Has anyone else accepted a life of being single/lonely?

[czecha]

I don't have the genetics to live a bachelor/single life that stuff only works if you're a tall and handsome.

I was fortunate to have a girlfriend for a short period (half a year) a few years ago. It was a wonderful experience.


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[vondoom]

I don't have the genetics to live a bachelor/single life that stuff only works if you're a tall and handsome.

I was fortunate to have a girlfriend for a short period (half a year) a few years ago. It was a wonderful experience.


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dont worry, everyone can live the single life no matter how they look... it only requires not dating...

 

[Feelsbadman]

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I'm not bald at all but I have been in a dry spell for 3 years. I'm grateful that I had my high school and college years where I had a healthy dating life. My only fear of balding is mostly regarding to my poor self esteem and self image issues. But if I never got married or dated again I can at least live with it because I feel fulfilled sexually and I think sex is kinda overrated now anyway.
So it is what it is. I think I can be the best version of myself with hair. I tried just shaving it (bro) and I looked like a mutant so I wouldn't be happy if I had to see that in the mirror every day.

you're lucky

I feel like i missed out but - Yea sex is overrated. I don't hink i'd be that much different and/or happier if i had sex more when i was younger (i had many opportunities that i didn't capitalise.).

But what I missed out on was love/relationships. I only experienced this once and it wasn't long. But it was awesome and so much better than just unfulfilling sex. Hanging out, having sex, it was like having a best friend. I felt so happy and actually really motivated in life.

It's like a part of me was fulfilled so i can focus more on other things. Career, work. I actually functioned better in a relationship.

But that was a few years ago and she is long gone. Now my looks have deteriorated. My dating app matches are usually transvestites, women 5x my body weight or single mums with drug addiction. I get no attention from women in person.

Isn't intimate relationships one of Maslow's Hierarchy of needs? it's basic human need.

People just say the same bullshit you need to just focus on work, hobbies, school , meditation. None of that fulfils a basic human need.

Sometimes , even after so long i get sad/nostalgic about the past but other times i feel ok and don't care as much. it is what it is? some of us just got sh*t genetics (short height, bad face etc)

 

[JaneyElizabeth]

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you're lucky

I feel like i missed out but - Yea sex is overrated. I don't hink i'd be that much different and/or happier if i had sex more when i was younger (i had many opportunities that i didn't capitalise.).

But what I missed out on was love/relationships. I only experienced this once and it wasn't long. But it was awesome and so much better than just unfulfilling sex. Hanging out, having sex, it was like having a best friend. I felt so happy and actually really motivated in life.

It's like a part of me was fulfilled so i can focus more on other things. Career, work. I actually functioned better in a relationship.

But that was a few years ago and she is long gone. Now my looks have deteriorated. My dating app matches are usually transvestites, women 5x my body weight or single mums with drug addiction. I get no attention from women in person.

Isn't intimate relationships one of Maslow's Hierarchy of needs? it's basic human need.

People just say the same bullshit you need to just focus on work, hobbies, school , meditation. None of that fulfils a basic human need.

Sometimes , even after so long i get sad/nostalgic about the past but other times i feel ok and don't care as much. it is what it is? some of us just got sh*t genetics (short height, bad face etc)

I don't think that they have transvestites anymore. Now people just wear clothes. You might do well with a transgender female. There are plenty of cute ones.

 

[vondoom]

i doubt that intimate relationships are something you need to have... you dont die if you dont have one (dont start with suicide...)...

 

[Feelsbadman]

i doubt that intimate relationships are something you need to have... you dont die if you dont have one (dont start with suicide...)...

so you think you can live a mentally healthy and happy life with 0 intimacy from the opposite sex?

 

[vondoom]

so you think you can live a mentally healthy and happy life with 0 intimacy from the opposite sex?

yes...
i honestly think that most peoples sexual need is actual a sexual want, amplified by media and their surroundings...
of course everyone has some sort of desire, i just think that whatever doesnt kill you, is not something you really need to survive...

 

[czecha]

i doubt that intimate relationships are something you need to have... you dont die if you dont have one (dont start with suicide...)...

Being lonely is as unhealthy as smoking a pack of cigarettes a day
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[vondoom]

i dont think there are many people who are really lonely, unless all your members are dead and you somehow end up unemployed and without friends...

 

[JaneyElizabeth]

i dont think there are many people who are really lonely, unless all your members are dead and you somehow end up unemployed and without friends...

?

 

[vondoom]

?

the people here confuse single with being lonely... being lonely by definition is being completely alone without anyone, like being a hermit...
got some friends? colleagues? some dudes in your gaming community or whatever you do? congrats, you are not lonely...
you might feel lonely, of course...

 

[Feelsbadman]

the people here confuse single with being lonely... being lonely by definition is being completely alone without anyone, like being a hermit...
got some friends? colleagues? some dudes in your gaming community or whatever you do? congrats, you are not lonely...
you might feel lonely, of course...

Yea but hanging out with your buddies is not the same to having a companion/women it's completely different.

 

[JaneyElizabeth]

the people here confuse single with being lonely... being lonely by definition is being completely alone without anyone, like being a hermit...
got some friends? colleagues? some dudes in your gaming community or whatever you do? congrats, you are not lonely...
you might feel lonely, of course...

Many of us have been pretty isolated for the last 15 months or so, here in the States. Last Friday was mask off day so that will help.

 

[vondoom]

Yea but hanging out with your buddies is not the same to having a companion/women it's completely different.

of course i do understand that... that means you dont want to be single and not that you are lonely...

 

[vondoom]

Many of us have been pretty isolated for the last 15 months or so, here in the States. Last Friday was mask off day so that will help.

well that is of course conpletely out of anybodies hands...

i got one way to look at things: if i cant change it, i dont bother... bad weather? cant do anything about it...lockdown and i cant go anywhere? got to wait til its over... i mean there is no other way anyway...

 

[Feelsbadman]

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of course i do understand that... that means you dont want to be single and not that you are lonely...

but I argue that it causes mental health issues lack of intimacy/sex/love

 

[vondoom]

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but I argue that it causes mental health issues lack of intimacy/sex/love

that might be true for most...
but i also still argue that everyone is able to find a partner... as i said before, so it is a choice somehow...

if it is that much of a strain to be single, then why do people refuse to date the people that would date them? cant be that bad, then...

if you think you can be more attractive, since everyone here thinks that is the most important thing, go for it and try again, but if you really think you can not be more attractive, then, if the mental strain of being single is too much, you need to date someone else... though it is no secret that men (and women) choose their partners also because they dont want to be seen with someone society considers to be ugly/fat/poor/egg/whatever, even though they personally wouldnt even mind...

 

[Feelsbadman]

that might be true for most...
but i also still argue that everyone is able to find a partner... as i said before, so it is a choice somehow...

if it is that much of a strain to be single, then why do people refuse to date the people that would date them? cant be that bad, then...

if you think you can be more attractive, since everyone here thinks that is the most important thing, go for it and try again, but if you really think you can not be more attractive, then, if the mental strain of being single is too much, you need to date someone else... though it is no secret that men (and women) choose their partners also because they dont want to be seen with someone society considers to be ugly/fat/poor/egg/whatever, even though they personally wouldnt even mind...

i don't even get what ur saying

 

[Capone]

I don't have the genetics to live a bachelor/single life that stuff only works if you're a tall and handsome.

I was fortunate to have a girlfriend for a short period (half a year) a few years ago. It was a wonderful experience. I loved her a lot, but she was missing a few screws in her head. Despite being balding, short and ugly.. I knew she would of been major trouble long term. I'm over her now I only miss the sex sometimes. She is someone else's problem now.

Despite working out daily. Being a low body fat. Dressing nicely. I only match with extremely fat women and transvestites on dating apps.

I get 0 attention from females in real life.

When I go to a shopping mall or anywhere and interact with a female they never smile back and just look away.

I've accepted this was the hand I was dealt. I don't seem to care about chasing women anymore. However - I do feel that there is a negative side to this. Being with women and being intimate is part of life. When I had a girlfriend or was getting laid i actually felt happier and more motivated. Like a part of me was fulfilled and it meant i could actually focus harder on other things.

But what can you do? I guess there's people dying of cancer and born deaf and blind. Need to be thankful. But i just have to accpt it now

“Fat women and Transvestites”