Just be confident!

[DoctorHouse]

Fred, "just do it" does not just apply to dating. You have already applied the concept yourself when you got your hair transplant. You apply the concept every day even if you don't think about it. If not, you would not be where you are today.

 

[Swoop]

What do you guys think about Richie the fruitbat though? He says he got more attention from women when he shaved his head. Confidence is all that matters apparently?!

[video=youtube;sDEz9j5Lyd4]https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=sDEz9j5Lyd4[/video]

 

[blackg]

More confidence crap!!! Question: What do girls call a confident ugly dude?? Answer: Deluded.

Question: What do girls call a confident good looking guy?
Answer: Hot!

 

[DannyBoyy]

What do girls call a confident bald guy? answer = Danny...no?...i see myself out.

 

[Dench57]

So the question is: is he having sex with women with his freshly shaven balloon head? No? Then, get the hell out of here with your stupid cheap YouTube vlogs!

You do realise you just posted a YouTube video to further your argument a few posts previously.

 

[Dench57]

You seemed to get angry when someone posted a "stupid, cheap" YouTube video to further their argument when you just did exactly the same thing. What makes one persons "vlog" more valid than the other?

 

[TransientHair]

Whenever someone says that all you need is confidence I ask myself if I would date a girl that I'm not attracted to that is confident. The answer is always no. I imagine that the same is true for women, too.

 

[hellouser]

Here's an article that lists 25+ unattractive male celebrities;

http://www.boxofficescoop.com/ten-successful-actors-who-arent-very-attractive

Not one person in the comments section mentions the word 'confidence'.

 

[kmm179]

I think what Dannyboy was trying to say he is comfortable with who he is, which could give him confidence in himself. Most reason people lack confidence I think is because they arent comfortable who they are or with the situation. Which with hairloss its hard to be comfortable with this new different looking self, but if Danny feels that way more power to him.

I also think there is some truth to the confidence thing, but it depends on age an maturity. Like I think most women they ask these types of questions too are in there 30s looking to settle down so theyve experienced it all. Cocky good looking, insecure goodlooking guys, goodlooking psychos, badlooking creeps. So I think confidence is a good balance they are looking for between cocky and insecure which seems to be pretty rare. Regardless I think there needs to be some type of physical attraction. There are rare occasions when women do fall for guys for personality like humor which in rare occasions can lead to attraction different than physical.

 

[DannyBoyy]

I think what Dannyboy was trying to say he is comfortable with who he is, which could give him confidence in himself. Most reason people lack confidence I think is because they arent comfortable who they are or with the situation. Which with hairloss its hard to be comfortable with this new different looking self, but if Danny feels that way more power to him.

Pretty much this, i mean dont get me wrong i still have bad days, feel down over whatever im only human we all need to vent and what have you, but the whole balding thing is a thing in the past now and all im trying to say without sounding like a boasting idiot, that things can get better, life can become living over time, its not the end.

 

[mpbsux20]

Here's an article that lists 25+ unattractive male celebrities;

http://www.boxofficescoop.com/ten-successful-actors-who-arent-very-attractive

Not one person in the comments section mentions the word 'confidence'.

I get your point but the list is pretty crappy. A lot of people consider Christopher Walken, Sean Penn, Jack Nicholson, Adrien Brody, and Mickey Rourke to be very attractive (at least in their prime). Also black women would have gone crazy over a guy like Samuel L Jackson even if he wasn't rich and famous like he is.

 

[Rudiger]

Although they didn't literally say the word "confident", I'd say the very top comment practically implies this:

A lot of women think Adrian Brody is adorable. Personally myself, I wouldn't kick Paul Giamatti out of bed because his talent & personality make him quite attractive. Women usually aren't as hung up on looks as men.

I mean if you're going to disagree then fair enough but to me it's pretty obvious that confidence is a part of this, anyone displaying a likeable personality or their own talents exhibits a certain confidence, and for someone like Giamatti to get 190 upvotes for being attractive I'd say it's pretty impressive and can make a difference (now queue the guys on here insisting 185 of those votes were gay guys and slybaldguys).

Anyway I haven't really read any of this thread, are people really saying that confidence makes no difference whatsoever? OK let's take Giamatti for example, without the fame and fortune, is he going to screw any model types regularly based on his personality? Hell no. But with a prominent, confident personality, could he find a possibly cute or reasonably attractive woman to form a real relationship with? We've all seen it happen.

I just think it's totally self-defeatist to keep going on about this CONFIDENCE IS BULL**** argument, because the people spreading it have just given up on ever finding someone and almost enjoy the idea of beating themselves up for being forever lonely.

 

[Norwood One]

The whole "just be confident" mantra is there to give hope to some who would otherwise become deranged with anger and frustration. Women especially are afraid of confrontation and are socially trained to say politically correct things. Imagine if you had some sort of facial disfigurement and no woman would give you the time of day.. It's kinda like the Casino's slot machines where they show you 2 numbers "you almost had it there!"

How do you deal with that situation. You can either
1.) Tell him the truth, that he is too ugly and he wont find what he's expecting, focus on other aspects of life, which can be depressing for the person.
2.) Tell him to "be confident" and dangle a carrot

I personally would go with #1 because once you come in terms with the truth, your time is better spent focusing on things other than females.

 

[DannyBoyy]

You guys still looking into it to much, when i for a example say im confident, this dont mean i thiink im some sex god and deluded myself into thinking i have some chance with every woman i see, or whatever, i was nothing special with hair, but im sure you can admit feeling and being confident is better then doing which i will admit i have done in the past, is feel sorry for myself and go "why me" sort of speak. This obviously dont mean you can switch into being this confident guy straight away, you have to work on it, but it can happen if you want to, i cant make you obviously its your life, (im on about being confident being bald by the way).

 

[hellouser]

You guys still looking into to much, when i for a example say im confident, this dont mean i thiink im some sex god and deluded myself into thinking i have some chance with every woman i see, or whatever, but im sure you can admit feeling and confident is better then doing which i will admit i have done in the past, is feel sorry for myself and go "why me" sort of speak. This obviously dont mean you can switch into being this confident guy, you have to work on it, but it can happen (im on about being confident being bald by the way).

Content is what you've been trying to say this whole time. You're not actually confident.

 

[DannyBoyy]

Content is what you've been trying to say this whole time. You're not actually confident.

How am i not confident? how do you know me better then myself? how you know im not confident in my abilties etc?

 

[DannyBoyy]

If you are confident in your abilities to remain incel, then yes, you are confident.

Well there you go, told you i was confident ; )

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I think what Dannyboy was trying to say he is comfortable with who he is, which could give him confidence in himself. Most reason people lack confidence I think is because they arent comfortable who they are or with the situation. Which with hairloss its hard to be comfortable with this new different looking self, but if Danny feels that way more power to him.

This guy gets it Hellouser.

 

[Saurabhaj]

If you dont have confidence,you will not have girls i understand but you will also not have money to be alive.

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This guy will look better if he become obese...

 

[Agustin Araujo]

No!

Hair loss is disgusting and we suffer from it! How are we supposed to be confident with something that is so ugly?

 

[CaptainForehead]

On ugliness and it's crushing effect on motivation and life path: I came across this actor/comedian/chef:

I wonder if has received any romantic attention from the ladies. On the TV show he is known for, he was portrayed as a moronic, drunk, drug-addled loser.