I Accidentally Found Out My Brother Is Gay And Dont Know What To Do (he Doesnt Know I Know)

g.i joey

Senior Member
Reaction score
1,944
My brother made it clear that he doesn't give a shot about lgbtq and I'm pretty sure he doesnt plan to take part in anything surrounding it on either supporting side
 

DoctorHouse

Senior Member
Reaction score
5,725
Just saying do some research on ex-gays or former LGBTQ. I knew i would be attacked here, truth never makes you popular at the cocktail party.
You must save your brother from a life of hardship
I got news for you, just living in this present world and time with so much hate is a hardship for all us straight or gay. His brother is going to surround himself with people who are gay just so his hardship can be blunted somewhat. That is why I tend to avoid toxic people and try to surround myself with people who are positive and want to enhance themselves. Life is full of hardships but you can accommodate your life so you can adjust to them. This forum is dedicated to one of the biggest hardships that people face: Hair loss.
 

g.i joey

Senior Member
Reaction score
1,944
I never cared about giving you advice, merely exposing your bullshit.

What's my bullshit? You just have a bias towards me cause you think that I'm better looking than you therefore I must be an insensitive piece of sh*t? Is that what it is? Cause it looks like that
 

OldnBald

Experienced Member
My Regimen
Reaction score
545
Open your eyes my friend. This battle is for real:

First of all, he's wearing a rug, a sin in itself. Haha. Second, on a more serious note, this is archaic, at best, and I would strongly consider a reevaluation of stance on this. But that's just my opinion, you can do what you'd like.
 

g.i joey

Senior Member
Reaction score
1,944
You probably don't realize this but your brother may be struggling with the same issue you are right now. He needs to decide if he needs to come clean too or actually come out to you. I am sure he knows you saw the pop up notification but he does not know how to handle this with you. If you want to avoid putting both of you through some awkwardness and give both of you some peace of mind over this, you should just tell him what you saw and ask him if there is something he wants to tell you. I would not involve your mom just yet. I can tell you that your brother is lucky that you are respectful enough to do what you did for him because my brother would never do such a thing.


You're right man, I shouldn't be the one to sneak behind his back and let her know, I love my brother, we were very close when I was a kid but kind of had completely different lifestyles when I went to highschool and since then we were never as close. I'm definitely gonna bring it up with him when it feels like a reasonable time to, I just hope he doesn't reject the opening for the conversation and make it awkward for himself, I want him to know it's ok for him to, but I admit I think I don't SEEM like someone who he would feel comfortable talking to about it.
 

DoctorHouse

Senior Member
Reaction score
5,725
You're right man, I shouldn't be the one to sneak behind his back and let her know, I love my brother, we were very close when I was a kid but kind of had completely different lifestyles when I went to highschool and since then we were never as close. I'm definitely gonna bring it up with him when it feels like a reasonable time to, I just hope he doesn't reject the opening for the conversation and make it awkward for himself, I want him to know it's ok for him to, but I admit I think I don't SEEM like someone who he would feel comfortable talking to about it.
You might get lucky and he brings it up to you first but I would not let this wait too long.
 

g.i joey

Senior Member
Reaction score
1,944
No, because you're hypocritical, shallow and entitled. That's it.

And you deduce that based on me telling you the gym may be good for your self esteem and overall well being lol.

Because we haven't really had any other conversation and I never plan to have one with such a bitter self absorbed victim, you're always the victim. No matter what was said, you're uglier so your the victim, your gross man.
 

Stanx22

Banned
My Regimen
Reaction score
2,776
Just leave him alone. Everyone is responsible for their actions and their personal life.
 

Marky

Senior Member
My Regimen
Reaction score
748
Homosexuality is a natural variance in behavior. It even exists in the animal kingdom.
Its a disorder. Animals eat their young, have incest and many other things not healthy - pretty soon they'll be saying beastiality and pedoism is normal cause someone was "born" with it.
 

Afro_Vacancy

Senior Member
My Regimen
Reaction score
11,939
Its a disorder. Animals eat their young, have incest and many other things not healthy - pretty soon they'll be saying beastiality and pedoism is normal cause someone was "born" with it.

Cannibalism, beastiality, and pedophilia are completely different. They may also be normal in nature (in the statistical meaning of normal), but within society we treat them as morally abhorrent due to the inescapable harm they cause. The same is not true of homosexuality, which does not cause inescapable harm. Adults can give consent which is the principal difference. it can lead to pair bonding between consenting adults and strengthen communities.
 

CaptainForehead

Senior Member
Reaction score
4,302
Cannibalism, beastiality, and pedophilia are completely different. They may also be normal in nature (in the statistical meaning of normal), but within society we treat them as morally abhorrent due to the inescapable harm they cause.

What harm does sheep boning do? Compared to animal farming lets say.
 

rclark

Banned
My Regimen
Reaction score
1,773
@g.i joey


A family member in my own family is gay.

Your mother probably already knows it. Chances are if your sister does, she is aware, she just doesn't
what to put pressure on your brother (unlike your sister).

If you say something, your mom might see you as a "trouble maker", even though that is clearly
not the case.

I've broken connections or have been very rude with second cousins once removed,
and even one time close friends who tried to "enroll" him into conversion therapy.

Even when we have good intentions, we cannot change people's feelings, or ignorance for that
matter on any subject. No matter if we were close to that person at one time, it is what it is, unfortunately
what are relationships are at the present state that really impact something.
 

folfoxorack

Banned
My Regimen
Reaction score
97
It's just a phase, don't worry. :p

If you don't live in a muslim or african country I think it's ok for him, he can freely live his sexuality ... and it's his sexuality, not yours. Not your business, no need to talk about that.

And maybe later he will come out :

But first the cure ... for baldness of course.
 

Marky

Senior Member
My Regimen
Reaction score
748
Cannibalism, beastiality, and pedophilia are completely different. They may also be normal in nature (in the statistical meaning of normal), but within society we treat them as morally abhorrent due to the inescapable harm they cause. The same is not true of homosexuality, which does not cause inescapable harm. Adults can give consent which is the principal difference. it can lead to pair bonding between consenting adults and strengthen communities.
Sodomy leads to leaky butt holes and premature diaper wearing, thats not harmful or unhealthy?
 
Top