to feel good again. When my hair looks better and i can style it the way i want to, the way that fits my head...all i do is ooze confidence. girls see it, my ex sees it when she hawks me down if we are in the same place together because im talking to girls and im happy. All this psychology crap...its all bullsht..just give us the f'n hair back and we'd all go on our merry ways and feel like we used to. the cofidence and happiness in still inside us...it always will be no matter how long its been repressed.

 

[JayBear]

All this psychology crap...its all bullsht..just give us the f'n hair back and we'd all go on our merry ways and feel like we used to. the cofidence and happiness in still inside us...it always will be no matter how long its been repressed.

I imagine there are some of us who, if they could regain all the hair they lost, would be even more confident and happier than they would be if they had never lost their hair to begin with.

 

[s.a.f]

Very true. A little bit of hair could do more for us than years of therapy. Just give us what most guys have and we'd be ready to take on the world. But the longer it goes on the more hairloss drags you down.

 

[saturnsc2]

baldness is ugly & makes you unnatractive. i'm ashamed of it. i get frusterated when other people with full heads of hair make remarks to me like "it doesn't matter" or another gem "don't be vain"! like they know that the f*** they are talking about! i wish they could live in our shoes for a day to get a taste of what it's like to lose hair. ya i got transplants, but it will never be the same thick head of hair i had in my youth. hairloss is especially hard for a person who had tons of it. in the first pic i had thick hair. i was 16 years old & loved my Beatles style haircut!

in this pic i was 30 & bald & ugly! i'm the guy in the second row second from the left.

in this current pic i am 43 after all the surgery:

i'll never have the hairline & thick head like i did as a youth & that sucks!

 

[htownballa]

Saturn thats a pretty good improvement bro!

Why dont you get another transplant to go from NW3 to NW2?

 

[saturnsc2]

Saturn thats a pretty good improvement bro!

Why dont you get another transplant to go from NW3 to NW2?

well i already spent already $20.000 on my head! if hair cloning becomes a reality i would delve into this thing further. for now i guess i just will stay where i am as i already had 5 procedures.

 

[htownballa]

20 dollars on your head isnt that much?! :lol:

 

[Trebor]

i'll never have the hairline & thick head like i did as a youth & that sucks!

Yeah your right bro... it does suck, but look at what you are saying... "as a youth"... your not a youth anymore. I think that is another part of what makes balsing so hard to deal with. I think it is hard just loosing your youth.

 

[s.a.f]

Almost nobody has the hair that they had in their youth, or the waistline or smooth skin for that matter. But I think for those that lose hair young the pshycological effect can upset their minds for the rest of their lives as they try to reclaim their lost youth. If I had hair until my I was 40 then started to receed to a nw2/3 or get a thinning crown, I probably would'nt care (as much) because I would realise that its just part of aging. But as this happenend to me in my 20's (it really F**ked me up). I'll always be regretting the time I lost looking (and feeling) like an old man in what should have been my best years. So I can relate to what saturnsc2 is saying.

 

[saturnsc2]

well my hair started to thin out in my early 20's. by 30 i was totaly bald on top & it just killed me. i feel i missed out on a lot of my youth because of this & nobody understands what i went through. as hair loss sufferers. nobody knows our pain other than us, nor can they understand it. so easy for an outsider to make comments about how it shouldn't matter isn't it? even after all the surgery i feel a part of me died never to return. i just have to pick up the broken pieces & move forward....

 

[person_123]

If you lost your hair in your 40's, the time when most people around you are probably thinning as well, you can relate to it. You can feel normal, and you also would have had good days with hair when you were 20 or so.

Losing hair at 20 is a totally different story. Balders at 40 might tell you to move on, it's a part of life, but the fact remains that they didn't have to go through it at 20. It's not as severe as losing a limb, or getting physically scarred in a grotesque way, but it still affects our confidence and emotional state.

I know what balding is. It is a sign of verility, it is a sign of masculinity, it signifies strength and manliness. Yet it has an adverse affect on all those things. Testosterone levels increase in manly men. Hair loss is a result of this. If balding was fashionable, if it was looked upon in a positive light, I'm sure most people would envy people who balded early. Everybody would go "Look! I've started balding! PARTY!!!".

The world, however; is not so. It looks at balding as if it were a failure on the part of men. Hairstyles govern the way we look. A good head of hair can be worn in a way as to exude confidence and charisma. Sure, a bald head can as well (Vin Diesel, Bruce Willis for example). However, these are only rare cases. In most cases, bald men are looked down upon, pitied. Our masculinity is not taken away by our shame, but by the shame others put upon us with their thoughts. We grew up with these thoughts. We grew up thinking people who were bald were "funny looking" or "weird", or just plain different. Most people had hair, that's why we found it different when we saw people without hair.

I've ranted on too much. Hair loss sucks, find a cure, etc etc.

 

[s.a.f]

I know what balding is. It is a sign of verility, it is a sign of masculinity, it signifies strength and manliness. Yet it has an adverse affect on all those things. Testosterone levels increase in manly men. Hair loss is a result of this.

No it is'nt it just an unfortunate inherited genitic condition, some people just get it some dont. Like having a big nose or a hairy back or a massive/tiny c0ck. All baldies are not macho, just like all people with hair are not all pu$$ies.

 

[s.a.f]

The world, however; is not so. It looks at balding as if it were a failure on the part of men. Hairstyles govern the way we look. A good head of hair can be worn in a way as to exude confidence and charisma. Sure, a bald head can as well (Vin Diesel, Bruce Willis for example). However, these are only rare cases. In most cases, bald men are looked down upon, pitied. Our masculinity is not taken away by our shame, but by the shame others put upon us with their thoughts. We grew up with these thoughts. We grew up thinking people who were bald were "funny looking" or "weird", or just plain different. Most people had hair, that's why we found it different when we saw people without hair.

This is true.
Evolution has resulted in it being only human nature to see what is most usual/likely as best. Subconciously women are want to mate with men who's genitic background has been the most succesfull. If you look at atractivness in features it is what is the most normal. Too big or too small is considered undesirable. And the majority of men do not go bald. Therefore if 90% of men had no hair the 10 % that did would be looked upon as hairy freaks.

 

[person_123]

[quote="person_123":e050b]I know what balding is. It is a sign of verility, it is a sign of masculinity, it signifies strength and manliness. Yet it has an adverse affect on all those things. Testosterone levels increase in manly men. Hair loss is a result of this.

No it is'nt it just an unfortunate inherited genitic condition, some people just get it some dont. Like having a big nose or a hairy back or a massive/tiny c0ck. All baldies are not macho, just like all people with hair are not all pu$$ies.[/quote:e050b]

It is actually true. I heard about it in a study. They said that bald men were rated as better lovers than men with hair. But it is also true that not all men who are bald are macho.

And as to your second post. We like what's considered the "normal". We don't like being different. Those who don't want to conform to normal society choose to conform to the non-conformist instead. Nobody is truly individual. What I mean is, goths all express their "individuality" the same way, hippies too, emo's, etc.

Aesthetically pleasing features are determined by society around us. Nobody here today could honestly say that they are attracted to women of the 50's or 60's. Those women would look lame or unattractive to us. Even now, when I look at Marilyn Monroe, I don't think she is attractive. That hair style, the clothes, it just doesn't do it for me. She might very well have been pretty, but she is different by today's standards, which is why I don't like her.

Same with balding. If in the future, balding was common amongst all males, then men with hair would look silly and out of fashion.

 

[s.a.f]

[It is actually true. I heard about it in a study. They said that bald men were rated as better lovers than men with hair.

Well that's conclusive proof then is it?
Bald men are better lovers 100% scientific fact!

 

[s.a.f]

We like what's considered the "normal". We don't like being different. Those who don't want to conform to normal society choose to conform to the non-conformist instead. Nobody is truly individual. What I mean is, goths all express their "individuality" the same way, hippies too, emo's, etc.

This is right I've posted on this before. Its an often overlooked fact that Hair is an important part of expressing our personality and the image we would like to give to others around us. It can play a big part in social interaction.

Aesthetically pleasing features are determined by society around us. Nobody here today could honestly say that they are attracted to women of the 50's or 60's. Those women would look lame or unattractive to us. Even now, when I look at Marilyn Monroe, I don't think she is attractive. That hair style, the clothes, it just doesn't do it for me. She might very well have been pretty, but she is different by today's standards, which is why I don't like her.

Trust me there are plenty of stunning women from this era and I'm sure if the young Marilyn were around today and wore the modern styles of clothes hair and make up you would find her attractive.

Same with balding. If in the future, balding was common amongst all males, then men with hair would look silly and out of fashion.

The way we look and what is viewed as attractive today is the result of thousands of years of breeding and evolution. If balding was ever to become the norm for men then it would take many,many generations for this to happen.

 

[saturnsc2]

well guys the way i look at it is some women are just going to have to get used to the fact that most men lose their hair to some extent, so if women only go for full headed hair men, there's going to be a shortage of men in the world & many single women, so if the rest of them want a man, they will just have to go for a man with hair loss, either that or be lesbians, or die lonely, it's their choice!