If it's not my hair loss and looks, why do women reject me??

[theangryone]

As I have stated before, before my hair loss was very noticeable, I was able to get women.

But when I became NW3, my ability to get women was GONE and even ugly fatties rejected me.

I know it's not my "confidence" because when I first noticed I was balding pretty badly I shrugged it off. It was not until a long time of getting rejected by even the ugly fat women that I lost my confidence in my ability to get women. In other words, the rejections came FIRST, the loss of confidence second.

I know it's not my personality or social skills. Since my hair loss became severe, I have become more interesting, have lived in two other countries besides my own, have gotten out more, and have become more social.

I know it's not my financial status. Back when I was getting women and had hair, I was living with my parents and was just a student. Now I have a job and my own place but can't get women.

So in other words, I IMPROVED myself in terms of personality, social skills, financial status, etc. since going bald. So if those things are the most important things, I should be doing BETTER women women. Instead, I am unable to get ANY women. So that theory obviously makes no sense.

 

[Buzzlightyear]

sick man new thread with the exact same topic as your other ?

 

[Captain Obvious]

I've thought about this, and I've looked at the world around me, and I've come to the conclusion that some guys just don't have 'it'. It's a fact of human and animal nature that some men just don't attract women. It's a harsh reality face that you may be in that category, but someone has to be and it's probably you.

 

[Beingbaldsucks]

Well truth hurts but look is all, some bald guys look better then the others

 

[Thom]

Or you're attracted to girls that you're not really compatible with. A lot of us are.


Start examining the "type" you go for and try dating someone outside of your comfort zone. Just a thought.

 

[Cassin]

Does your personality or attitude need work?

 

[theangryone]

Or you're attracted to girls that you're not really compatible with. A lot of us are.


Start examining the "type" you go for and try dating someone outside of your comfort zone. Just a thought.

There is no "type" of women I go for really. They're all over the map. I've approached women who are thin to morbidly obese. Women who are in their early 20s to women in their mid 40s. Women who are poor to middle class. Women who are high school drop outs to well educated women. Ugly women to hot women. And everywhere in between.

The only common factor when it comes to the women I have approached and been rejected by, is the fact that they have vaginas.

 

[seb]

Youre being too tame,thats why you aint got game.

 

[Thom]

I don't mean body type, I mean type in personality. I've always wanted the quieter type of girls but am too nervous to continue a conversation with them because you have to dig a bit. So I usually end up with louder, more extroverted types.

 

[seb]

If/when you fall in love then all that "game" and "type" nonsense ceases too matter.

 

[Thom]

You have to be loved back or else it does matter.

 

[Beingbaldsucks]

Because IT IS you hair and your look, just like you will reject ugly girls ( you won't do it cuz you desspread)

 

[uncomfortable man]

I follow your logic angry. Process of deduction, leading to it's inevitable answer. It sounds like you must really not suit the bald look (I mean horrifying and there are a few that are) because if you really have talked to as many women as you make it sound like then I am surprised not a single one bit.

 

[Primo]

I follow your logic angry. Process of deduction, leading to it's inevitable answer. It sounds like you must really not suit the bald look (I mean horrifying and there are a few that are) because if you really have talked to as many women as you make it sound like then I am surprised not a single one bit.

But UM, he's not even bald, he's one of those NW3s that you regularly sneer at, "how does he know what it feels like to be bald?" etc etc

Angry, it sounds like you've tried hard and your having some problems with the NW3 look.

I don't want to sound patronising but do you dress smart when you go out? Because obviously good, sharp clothes(i,e, fitted shirt, smart trousers, good shoes) make a big difference for us in these situations and unfortunately once you get into NW3+ territory, no girl is going to take you seriously if you're still rocking very casual teenage/early20s clothing (not saying you are).

Also do you smoke by any chance? :woot: Cos as a social smoker myself I know that the majority of girls find it repulsive and can smell it a mile off uke:

 

[seb]

I follow your logic angry. Process of deduction, leading to it's inevitable answer. It sounds like you must really not suit the bald look (I mean horrifying and there are a few that are) because if you really have talked to as many women as you make it sound like then I am surprised not a single one bit.

But UM, he's not even bald, he's one of those NW3s that you regularly sneer at, "how does he know what it feels like to be bald?" etc etc

Angry, it sounds like you've tried hard and your having some problems with the NW3 look.

I don't want to sound patronising but do you dress smart when you go out? Because obviously good, sharp clothes(i,e, fitted shirt, smart trousers, good shoes) make a big difference for us in these situations and unfortunately once you get into NW3+ territory, no girl is going to take you seriously if you're still rocking very casual teenage/early20s clothing (not saying you are).

Also do you smoke by any chance? :woot: Cos as a social smoker myself I know that the majority of girls find it repulsive and can smell it a mile off uke:

In my of youre posts,I see you mention other ways of spousing oneself up ie clothes,teeth etc.I can see youre point,but I think you are clutching if you believe all of this will detract from the fact when bald(you know,fully) it looks horrendous,and no amount of addressing minor issues will make a big difference.

 

[slipy]

I don't want to sound patronising but do you dress smart when you go out? Because obviously good, sharp clothes(i,e, fitted shirt, smart trousers, good shoes) make a big difference for us in these situations and unfortunately once you get into NW3+ territory, no girl is going to take you seriously if you're still rocking very casual teenage/early20s clothing (not saying you are).

if compromising yourself over some random chicks is a choice, then i'd rather pick no. there's no way im going change my attire, im already loosing half of my identity and staying true to myself is important to me.

the op might have different priorities though.

 

[Primo]

I don't want to sound patronising but do you dress smart when you go out? Because obviously good, sharp clothes(i,e, fitted shirt, smart trousers, good shoes) make a big difference for us in these situations and unfortunately once you get into NW3+ territory, no girl is going to take you seriously if you're still rocking very casual teenage/early20s clothing (not saying you are).

if compromising yourself over some random chicks is a choice, then i'd rather pick no. there's no way im going change my attire, im already loosing half of my identity and staying true to myself is important to me.

the op might have different priorities though.

It's not compromising yourself, it's simply adopting smart, adult-looking clothes for social occasions, what you like to wear at home or with your buddies is entirely up to you, everyone has their own style preferences, but when meeting strangers for the first time it's undeniably important to look well presented.

Hollywood movie stars and very good looking NW1 guys can maybe get away with wearing casual, scruffy clothes all the time into their late 20s/early30s but the rest of us simply can't.

If we want to be taken seriously by society in general we need to dress in a mature, adult way which projects the image of a responsible, high-status male, rather than a sad balding guy, who dresses and acts like he's still 18.

You think your balding head is the only feature women will judge you on at first impression??

Think again! Dress sense is extremely important as no woman wants to be seen in public with some scruffy guy who can't dress himself properly, it looks bad on them.

 

[slipy]

You think your balding head is the only feature women will judge you on at first impression??

Think again! Dress sense is extremely important as no woman wants to be seen in public with some scruffy guy who can't dress himself properly, it looks bad on them.

i have so many other flaws they wouldn't approve of, therefore i can't be bothered to care.

also im resentful of people with judgemental attitudes, whether male or female doesn't matter, they can f*** off to be precise. if anything i take pleasure in annoying them.

 

[Man in Space]

How can you have a problem with judgemental people, we are all forming judgements 24/7, our whole conception of self is by defining ourself in opposition and comparison to others. To say you have a problem with 'judgemental' people is a judgement in itself.

Its not people who judge, everyone does, its the kind of judgements they make. Some people are just ignorant and make bad judgements, i tend not to get down by them or stoop to their level, they just get filed under irrellevent, life is too short to take on all the jerks, thats a fight you cant win!

 

[seb]

How can you have a problem with judgemental people, we are all forming judgements 24/7, our whole conception of self is by defining ourself in opposition and comparison to others. To say you have a problem with 'judgemental' people is a judgement in itself.

Its not people who judge, everyone does, its the kind of judgements they make. Some people are just ignorant and make bad judgements, i tend not to get down by them or stoop to their level, they just get filed under irrellevent, life is too short to take on all the jerks, thats a fight you cant win!

Youre tougher than me.