I Had An Epiphany. Confidence Does Matter, A Lot!

[SmoothSailing]

Yeah, women's "problems".

Yeah when I hear this stuff I can't help but think it trivial. Like when BH was complaining, it just pales in comparison of being a virgin incel male. It's laughable to be honest.

 

[samantha3333]

Who's BH

 

[JohnsonDDG]

Exercise, nutrition and good sleep is my best advice.

You just have to force yourself sometimes.



Yeah I know. I've slept with a 3 and a few 4's before. I'm about a 6.

Back when I had bad social anxiety and very little experience I'd take what I could get so long at they weren't huge.

The biggest chad I know (easily a 9, he's literally slept with 300+ girls) has slept with 5's maybe even a few 4's.

The truth is, nearly every sexually active man has slept with some less than ideal women.

Although 3 is too low for me.

Is it wrong that I want a picture - just to confirm 3 status

 

[SmoothSailing]

The truth is, nearly every sexually active man has slept with some less than ideal women.

Although 3 is too low for me.

Is it wrong that I want a picture - just to confirm 3 status

Wouldn't have a picture and don't like posting personal stuff, just a random tinder girl years ago. She was like the 3 in the white top in this photo. She was sl*t and had fucked many guys as good looking or even better looking than me.

 

[samantha3333]

Wouldn't have a picture and don't like posting personal stuff, just a random tinder girl years ago. She was like the 3 in the white top in this photo. She was sl*t and had fucked many guys as good looking or even better looking than me.

Omg this is so mean .. and .. funny .. I feel bad.

 

[JohnsonDDG]

Wouldn't have a picture and don't like posting personal stuff, just a random tinder girl years ago. She was like the 3 in the white top in this photo. She was sl*t and had fucked many guys as good looking or even better looking than me.

Furthest right and furthest left are 5s.

The '3' is a 4.

Furthest left needs significant weight loss??? She needs to lose 20lbs to be ideal.

Overly harsh ranking.

 

[pjhair]

I just can't do "letting the guy know I'm into him". I would be so nervous I would not look at him or talk to him at all.
I will try exercising more.

If you want a guy to approach you, just don't immediately look away when he looks at you and just smile a little. When a girl immediately looks away, I don't approach them. When you smile at guys, if they are not shy themselves and are into you, they will approach you. Just remember that you are in a club with a lot of hot women, if you show any attitude, guys will just ditch you and go for other women.

Gosh, just talking about it makes me want to go to a club. Clubs are addictive, and not because of alcohol.

 

[Roberto_72]

I agree that most men are very simple.
Myself included.
If a woman smiles at you and you are available, you will talk to her.
If a woman you find cute does not look at you, does not smile, you will steer away.
@samantha3333 : your friend smiles at boys. You probably do not. This is all the difference.

 

[SmoothSailing]

Furthest right and furthest left are 5s.

The '3' is a 4.

Furthest left needs significant weight loss??? She needs to lose 20lbs to be ideal.

Overly harsh ranking.

I'm bad at rating so yeah maybe she was a 4. Furthest to the right is not a 5. She's the worst of the lot. The one on the left could probably be a 7 but currently she'd be a 4 because of her weight.I think the 5 in the blue dress is higher than that though.

 

[sunchyme1]

This. No offense to maybe 75% of the posters on this forum, but most of the so called 'problems' I read about on here are laughable. @samantha3333 Baldhurts was a bald by choice, 6"2 7/10 who was trolling this forum a couple weeks back, trying to claim that he was an incel and doomed to be a virgin for life. Turned out he'd actually banged multiple 6's and 7's, earned a decent salary (before he got laid off) and prior to a (very) recent breakup had also been enjoying a Chad-esque social life. He's on a short term ban, I believe. He was literally full of sh*t.

lol he was a f*****g nutter wasnt he

obviously a good looking dude etc etc

but from what i read it seemed he did actually think he was an incel. and was a legit nw5.

those endless shirtless pics were just lol tho

 

[pjhair]

I'm in a grad program that is female dominated (I'm 1 out of 2 times, the other 23 people are female). I always overhear the girls that are like 5s at best talking about guys they matched with on Tinder. Sometimes I'll hear "I added him on Facebook" and I'll look over my shoulder to see some jacked, Norwood 0, textbook looking Chad Thundercock. I hear them talk as if they actually have a chance with the guy.

I was at a gathering last night and I unfortunately ran into my oneitis (girl I've hooked up with multiple times but wants nothing to do with me relationship wise). She has this nice way about her where she likes to brag to me about the guys she has been talking to; even showing me pictures of these textbook good looking guys from Tinder. To make a long story short I ended up getting blackout drunk.

Many women mistake horni-ness of men towards them as real attraction/romantic feeling. They don't realize that just because a man is giving them attention or wants to f*** them, it doesn't mean he will date them or sees them as potential partner. Men view many women as c*m dumpsters and nothing more. If a man is horny enough and there is no women at hand, he will even f*** a pillow or his own hand. It doesn't mean he is attracted to his own hand or the pillow. I have fucked women I will never date. I have fingered women I will never kiss.

 

[Dante92]

Men view many women as c*m dumpsters and nothing more.

Wait, you mean there's another way to see them?

 

[pjhair]

Wait, you mean there's another way to see them?

Yes, when you are genuinely attracted to them or in love with them. But that's a rarity. In the past 3-4 years, I have probably seen hundreds of women I wanted to f***. But only three women I was genuinely attracted to and had feelings for them.

 

[hairblues]

So a few nights ago me and my friends had a night out. One of my close girl friends, I would say she's a 6.5-7. She could be more attractive if she lost some weight. She's the typical talkative and confident girl. Has high standards and knows what she wants. She is absolutely a natural at flirting with guys especially when drunk, and she's good at it! When I asked her how she could feel so good about herself, she just said I'm just a positive person.
So yeah, we went out. She flirted with countless of hot guys. Like on a scale of 8-9. Whereas me just being the usual nervous and awkward type. What do I do when guys give me attentions? I look away. She is the type of girls who can get to sleep with 9s just because she's confident as f***. And this is the girl who once said to me "Samantha, if anything, you have a better chance at getting hot guys than I do". But I don't. I have no confidence. I tried and covered up my problems with hair fibre as much as I can. In my room, I will look myself in the mirror posing and think damn this girl's got it. But in reality, I have no confidence.

I guess what I'm trying to say it, confidence isn't everything. But lack of confidence is pretty much the end even for girls. Im pretty much insecure just about everything. Not entirely sure if it's due to my previous abusive relationship or hair loss. I can't buy drugs or wigs to cure or hide my lack of confidence. So I haven't dated for a very very long time. From now on I'm trying to be more out there and talk to people. But I'm not sure how far I can get.

what i think it is perhaps in social settings like a club or a bar its not that she is more confident than you that they care about its that she is more approachable than you and they are less likely to get rejected from their view point.

No man wants to walk up to a woman and be rejected I mean some dont give a sh*t because they just go up to everyone like fishing--but i dont think most men want to be rejected it hurts...so if your friend is dancing smiling and being inviting with her body language and eye contact--she is more of a sure thing than maybe you are if you are more shy or reserved.

 

[samantha3333]

This. No offense to maybe 75% of the posters on this forum, but most of the so called 'problems' I read about on here are laughable. @samantha3333 Baldhurts was a bald by choice, 6"2 7/10 who was trolling this forum a couple weeks back, trying to claim that he was an incel and doomed to be a virgin for life. Turned out he'd actually banged multiple 6's and 7's, earned a decent salary (before he got laid off) and prior to a (very) recent breakup had also been enjoying a Chad-esque social life. He's on a short term ban, I believe. He was literally full of sh*t.

Sounds like I missed out on loads lol! Your guys are actually f*****g hilarious. Wish I had more friends like people on this forum, bald or not.

 

[samantha3333]

what i think it is perhaps in social settings like a club or a bar its not that she is more confident than you that they care about its that she is more approachable than you and they are less likely to get rejected from their view point.

No man wants to walk up to a woman and be rejected I mean some dont give a sh*t because they just go up to everyone like fishing--but i dont think most men want to be rejected it hurts...so if your friend is dancing smiling and being inviting with her body language and eye contact--she is more of a sure thing than maybe you are if you are more shy or reserved.

I Never meet guys at clubs and bars. Just not me. Health and safety come first.

I do agree with you tho. It just got me thinking how socially insecure I am.

 

[hairblues]

I Never meet guys at clubs and bars. Just not me.

I do agree with you tho. It just got me thinking how socially insecure I am.

The eye contact with a stranger is a signal to a guy he can approach

What i think is going on is you are 'unapproachable' looking which can be intimidating because men will think well if i approach her she will most likely reject me..but her friend is smiling at me and making eye contact so i have an automatic green light.

I get it when i was in early 20s my friends did an intervention with me on this that i am 'snooty' looking when out. Meanwhile i was really just shy.

 

[Afro_Vacancy]

Yes, when you are genuinely attracted to them or in love with them. But that's a rarity. In the past 3-4 years, I have probably seen hundreds of women I wanted to f***. But only three women I was genuinely attracted to and had feelings for them.

One woman a year, not bad.

 

[Afro_Vacancy]

Sounds like I missed out on loads lol! Your guys are actually f*****g hilarious. Wish I had more friends like people on this forum, bald or not.

Some of us wouldn't mind a 4th woman poster on here.

I'm particularly bored myself, I'm stuck in pain and in bed due to a surgery. I'm begging for entertainment

 

[pjhair]

One woman a year, not bad.

One of them was my ex-wife. I deeply cared about her even after our divorce. I probably still do. The other two, nothing really came out of it. I think I was too mentally fucked up due to my divorce and was not a good place to have a good relationship. But both were amazing women for sure and I wish things were different.