Hairloss turns me into a big pussy
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Good advice trapsource but as saturn said easier said than done. Tell us a bit more about your background how hairloss affected you and how you regained confidence.
As for the 'nobody cares about your baldness' view. Its true to a certain extent but obviously you will care about it.
If I see a big fat @ss guy I shudder and think 'wow I'm glad I'm not like that' then I forget about him. But that guy does have to live with it 24/7 and it cant be easy if thats how the world views you. He may well have family (freinds?) and aquantances but as for most people he encounters I bet that nobody wants to take an interest in Mr fat @ss or befreind him.
I'm sure nobody cares about my hair really because it does'nt affect them but I still want people to care about me and not just see me as some baldy.
As for the 'nobody cares about your baldness' view. Its true to a certain extent but obviously you will care about it.
If I see a big fat @ss guy I shudder and think 'wow I'm glad I'm not like that' then I forget about him. But that guy does have to live with it 24/7 and it cant be easy if thats how the world views you. He may well have family (freinds?) and aquantances but as for most people he encounters I bet that nobody wants to take an interest in Mr fat @ss or befreind him.
I'm sure nobody cares about my hair really because it does'nt affect them but I still want people to care about me and not just see me as some baldy.
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JayBear said:
good luck trying to get them to do that.
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Thanks for the reply. I guess I meant nobody cares in the aspect that your friends or family, like you mentioned, wont think less of you, because they know the real you. For attraction purposes, I think its very important initially. I had the cool Bon Jovi hair up untill I was 24, when I started thinning. I went through severe acne, chunky cheeks( until 30)
and through high scho0l and after the only thing I though was cool was my hair. Imagine the devistation when I was thinning. It was ruining my life, but to make a long story short, I had three procedures and got back to a point of where I am comfortable how I look. Been bodybuilding for 10 years, and acne is gone.
I guess my point is I was sure hair, great physique was all I needed to attract women. I was obsessed by it. I totally agree with what you are saying, how the world views you, But if you dont have that confidence it doesnt matter how you look. I love to be thought of as an attractive guy, but with all those insecurities growing up its still tough sometimes. you view yourself as that kid in high school. It was VERY hard to accomplish over the years but I finally am at a point where I am happy.
I guess I really want to share that feeling with you guys who have the same kind of problem, to let you know as hard as it seems it is achievable.
Its so funny, once you start attracting women because of your looks, you start asking yourself " Do I want to date a chick because she like me for my looks?" Now I get to choose. Blows me away. Women will approach you because you are attractive, but the QUALITY ones will walk in a hurry if your attitue or confidence isnt in check. The Psychos dont care .
I dont want people to see me as a guy with thin hair either. But now I think it a small piece of the puzzle, not the whole piece. We can work on our bodies, and also our character so when your hair comes in, you will be the complete person.
And no I havent seen that episode of jackass. Want to see that movie, though, looks like a riot
Thanks for the reply. I guess I meant nobody cares in the aspect that your friends or family, like you mentioned, wont think less of you, because they know the real you. For attraction purposes, I think its very important initially. I had the cool Bon Jovi hair up untill I was 24, when I started thinning. I went through severe acne, chunky cheeks( until 30)
and through high scho0l and after the only thing I though was cool was my hair. Imagine the devistation when I was thinning. It was ruining my life, but to make a long story short, I had three procedures and got back to a point of where I am comfortable how I look. Been bodybuilding for 10 years, and acne is gone.
I guess my point is I was sure hair, great physique was all I needed to attract women. I was obsessed by it. I totally agree with what you are saying, how the world views you, But if you dont have that confidence it doesnt matter how you look. I love to be thought of as an attractive guy, but with all those insecurities growing up its still tough sometimes. you view yourself as that kid in high school. It was VERY hard to accomplish over the years but I finally am at a point where I am happy.
I guess I really want to share that feeling with you guys who have the same kind of problem, to let you know as hard as it seems it is achievable.
Its so funny, once you start attracting women because of your looks, you start asking yourself " Do I want to date a chick because she like me for my looks?" Now I get to choose. Blows me away. Women will approach you because you are attractive, but the QUALITY ones will walk in a hurry if your attitue or confidence isnt in check. The Psychos dont care .
I dont want people to see me as a guy with thin hair either. But now I think it a small piece of the puzzle, not the whole piece. We can work on our bodies, and also our character so when your hair comes in, you will be the complete person.
And no I havent seen that episode of jackass. Want to see that movie, though, looks like a riot